Is a cash bar okay for wedding?

Cheyenne, it's about hosting your guests actually.

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No Cheyenne, you can cut out things like favours and programmes. Food and drinks (including alcohol) should be a priority.

It's not free. If I'm coming to your wedding, I have to get a sitter, I've spent at least $100 on a shower gift another $200 in wedding cash. $50 in dry cleaning for FH and I. $100 on a sitter. $50 on a cab home. So tell me again about my free food and booze.

Yes, you are being cheap AF.

@Cheyenne: Yet here you are to come in and declare people are childish and cliquey.

The ceremony is about the bride and groom getting married. The reception is the bride and groom's THANK YOU to their guests without who there would be no big wedding. You should never, ever have to pay for your own thank you. Maybe you think it would be appropriate for the bride and groom to ask guests to bring stamps for their own thank you cards as well, or better yet, buy them and provide them. Maybe the guests should just pay for their entire meal themselves, too, at whatever venue the bride and groom choose, so they don't have a choice in the price or variety of food?

If all that seems ridiculous, that's all pretty much the same as having a cash bar. Period. I think you are the one who needs to grow up and learn what HOSTING an ADULT party means, and realize that yes, a large group of adults WILL, in fact, leave a reception after dinner when they get bored because there is no alcohol to get people dancing and having fun.

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This thread is helping work be tolerable tonight.

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I don't drink but even I know it's a no no. We had a 1/2 keg, 5 boxes of wine, a bottle of Seagram's, a bottle of rum, a bottle of tequila and dh bought a bottle of Johnny Walker blue label to share with his buddies. Open bar, because we were on the beach we could only have plastic so it limited our choices of liquor and wine. We still have bottles of liquor and a box of wine left.

Amanda, not sure if anyone replied to this yet, but when there's an open bar for a limited time and people know, they get several drinks before the cutoff and get way drunker way quicker. And if they DON'T know, people get upset that those who walked up earlier in the evening got a free drink but because they waited until after dinner they had to pay $7. It's not fair.

Also, I'd like to apologize to OP Melissa who got her question answered hours ago but whose thread keeps getting hijacked...

373 comments. But. I have to be up early for work tomorrow!

Omg......just my two cents......tacky is tacky, and class has nothing to do with the size of your wallet!

I went to a wedding years ago that was rude as hell. The groom's parents (brace yourselves, ladies) won 6 million dollars in the lottery and they served 3-tired seafood platters only to the head table and parents' tables. These things were big enough to see from the back of the room. I almost died of embarrassment for them. Every guest was mortified and felt like B-listers. And believe me they bragged ad nauseum about hitting that jackpot. Talk about tacky!!!!!

I also know a bride who's family was rolling in the bucks and you know what she did with the 4k that her parents gave her for her dress?? She paid for all the tuxes, BM dresses, hair, make-up, shoes and jewelry for the entire party out of that money. Plus gave lovely gifts to everyone and did DIY centre-pieces, corsages, bouquets, and boutineers, and got limos for all her elderly relatives so they wouldn't have to drive. Her dress was 500.00 and gorgeous. She was respectful of her parents generosity and spread that love out. To me that's class!

If someone can't understand that they should have a glass of wine, a nice cold beer or a lovely alcoholic punch ready for their guests to celebrate the day without having to reach for their wallet then they seriously need to re-evaluate themselves as hosts.

Enough said......now pass me some of that damn shrimp, please.....I'm starving

I remember I went to a self catered dry wedding...well needless to say me and my fiance went to the nearest liquor store and family dollar. We came back to spike our lemonade and put some hot sauce on the (tasteless)chicken... 9 hours from home, plane ticket, rental car and hotel. Paid babysitter for the kids. Food for three days.

The food and drinks at the reception were a definite fail! I will let it go soon That was only 7 years ago.

I would delete this thread...Asap

@FutureMrs.Davis, she needs to keep it up so other brides with the same question can read all the responses and we don't have to answer it again!

FMD why bump this and then tell the OP to hide it???