Is it rude to call your shower greenback?

Especially if we're rolling around in it ... lets keep it classy ladies

@Jen, come on now, girl, you know it takes more than that to offend me. It takes something like, I dunno... a greenback shower.

@Leanna, give her dirty money! Don't take the time to get her those crisp Jacksons! (Which are Jacksons? I'm only familiar with Benjamins, more familiar with Washingtons and Lincolns..)

I would honestly decline the invitations or if it really was going to ruffle too many feathers if you didn't go (she is your BM afterall) then I would take along a cheap gift.

Oh, but on a real tip, it should rub you the wrong way. If you're helping her set up, get her a smaller gift card. Again, you're being nicer than me, I'd be like "I helped you set up, bish, I got better things to do with my time and you rude!"

Or something like that.

As I'm sitting here laughing FH is looking at me like I have 8 heads ... thanks ladies lol

It's rude. And why is she planning her own shower?

If I got an invite to a 'greenback shower'.....well, I'd either not go or send her a green shirt ;-)

Jackson's a twenty.. My wallet is much more familiar with Jackson than Benjamin... Would like to change that however

Rent one of these for her... lol. http://vaultmoneybooth.com/

I.....want.....now. Ok, I need advice.. What can I smother all over my body that's sticky enough to catch the bills, but not sticky enough to ruin it? Or do I just grab it and stuff it all down my bra?

@celia - I have no idea why she is throwing her own shower, especially after someone offered to throw her one!

@ Beth G - funny when the thought of rolling around in money crossed my mind I thought of getting her one of those booths lol

This is wrong on SO MANY LEVELS. I agree with Celia--you're doing a lot for her already, bring her a green t-shirt!

Personally I'd decline the invite but it's harder to do when she's in you BP...

Kind of you too to offer to throw the shower. REALLY too bad she didn't take you up on it.

I would take a gift...emily post?

I was finally able to actually show FH the invite and he said that he's not surprised. He said that they are totally double dipping and if they need help financially they shouldn't be spending money on such an elaborate wedding, that they should of just did a small back yard or even park wedding. He said that he hopes I'm not upset when he doesn't go, I am def not upset since I'll be busy helping her out. i'll probably stay til just after dinner then go home. FH said that he'll just stay home with the kids and we can say we couldn't get a babysitter.

Wow, that's really bold. I've never heard of one either. I don't think her guests will like it and she will probably end up getting some gifts. I wonder if she ran this by anyone else. I don't see how anyone would think this is okay. Maybe her guest will give her the benefit of the doubt but I would hate to be in her position right now..

I know in most groups this is completely wrong but for whatever reason in her group (outside of me) I have a gut feeling this is probably going to be ok :-/ Her family and his family other than her sister and mom are - how to put this nicely - not so classy. I can't remember if it was her fmil or a mutual friend who put the idea in her head. Again when she told me about it I tried to talk her out of naming it a greenback. I told her there are plenty of ways to ask for money without asking for it. Hope that made sense lol.

I'm with Celia & Glenda, give her a green shirt. If you're feeling especially generous give matching green T-shirts to her & groom!

@Leanne I agree with everyone else this situation is just a bit reckless lol...

@Amy I have an honest question, what did you mean by the"registry card"comment? I'm in the envelope stuffing process right now... Are the registry cards not supposed to go in with the wedding invites?

WOW! Yeah, no throwing your own shower, and no asking for cash on the invite...WOW!

This sounds awful. But you're kind of stuck supporting her, since she is your bridesmaid.

Pshaw! Money showers are all the rage. I mean c'mon, you expect people to actually have money beforehand for a wedding when there's all these friends and family members to throw money at us for it? Budgeting is for people who don't want to roll in money in front of their nearest and dearest imo. And really, who doesn't wanna roll in some Benjamins? Oh yeah, ladies I only accept Benjamins, and make sure you hand wash them before you give them to me. Even bank ones, you don't know what the people working there have been touching.

Seriously, that's so rude. Klassy with a k all the way. It's even worse, because it's several layers of rudeness like a lasagna of rudeness. Might as well just say everyone needs to chip in enough to cover the cost of their food, drinks, table decorations, and oh yeah everyone chip in for the DJ and venue. Makes me wonder is she still expecting more money as gifts at the actual wedding?