Is not sending thank you notes a thing?

Its sad that this has become "a thing" . What has this world come to?

People throw parties and attach "gift registries" even "cash registries or "college fund registries" to invitations, expecting their guests to have a check or a gift in hand when they walk through the door just to celebrate a milestone with them, AND they can't even send a damn card?!!!

Heck, I'd be happy with a free e-card. My email is getting filled with so many newsletters and stuff, I would love to see an actual "card" in there. And I'd be even more happy if I received a "real card" in the actual mail.

Bottom line: You have ANY kind of party and receive anything--even if its just your friends picking up the tab on your birthday--you thank them with some kind of card.

My mom made me send thank you cards for everything growing up, so hearing this makes me cringe. People are so rude. I didn't get thank you cards for the last 2 weddings that I attended.

I give out thank you cards randomly for people I appreciate, I can't imagine not thanking people for coming to our wedding.

Just because others are rude doesn't mean I'll sink to that level.

It is rude when you consider that people took time to celebrate with you, probably purchase an outfit to wear, possibly travel, hire a babysitter if they didn't bring kids, and bought a gift. Like Aurelia said, how long does it take to write a thank you note? We went to a wedding this fall and never got a thank you from them. I thought it very strange...

Some people are also misinformed and believe they have a whole year after the wedding to send them.

We went to a wedding and received the thank you note TWO YEARS later. We were so confused lol I feel like people just put it off. I am making a commitment to do it asap after the honeymoon. If I'm still at the same job, I tend to have a lot of downtime and will just take them to work!

I have never gotten a Thank you for actually anything. So sending them seems extremely odd to me. Although I do love sending letters and have a pushy bridesmaid who says it's something I HAVE to do. So I guess I will be.

I have to respond to this. I gave my "best friend", whose wedding I was in $200 between her wedding and her shower and she never sent a thank you, nor did she even do bridal party gifts.
And to top it all off, when I got married less than a year later, she didn't even bother giving me a card let alone a gift.

I’m glad to hear I am not alone. I hate to hear that it has become a “thing.” I have attended multiple weddings and baby showers in the past couple of years and only received one thank you note. These ppl are just rude, as how can they not acknowledge your gift? I will def think twice before sending another gift or maybe include a self addressed thank you note.

More than six months ago I sent a sizeable check to my expecting niece. I wanted to do this. The check was cashed quickly. I was taught that, not only do you acknowledge a gift by mailing a card, you never cash a check until you have sent the card. Her baby was born in May. I have never received a card, an email, or a phone call. Manners dictate a card. Yes. They do.

My sister told me last week that my niece is too busy with the baby to send thank you cards. However, she and her boyfriend took a cruise after I sent the check and have since flown to Australia to "rest from having the baby."

Our society has not gone to the dogs. Going to the dogs would be a good place.

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Don't forget to put a stamp on that envelope.

Miss Manners: "If they declare gratitude outdated, they must also declare generosity outdated. If a present is received in silence, you may assume it did not please the recipient and not repeat your attempt."

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So very true. I honestly think dogs have more manners. Can relate. Sent £150.00 cheque to my nephew and his fiance back in May. Now, to be fair I really don't know these people and didn't attend their 4 day lavish ceremony but thought it was the right thing to do. For me, £150 is a lot of money and so it wasn't done without some consideration. Also left them a heartfelt message which included wishing them a happy and very healthy life together. Nothing back not even an acknowledgement. Unless they are dead, dying or divorced already, there is no excuse. Selfish, shallow and spoilt, doesn't come close to describing them both.

My dad got really annoyed one year that none of his nieces or nephews ever acknowledge the Christmas gifts he sends. The following year he bought them all gratitude journals the message was received and they now at least always call or text a thank you. It boggles my mind so many people don't send thank you s anymore I send them for everything!