Inconsiderate Bride---don't be one!

@Snarky....since she may not be able to answer: Kimberly and her DH elope about 5 years ago with just two witnesses...now they're having a re-wedding (vow renewal)....we call it a re-wedding because it irritates her husband.

@Snarky. It's just what me and @maltese call my vow renewal. And @maltese I think I have plans June 6th...sorry.

@Kimberly....Blow me. :-p

I agree with Celia... We are having a Sunday wedding and I know it's not going to be super convenient for everyone, but it's the best we could do after having to find a new venue after our old one was bought out by weasels. If it's such an imposition, I'd hope my invitees would just RSVP "no" and not complain about how "inconsiderate" we are. I'd just as soon have not invited that person.

ETA: A Hallo-wedding in September though is just wack. I get it for like, the actual day of Halloween (we'll be dressing up for our rehearsal dinner, I think, cause I love Halloween!), but who has their costume ready to go a whole month beforehand!

I do think it's a bit rude to have a Friday afternoon, themed wedding without giving a 'Save the Date'

I do not think it's rude to have a Friday wedding.

Being a bride who has a wedding scheduled for a Friday evening, almost everyone I know who is invited can't wait to take off the day or leave work early. Maybe it's different for others but I know in my group of friends and family, as long as you give everyone the save the date, they can make the necessary arrangements to make it to a wedding ceremony/reception. They actually look forward to it.

@Diane...nobody said that Friday weddings were rude.....lots of people here are having them. If you read the couple comments above, you can see that two of my best friends are getting married on a Friday night. I (and many others agreed with me) said that this wedding that I am referring to in the original post reeks on inconsideration to the guests.....4pm. Friday. Halloween theme. Costume preferred. 45-1 hour drive.

I know people say they would jump at the chance to leave work after a half day or something, but thats not necessarily how I like to do things...I would prefer to leave work when it is suitable for me, meaning I have completed all my tasks for the day and not leave them for a Monday morning...

I can't exactly do that in my job either (no would I want to. I'm kinda past the childish phase in my life/career where I want to leave early and call off. Call me crazy, but I feel that being a grown up and getting things done and taken care of at work and feeling accomplished fits me at this point)....if I'm going to use a half day or so of PTO, I would rather it be for a trip or something not a wedding.

Then you don't go; problem solved!

It wouldn't be so bad if they had made it for a later time, but that's definitely going to be an interesting wedding!

@Celia...I'm already working on how to get out of it! Unfortunately, FH thinks that not only should you invite ever person you have ever met to your own wedding, but you should attend each and every wedding you are invited too and its a mortal sin or something not to go.

But he's already mentioned that if work is on one of our busy cycles that there is no way he will be able to skate out that early and that we will have to go later.

@Maltese If you end up going I'm sure we would all love updates on how the costume thing worked out!

My cousin is getting married on a Friday at 4 PM and I live out of the country and I'm still going to it... I'm in agreement with Celia. Go or don't go.

@Seamstress: definitely! I don't plan on abandoning WW after being married...this is the best way to pass the time.

@LadyMonk: congratulations...?

@maltese I get what you're saying about responsibility, but there are also other options, like I personally work late the rest of the week to make sure everything is done on time and correctly if I need to leave early. But I get that not all managers are understanding and flexible like mine. Actually doing that this week since we're going for our marriage license Friday.

I'm not suggesting you do what I am, but if it really does bother you, then don't go. I mean I don't know about the couple you're referring to, but our date was special to us and saved us a ton of money. Our venue doesn't like doing receptions past midnight and there's a little bit of a drive between the church and the reception venue so we had to schedule it that way. There might be more to it than you know, or you may be right, it might just be without reason and inconsiderate.

@Maltese I need you to go and take lots of pictures. My friend got married a few years back on Halloween but only one person dressed up. Really one of the GM changed into a gorilla costume at the end of the night. I really want to see if anyone actually dresses up for this wedding.

Side note: I went to the Dollar Tree last night and got my flip flops in purple and teal. Same quality as Old Navy and didn't have to come up with a strategic plan on how I was going to buy 40 pairs

@Alicia...I got purple and pink....I really wanted all purple to match the wedding, but there wasn't enough and I didn't want to go to another store. The majority are the pink, but I mixed the purple in with them in a large basket and they look ok enough.

@Kristie....I HOPE there is a reason, and I am always intrigued to hear why people chose a wedding date and if there was any significance behind it. From the bit of digging I've done there is no reason, its just the "way she is" and "how she does things." I also sat talking to this girl at her brothers birthday and she said that she had nightmares that people wouldn't be at her wedding (this was before invites were sent out) so this makes think she may have realized a problem with the timing and didn't think it through.

I would love to be able to cut out of work early on a Friday, even if that meant working late the rest of the week. But I can't do it. My job situation doesn't allow for that. I would have to take the entire day off in order to go to a Friday afternoon wedding. So in most situations, yeah, I just wouldn't go. But if it's a wedding that you might otherwise want to go to - or that your FH really wants to go to - then it makes things more difficult. Sure, no one is FORCING you to go to the wedding. But it's still annoying to guests that work a 9-5 (or 7:30-4:30 in my case) and would want to go otherwise.

Some people have great jobs with flexible managers, or can work from home (my brother "works from home" every other Friday, and I kind of hate him for it a little bit, hehe.) Some people don't.

I don't see a problem with the wedding being on a Friday. How is that being an inconsiderate Bride? Are you serious? You cant please everyone all the time. A lot of people work Saturdays too. It's their choice to get married whatever day THEY choose for whatever reasons.. whether that be financial or maybe it is just a special day for them. It's not all about what is convenient for YOU... rather than complain .. simply don't go ... your choice.

@Moss...obviously you're new, thats ok. This is a rant (my bad for not putting it into the title) and they happen quite often here. But maybe you missed a couple comments back when I said that the bride to be had nightmares about not a lot of people coming.

Yes, the ceremony is about a bride and groom, the reception (by definition) is an event that the couple throws as their entrance into society FOR their guests....but when that date/time is at a time that may be difficult for the "average" person to get to, you HAVE to assume a lower turnout...early wedding, weekday weddings, holiday weddings....all of these things can take a hit on your guest list.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wedding_reception

ETA: Definition Link

"Don't like it? Don't go"

Okay... She's not.... Move on....

@Maltese. um, I am fairly new to this site, about 4 months but I have read all the posts. My first wedding 22 years ago was on a Friday and I had 200 of 220 guests show to it all . Not sure if the day of the week would have a lot to do with it. Anyone in your life of importance would make it no matter what day of the week it is.