Inconsiderate Bride---don't be one!

I was going back and forth about having a Friday wedding and this is why I chose Saturday. While it was cheaper for a Friday, it would have been so inconvenient for everyone.

I would definitely RSVP no. Is this person a close family member or something?

@FMS, I actually don't think Friday evening weddings are a bad idea, as long as they start late enough that people can still go to work that day. I wouldn't ask people to take time off from work for my wedding (except for maybe immediate family members who likely wouldn't have a problem with it).

And basically that was why I also posted this....

I see nothing wrong with a Friday wedding, but those that choose to do so, please please PLEASE be considerate of your guests. Assume that they work M-F, 9-5pm, and I'm sure that most don't mind taking off an hour early from work, you have to also be prepared for a lot of late arrivals...if you want to maximize your turnout, consider 6pm as the earliest for a Friday wedding start time.

If you're going to have a wedding on a weekday you gotta make it later in the evening. That is very inconsiderate.

I mean a friday night at 6 fine leave a little early from work. but 4pm? when the barn is owned by the bride's parents? i would end up taking a 1/2 day because otherwise i would need to make up the hours that i leave early (and i get out of work at 3:30 which i think is early)

Double post

@MzRosa...its FH's cousin and unfortunately I DID sent the RSVP in already. My jaw dropped last night when I saw the date/time. Obviously I had just glanced at it before.

I don't understand that either. I mean, I know Friday weddings are cheaper, but be considerate enough to start around 6. My coworker just went to a Friday night wedding that started at 5. Had she not taken a vacation day for other reasons, she would have had to leave 3 hours early on a Friday, our busiest day.

My cousin is getting married the Friday of Labor Day weekend. Really? You pick a long weekend, and then you do it on Friday evening? I think her ceremony will start around 5, 3 hours away from me. I will have to send my regrets because I don't have the vacation time with my wedding so close afterwards. Had she chosen Saturday or Sunday, more of our family would be there.

Its inconsiderate enough to have a Friday 4 pm wedding, but to send out the invitations in May with an RSVP date nearly 5 months ahead of time is absurd! And then to have dress up... I don't like it but to each their own...do you plan to dress up?

Truths;

Just because you're invited doesn't mean you have to say yes. Fridays are significantly cheaper, especially in my area where a Saturday night in almost any venue will be 100.00+ with minimums of over 100 guests. For couples with 200 "close friends and family", a notion I find fictitious, that is a savings that makes Friday viable.

If it's someone you really care about, you take a half day off to celebrate with them. If you're guest #199, well....maybe you don't. There are just not that many people who think going to a wedding is a requirement if they're invited. Is it too far, too expensive, too inconvenient, not compelling enough? Then simply don't go, no matter what day it's held.

Every choice on any day in any location will piss someone off. Ya can't please every one... personally, they lost me at costumes.

(Note; I didn't mean 'you' specifically....I meant everyone, lol)

I get what you are saying celia and i do agree, but i guess what i don't understand about this situation is 1) how the friday is going to be cheaper for this bride if the venue is the Bride's parents property. and 2) if her parents own the property why can't the wedding start later? sunset should be somewhere around 7pm if they were worried about light.

Haha well I'm invited to a Monday wedding starting at 11 am out in the middle of no-where Colorado (it's literally on a mountain top and her reception is an hour and a half drive away). Oh...and it's on my one year anniversary. But she's only inviting 35-45 people, it's just really close friends and family and we'll be making our summer trip anyway. Also the weekend before my FH is a groomsman in another wedding so we'll be on the mainland anyway. But if it was local, I'd be pissed about a Monday wedding. She's a grad student and he's secret service to the president, so maybe it was just easier for their schedule.

@Celia...I totally agree...there is no venue cost with this one though, its in a barn at her parent's house.

Even 5:30 would have made it easier to get there without having to take too much time off and have given them light for the ceremony

Would I take off work for someone's wedding? It depends on who it is lol......and how bad I want to be out of work that day lol.

I don't remember how many people remember the thread about the bridal shower I went to a Salsarita's a couple months ago and how the MOH was actually the manager at the location where the shower was held and WORKING a shift while hosting her sister's shower, but that MOH is this bride.

Interesting... i guess if the MOH couldn't get another manager to cover thats probably why she was working too. still odd though

So maybe she doesn't understand the concept of office work for most people?

@Surfer....I had thought the same thing until I found that she SCHEDULED herself to work that day intentionally.

@Janeen....I'm pretty sure she doesn't, according to FH. He says "her whole family" is self employed and that she just assumes (at 28 or so years old) that everyone works similar schedules....but its just her dad (landscaping) and mom (Mary Kay/retired)

I'm still confused about the request to dress up in costume? What is the "Theme" of this wedding