Is it bad if I don't propose to my bridesmaids?

Thanks, everyone! I'm really glad to hear that it's not expected or anything. It's just not something that would have come naturally to me, so I felt weird doing it.

The closest I came to a proposal was with my man of honor. I had borrowed a movie from him and was going to return it. I tore off a slip of paper, quickly scrawled "Will you be my bridesman?" on it, then slipped the paper into the movie jacket, so it was sticking out a bit. Not exactly Pinterest worthy.

No. I asked my sisters in a group message on fb lol We are sisters so I guess this is ok.

The problem I am having now is that they keep changing the group color and each others names. So far I have a Bestest Sister, Best Maid of Honor and a Prego lol

They also fall off topic in the group. Prego keeps posting belly pics and bestest sister cant step away from the GIF thing

For my MOH I was going to ask my best friend over dinner while she was home from college for the holidays. FH got so excited that he blurted it out that I wanted her to be my MOH (he knows how much of a sister she is to me and loves her just as much so I wasn't upset). For my other two BMs I mailed them notes since they're both out of state. Nothing too crazy, not worth the money in my opinion

Echoing PPs it's not necessary at all.

My friend asked me in a really straight up way (I want you to be my BM, but I know you're buying a house and don't want to put a financial strain on you) then she gave me a little gift, months later.

To be honest I think the proposals put a lot of pressure on the BMs.

I just asked mine. They would have rolled their eyes at a Pinteresty proposal anyway.

Its not necessary at all. I did it because I wanted to not because it was expected. I had asked my girls in advance so I didn't put them on the spot. Then I put together a little basket that cost me around 8$ each. If you don't want to do it, don't.

I think proposing to your BMs is a cute idea, but a completely unnecessary one.

For me, I asked all of my girls the night he proposed, and it was a combination of in person, and over the phone. 2 of them were at dinner with us, and got a "You guys will be in the wedding, right?" My sister, cousin, and oldest friend in town got phone calls as soon as dinner was over.

Big gesture can be cute, but its just an added expense.

I asked my BFF over a bottle of wine in our sweaty gym clothes. Not everything needs to be a production.

Noooope. I didn't and I'm glad I didn't.

I just asked mine they all knew when I got married they would be in it anyways

This BP proposal crap is absolutely ridiculous. Just ask. You're all adults.

I'm going to be seeing one of them at a wedding this weekend, so I'll probably just ask her in person then. I'm not seeing the other one until she gets out of MP training, so I'll have to wait on her.

WHO is pressuring you to make it a thing?! Not everything is a thing!

I didn't! 3/5 knew they'd be in it, one called right to congratulate us after we announced our engagement and I asked her right then, and asked the last when I saw her. I made them little goodie bags to give the day we went shopping, but that's because I'm a lunatic who always goes overboard. Totally not necessary; they'll (hopefully) just be honored to be asked!

I didn't propose... I just called them up lol

The proposal thing is a newer trend over the years.. Not a must. I asked pretty directly, but there is not a right or wrong way really. Do it in a way that feels most genuine and true to you.

I wrote my bridesmaids heartfelt letters as to why I wanted them and how much they meant to me. Simple, cheap, but meaningful

It's totally ok to just ask them!

No? I mean, the one I told over the phone that she was going to do it and she said "Duh." The other I ran upstairs with a bottle of wine and said "DRINK WITH ME, BRIDESWENCH!" and she said "Of course!" So...yeah, nothing fancy from me.