Inexpensive farm/barn venue!

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What kind of forum is this -- "Wedding Planners R Us"? A bride from Georgia pops in to ask other brides (who are conceivably from all over the US and Canada) to do the work of a wedding planner and find her what she can't find herself (as though there's some secret, cheap barn venue that a random Macon bride used and knows about). She discloses her limited budget and her location restrictions. Those who have been down this route tell her the truth -- alter your expectations because you don't have enough to rent a commercial property. She won't. Why? Because she knows they're out there, but they don't work with her date (I noticed she ignored the issue of hidden fees that was already discussed). Too many restrictions and not enough money lead to the inevitable, "You'll have to adjust your expectations. I did a barn wedding and it cost more than you have, etc."

Okay, we gets these kinds of inquiries, but rarely do we get a foot stamping response of "Of course it's possible! Don't dash my dreams!". And then the weird, "I'm only looking for positive reviews!".

And then we have this comment from Ariana, "It is not illegal for a person, who owns property with a barn on it, to have a party on their piece of land" followed by a sarcastic comment as to how "outrageous" some of you ladies are. Here's something to consider before you shoot down valid input, Ariana. It is absolutely irresponsible to suggest that this woman drive around and look for private property featuring barns. In our state, a private property owner who wishes to rent out their real estate for the purposes of hosting weddings/events must carry a comprehensive special event insurance policy (the same is required of any vendor serving the event on private property). Sure, you can pretend it's not a wedding, but just wait and see what happens when someone trips on the property and breaks a rib, a leg, or an arm. Let's see if the insurance company doesn't do a thorough investigation and determines that this was not a family gathering, but a "for profit" wedding. The homeowner is now screwed. The homeowner's conventional insurance policy will not pay a penny toward the claim, and a lawsuit will follow. Yeah...outrageous advice to say it's a bad idea.

Good luck with your venue...leave your lovely ladies alone and decorate it yourself. No, they don't really want to decorate your barn. They'd rather have their hair and make-up done, walk the processional, pose for pictures, and enjoy your reception next to you. Then, they'd like to go home -- not break down a barn wedding.

Okay with the traveling thing, I have quite a few very important elderly people that can't make an hour plus trip for my wedding, also a preacher who has to be close to town. And those places that had wrong dates i would have to change the whole season I want not just a date. You guys are being downright hateful for no reason, please move on.

Do you know where Byron is? There's a place called Thistlewood Farms that I have heard of, and I'm pretty sure that's where it's located. I'm sure you'll make any venue you choose look amazing!

Literally no one has been hateful... An hour is not that far - maybe you can arrange transportation for them to make sure they can be there. Also changing seasons is not that big a deal. I originally wanted a fall wedding, but then we booked a winter date. I started looking at winter wedding inspiration and fell in love with the idea. Really any season you marry your FH will be beautiful and special. You can't complain about not finding the perfect venue if you aren't will to bend on anything at all. You've got to see how that's unreasonable, right?

Sooo late to this but I just wanted to say

@Jessica they're not being hateful. And you didn't divulge all of the info needed to help you. I mean it took 6 pages of people going "you're not willing to look further" for you to tell us why. So some family can't make a long trip. Got it. That can't be helped.

Are all the dates booked up or just the Saturdays? Could you do it on a Friday (popular as well) or a Thursday or a Sunday?

Ariana, you wrote, "A wedding is not about cost, or venue...". I think the OP begs to differ. This entire thread is about cost and venue.

Where's your empirical evidence supporting your claim that most of the women you don't like on this site will be divorced within a year? Frankly, I think relationships tend to break down more rapidly if one half of the couple has a foot-stomping, entitled, unyielding attitude rather than one half of the couple having a pattern of logical thinking (delivered with a dose of snark).

Claudia h I checked that place out! They turned me down just because I was having 50 people or less he said they only do large weddings!

Jessica- If you have contacted EVERY venue in the immediate location that suits your vision and budget and have found nothing. What do you expect from us?

We offered many solutions and you aren't willing to budge. So guess what. Your barn venue at $2000 in town doesn't exist. Why bother us, you already did the work and have come to the same conclusion.

Everything else is a family affair, which is perfectly legal to have on any personal piece of property without a permit. For all anyone knows, the individual renting out the barn is throwing a personal party on their piece of land.

^^ This is bad advice. Please check your local county, town, or city restrictions. Even with a "personal property" there are still noise and traffic regulations.

From someone who had their wedding on "a personal piece of property."

Jessica M. Is a barn the only type of venue you're interested in?

I would like to point out that there are many brides and grooms on here who have had beautiful. meaningful weddings on a total budget of $2,000 or less. Don't assume.

No one was being hateful. You didn't say why that venue was too far until now. If they can't travel, then that obviously can't be one of the three things that has to change. That means you have to either change your season, which really isn't a big deal, or you have to change your venue type. That's reality. You could also try a non-traditional day of the week like Boozy said. We can't magically create the perfect venue on the perfect day at the perfect location for you. You have to work with what you have.

How am i bothering you? You chose to comment on this. I was looking for off-line places I may not know about, places connected to other people, or ideas like arianas or anything like that. This was my last stitch effort.

@Ariana, just because you don't agree with the advice on here doesn't mean it's bad advice. Some of the people posting here are giving real life examples of what has been their experience. Life isn't all about rainbows and unicorns, sometimes we have to change our expectations because of budget constraints. I truly feel sorry for this generation of kids who believe that they are entitled to whatever they want so their feelings don't get hurt. It's ridiculous! I'm guessing that you are one of the children who got a "participation trophy" for whatever you participated in and have no idea what it feels like to lose at anything. Good luck in life, you are going to need it.

@Jessica, no one is being hateful, they are giving you advice that you may have to change your vision since you have a small budget and travel limitations. I had the wedding of my dreams and my venue was just below $2,000. It was in a beautiful mansion outside of Nashville, TN. Being in Macon, GA (I live outside of Atlanta) you should be able to find something in your budget but it probably won't be a barn since that is the trendy thing to do right now so the prices are higher. It's a thing called Supply and Demand, they teach that in economics. The higher the demand, the higher the price.

YES! the sound of clomping hooves! Thank you Ariana! Thank GOD you came in to warn the OP how horrifying and awful we all are..

I can tell you that you won't find what you want for that price and you won't get the women (and men too) here to do your research.

If you can't find what you want at the price you want to spend??

It doesn't exist.

Even in the non New Yorky parts of NJ, renting a barn venue is going to cost **** bucks without a chair or a carrot stick. Them's the breaks.

On to plan B.

Anyone else wish that WW didn't get rid of the messaging feature? This way, Arianna and OP could go have a cry-fest in private together? I swear to god, it's been a long time since I've read this much "whining."

So, OP are you willing to compromise on anything at all?