Is it rude to call your shower greenback?

Yeah it is kinda rude and no you arent suppose to throw your own shower.

Wow, yeah that sounds like all types of rude. I, personally would be pretty offended that she is throwing her own shower after I offered to do it. Did she knock your offer back or accept it?

Wow! yeah, that sounds rude!

I've never heard of 'greenback' but if its means give me money then yes, rude.

When I offered it was when we went dress shopping - her sister and mom are in florida so I knew they wouldn't be able to do it. She said "yea that sounds great" I said ok get me a list of who you want there. She never did that and she never brought up me doing it. I thought her FMIL was throwing it for her because she's the type to throw these types of parties and being that its the first wedding of her kids I almost assumed she would. I just read the invite (they invited people through fb too) and it says flat out "since we have everything we need for our home come help us out financially" I want to scream at her that some people maybe old fashioned and think that is out right rude. All I have to say is at least it's not my wedding. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't kind of over reacting by thinking it was rude.

@fireworks bride - yea its when you ask for cash. Like I said I know people register for honeymoons and yes they can come off as rude at least you have legit things you want the money to go towards (dinner, spa, jet skiing, etc). They are just out right asking for money !

This is a friend, right? I'll give her the benefit of the doubt that didn't think it through (because I feel nice right now.)

That said, I would get her a random gift that doesn't cost much from Bed, Bath and Beyond. I'm sure she'll end up having wedding guests that still get her physical gifts no matter what she may want.

Come to my party to watch me open envelopes of money?

We recurved cash for our wedding without asking.. But the whole point of a shower is to be"showered with gifts".. Older ladies love it because they cab watch you open the gifts...not checks.

Wow thats outright rude.. smh

Yep.

Ooh well sure, if she rolls in the money, at least that's more exciting to watch than pulling out a check, smiling and putting it back in the envelope.

Question- does the money get passed around for all to see?

@Jen, if it does, I wanna go to that shower... :::wink wink:::

@ just reenski - yes this is a friend :/ sometimes I wonder where her common sense went. When she first brought it up I offered different ways to get around getting gifts without calling it a "greenback" only register for a few things, and idk what else I suggested but I never once said "oh put on the invite we want you to help us out financially" ::sighs:: Maybe I should get her a bb&b gift card lol I told fh about this and after he rolled his eyes, he said he hopes they give us money for our wedding then.

@jen p - I guess its just going to be a huge party where they get gifts. they are putting a card box at a table. I don't even know if they are opening it.

To me it comes off as extremely gift grabby because this is something people do at their wedding. I want to ask her if she is using this to pay for her wedding but this is really none of my business, I am just thankful its not my wedding.

Ill go with you so I can blame you for the missing money (that's in my wallet) ;D

Question 2- do GUESTS get to roll in the money too? Even if I didn't take it, I would still enjoy the experience...

Oh, right, because I'm brown I'm sure... sheesh..

I would not want to roll in money until I washed it. Just sayin'.

@Leanna, a gift card is still nicer than I would be, but up to you.

Hahahha Reenski! I feel this is what that friend wants to feel like, but she may be sadly disappointed if her guests feel the same as we do! I'd get her a gift, I'm not gonna go to see them open a bunch of envelopes of cash and checks.

Sorry if I'm offending you btw, I mean it all in good fun

It just send so boring to go to someones house for some finger foods, lame games and just to drop cash in a box. At Least with those fundraiser parties people throw, people get drunk and enjoy themselves!

Omg you guys are awesome lol Idk why this bothered me so much. It's not my wedding or shower. I shouldn't care but for some reason it really rubbed me the wrong way when I got this invite, maybe cuz I'm already doing so much for them for their wedding (her hair, makeup and putting together her bouquets FOR FREE- she's buying the supplies) I was thinking "um ok how much more do you want from me"

I am also making sure tables are set up correctly - this is something I offered way in the beginning. I would of been much happier her just telling when it was, instead I get an invite that to me says "what your doing isn't enough come give us money too"

Question 3- is it rude to give dirty money? i think so. You can always find new, crisp Andrew Jacksons at the bank.

HAHAHA dirt money? of course. If your giving me money I want it clean. Idk where it's been!!!