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Master May 2017

Is it bad if I don't propose to my bridesmaids?

A&W, on May 17, 2016 at 4:01 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 74

I asked my sister to be my MOH over the phone the night I got engaged. I have two friends that I'm planning to ask to be my bridesmaids, and I'm feeling a lot of pressure to do a cute proposal for them. But I didn't do that for my sister, so that's weird. Also, I don't really want to make boxes or anything. I just feel like I have to because everyone seems to be doing it nowadays.

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Latest activity by Elphaba, on May 19, 2016 at 2:15 PM
  • Jacqui76
    Master May 2016
    Jacqui76 ·
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    No, it's not bad to just ask them. I asked mine in person, individually, with no proposal and no fanfare. They all accepted.

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  • FutureLivi
    VIP June 2017
    FutureLivi ·
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    No. Proposals are becoming popular, but they're not needed. It's an added expense when a verbal question accomplishes the same thing.

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  • JoRocka
    Master September 2016
    JoRocka ·
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    No. It's over rated and unnecessary.

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  • Haley
    VIP October 2016
    Haley ·
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    I didn't . I asked them all casually. I don't think anyone expects a cute proposal. That's all it really is...cute, not necessary.

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  • Alison
    Expert November 2016
    Alison ·
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    One of my friends recently just outright asked me, while another did a creative bridesmaid proposal. I did boxes for my bridesmaids only because some are long distance so it was fun to mail them a package to ask them. I think as long as they are happy and excited to be in your wedding, they won't miss getting any crazy or creative gift, they'll just be excited to help you plan and share your special day with you Smiley smile

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  • Benjamin
    Devoted October 2017
    Benjamin ·
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    For my friends wedding next weekend he just texted me asking if I wanted to be a groomsman.... that simple

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    You absolutely don't have to do a big proposal if you don't want to! Just ask them Smiley smile

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  • FreshToDeathAng
    Master September 2016
    FreshToDeathAng ·
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    It's really overrated and unnecessary. I just sent them each a handwritten card in the mail asking.

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  • C
    Just Said Yes May 2016
    Cherise ·
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    If they love you it won't matter! That's what I learned in the long run, I even had a bridesmaid quit on me without telling me she didn't want to be apart. The other bridesmaid's and moh plus some really good friends and my sisters helped out a lot!!

    Remember it's yours and the FH's day!! Congrats on the engagement and happy planning!

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    No. Just ask them. Pinterest would have you proposing to your dog.

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  • lulu1180
    Super June 2016
    lulu1180 ·
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    No, I just called mine up and asked them. No proposal, no fanfare

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  • Bridget
    Expert November 2016
    Bridget ·
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    I agree with JoRocka it is over rated. I asked my best friend to be my MOH through text the same night I got proposed to as well, and also texted/snapchatted my other close friend to be a bridesmaid. We're all laid back people so honestly they'd probably wonder what's wrong with me if I DID do some kind of cheesy proposal to them lmao.

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  • Ololufe
    VIP August 2016
    Ololufe ·
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    My MOH wanted a cute proposal so I sent her a picture that said "will you hold my dress up while I pee". That was the most creative I could get. She said at least I tried lol. Don't feel pressure to do anything. Words are enough.

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  • Maria
    VIP March 2016
    Maria ·
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    Nope I asked one of mine while walking down the street with her, the other while standing in my kitchen. All you have to do is ask them.

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    Master November 2015
    NenaBear ·
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    No, this trend is completely unnecessary. Cute, but absolutely unnecessary. Just asking is special. Don't let trends make it feel anything less.

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  • Jacks
    Rockstar November 2054
    Jacks ·
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    Wedding party proposals are a made up Pinterest thing. They are totally not necessary.

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  • JennV
    Master October 2017
    JennV ·
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    Totally unnecessary. I didn't propose, I called them said 'you're in my wedding' which they already knew.

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  • FutureMrsCarlstad
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    FutureMrsCarlstad ·
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    My best friend texted me and asked if I would be her MOH. She got me a gift afterwards though, which I didn't think was necessary. I got my girls gifts when I asked them (custom wine bottles labeled will you be my ___?), but again, not necessary!

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  • Jacks
    Rockstar November 2054
    Jacks ·
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    Wedding party proposals are a made up Pinterest thing. They are totally not necessary.

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  • Frugal Gator
    Master May 2016
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    Bridesmaids proposals are completely unnecessary. I asked two of mine in person, the other two who don't live close by, I asked them on skype.

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