Is not sending thank you notes a thing?

Yeah, I know how you feel... we've attended and given gifts at 4 different friends' weddings without any acknowledgement of the gift, let alone a thank you card.

The weird thing is that the latest couple to get married (and who didn't give us a thank you card), DID give us a thank you card for the gifts we gave them when their baby was born... I wasn't expecting that and was pleasantly surprised!

Yes, it is a thing. The last wedding gift I sent I got ZERO acknowledgement about..not even a verbal thanks. I try to believe that perhaps the mail just lost the card. That happens, right?

I send physical thank you cards for all gifts--I've already sent one out for a wedding gift we received. What's so damn hard about sticking a 49 cent stamp on a cheap card that you write thanks in?

I disagree. Some people are rude, some people have ALWAYS been rude.

I'm in my 30s and I send a thank you card the minute I get a gift. It's what you do. Idk, people are getting more lazy but I'd hate for it to be a "thing."

It's a thing but still unacceptable. I plan to write thank you notes for both my shower and wedding. Already bought the cards actually.

It's definitely a thing but I know how much I value receiving thank you's so I made sure my thank you cards were not only prompt but heartfelt. I actually received thank you's at Easter for such nice thank you's. That made me feel good to know they valued them. I think it's definitely rude not to show appreciation after life events like weddings, baby showers, etc.

I never received thank you cards for baby showers and honestly i wasn't expecting them, but a wedding though? C'mon now, you have to. I went to a couple weddings where they didn't send thank you cards, its inconsiderate in my opinion

I have one friend who has sent a thank you card within one week of whatever the occasion was. All of my other friends are rude and it either comes super late or not at all.

Am I the only one that wants to send a thank you for the thank you? I was just thinking about the few STDs and invitations the post office lost and hopefully not any of my shower thank you cards were lost....

Some ppl are just used to others giving and doing things for them. I fortunately have received thank you cards. But the acknowledgement goes a long way. Stick to it, send them Thank you cards

I hate this. Thank you cards go a long way in my book and I think it's extremely rude to not send them. I sent all of my thank-you's for my shower out within a week. My FSIL sent out baby shower thank you's within a week..It's really not that difficult but shows you're not an inconsiderate jerk.

It is a thing. A rude thing. I don't usually send them for birthdays and Christmas Hanukkah, but I cal land thank the person. But for weddings ect? Thank you cards are a MUST!

I've written all but one of the thank you cards so far. I made FH sit down and do a single one last night. After he looked at me and is like we have to do this for everything? Yes. Yes we do. And YOU'RE helping.

Not sending thank you notes, and the pre printed "Thanks for your gift and coming to our wedding! Now look at this professional picture of us standing out in the gentle snowfall!" a year later.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who has felt compelled to send a thank you note in response to a thank you note received. LOL Like thank you for not being rude and acknowledging that I took time and money to do something for you. My gift was X amount of dollars. A note and stamp are $1.

So while we are on the subject, what do you all think is an appropriate time frame for sending notes out post-wedding? I know it can be madness. I intend to send ours out around the same time we send our Christmas cards since our wedding is around the same time of year.

It is a thing. I was raised to ALWAYS write thank yous immediately! I was even going to write thank yous for the girls That came to my Bach party! People just have zero manners these days lol.

Legalista - to keep it simple and not maddening, send notes within a week of receiving a gift. Have a box of cards handy and just DO IT. A note literally takes 1-2 minutes to write out.

I did this and it saved me sanity. Of course after the wedding I did a LOT of writing, but I just popped a movie in, sat down, and got them done.

If you are leaving RIGHT AWAY on a HM of course there is going to be a lag, but just do it as gifts are received. Much easier and very appreciated by the sender of the gift.

It's a rude thing, but does seem to be a trend in some circles based on posts here unfortunately.

Only rude people don't send thank you notes. Re-hash. It's a thing: for rude people.

This is my opinion, if I send you a gift and I don't get a thank you then you aren't going to be getting a thank you next time around. For example if I attend a wedding, send a gift, and don't get a thank you, then if in a couple years I get an invite to their baby shower I either won't go or they will get a much smaller gift. Honestly, it just shows to me that they didn't appreciate the first gift so why should I spend my money to get them another one?

I could care less about a baby shower, but I thought they were pretty standard for weddings. Ours were so late because the company spelled my name wrong TWICE, but I made sure they were sent even though they were behind.

Is anyone else SUPER paranoid they forgot to send a thank you note to SOMEONE?

I am. I feel wrong about it, but I just don't know. I STILL THINK ABOUT IT.

Is anyone else SUPER paranoid they forgot to send a thank you note to SOMEONE?

I am. I feel wrong about it, but I just don't know. I STILL THINK ABOUT IT.