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TheBestieEsti
Dedicated December 2017

Is a cash bar okay for wedding?

TheBestieEsti, on August 30, 2016 at 10:18 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 342

Hi everyone! We are getting married next year and are paying for everything ourselves. My FMIL told me that we were "cheapskates" for having a cash bar and not an open bar.. It made me feel really bad but at the same time, SHE is not paying for the wedding. Just wanted your thoughts on a cash bar at...

Hi everyone! We are getting married next year and are paying for everything ourselves. My FMIL told me that we were "cheapskates" for having a cash bar and not an open bar.. It made me feel really bad but at the same time, SHE is not paying for the wedding. Just wanted your thoughts on a cash bar at our wedding. Thanks in advance!

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  • WaffleBread
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    Allysha, you started a fight and now you're telling on everyone?? Holy crap...... YOU grow up!

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  • LB
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    I didn't know saying someone's name was teasing!

    Since I know you like it @Alyssachu

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  • Jacks
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    Kacie, we helped Melissa with her problem about 10 pages ago. She is opting for beer and wine.

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  • GymRat
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  • LB
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  • IrrelevantRaganPO2
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    GymRat

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    she seriously just tattled to the mods??

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  • GymRat
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    I'm sad.


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  • Laine
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    Laine ·
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    Bye FAllysha. Sorry I couldn't help myself. People on here are just trying to help others who come here to ASK us for advice. So we give it to them. We are brutally honest here because we don't want anyone to be embarrassed or look tacky at their wedding. People ask for advice, we give it, then they get mad at us. It happens literally every single day. People need to properly host their guests. End of story.

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  • Jacks
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    We will breathlessly await Allysha's review of the app. Because this forum is clearly all the app offers.

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  • Jacks
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    I see what you did there, Laine!

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  • GymRat
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    Laine........


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  • KacieD.
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    @Jacks

    When people say they're doing "beer and wine" does it mean as opposed to beer, wine, and mixed drinks? Is the only difference between an open bar option and a "beer and wine" option the fact that they aren't serving cocktails and stuff? Honest question, cause I've seen multiple people opt for that instead, I just never fully understood.

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  • Bethyonce
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    HAHAHAAHAHAHAAA!!

    Someone saying your username on a public forum is what the problem was????

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  • Bethyonce
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    KacieD, yes. That's what they mean

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  • Mrs. Sasswood
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    I'll be taking bets Allysha comes back.

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  • MNA
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    Can someone on the computer flag Allysha's account for disruption of the community? That's literally all she has done since she's been her.

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  • Katherine
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    Thank you to Sasswood, Gymrat, Alyssachu, Lanie, et.al. for making the last hour of work so entertaining. I love you ladies!

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  • Krista933
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    No cash bar period

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  • Jacks
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    Yes, Kacie, and if people would listen instead of going off half cocked and calling us bullies then things would be understood a lot more quickly. I'm looking at you when I say that.

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    Just Said Yes May 2017
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    I swear everyone on here acts like little kids, like they're in some clique or something. Luckily, you won't have to worry about anyone on here attending and "leaving your wedding early". The ones who truly care about you will not throw fits and leave because there isn't free alcohol, it should be about seeing their loved ones get married. I'm not saying it shouldn't be nice, but you can cut down on things like bars in order to make sure everyone you care about is there because it's really about the wedding, not the alcohol. And not having an open bar doesn't make you a bad host, that's only one of many parts of a reception. Smiley smile

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