Inconsiderate Bride---don't be one!

Agreed on the weirdness of a Halloween wedding in September. If they feel strongly about a Halloween wedding, why not have one on Halloween? It's a Saturday this year (I would know, since it's my wedding date :-))

Eh, I guess I'm rude. For us, we only have our venue until midnight. Starting our wedding at 6 would mean people aren't getting fed, etc. until 8, and then leaving about 2 hours after the dances/toasts to get going.

I guess I don't so much mind if a lot of people aren't there for the ceremony.

Perhaps they are starting at 4pm on purpose, so that less people show up at the wedding Part. When I married my late husband we had a Friday 2pm wedding for the same reason. I wanted it small. Only fed the people at the actual wedding. Then we had a wedding dance at 7pm for everybody. Worked perfectly. Our friends were quite thankful they didnt have to sit thru a boring wedding but got invited to the best part...the party! :-)

Absolutely nothing wrong with a Friday wedding, but for us, FH has three groomsmen and they are all OOT. So, if we had a Friday wedding, we would have to ask them to come a day early for rehearsal(or at least half a day early). We really didn't want to make anyone do that.

That makes more sense, @Maltese. Still weird, though.

Agree with the rest - Friday weddings are okay, but you have to be considerate about the time. 4pm is, IMO, a little early for a work-day wedding. Even 5pm is okay. People might have to scoot out of work a bit early, but it's manageable.

There is a lot weird about this situation in general - the early RSVP I find odd, and if it's really because she's waiting for a head count to get catering that is odd and could definitely blow up in her face if she waits too long. But what is really bugging me is Who has a Halloween-themed wedding in September?!? You can't have a Halloween wedding before October 1st (and even that's a little early). I think it's in the constitution or something. I like Halloween as much as the next person, but have your wedding at the end of October if you want to do that theme. And as @Future Mrs. P pointed out, Halloween is even on a Saturday this year!

I don't understand people sometimes.

Uhhh sorry I do feel like it's pretty inconsiderate to expect your guests to take off work/leave early.

The things that would irk me the most are the super early RSVP deadline and the Hallowedding in September...that makes no sense. We are doing a Friday wedding, but this year it's a federal holiday so people aren't working that day. Maybe they are trying to push people to decline?

I like how they put on there "We won't hold it against you if you decide to be a party pooper"

Most people aren't used to wearing halloween costumes to a wedding..

I can deal with the Friday at 4, but the costumes in September, no. I am going to a wedding on Halloween this year and they told us no costumes unless you are a kid.

I hate to be THAT person that says "Well in my crowd..." but it's true that more than half of my guests don't work 9-5, are retired, don't work at all, will be in town on vacation, work a job where they leave 2 hours early every Friday, etc.

But I am definitely considering pushing it to at least 5.

I get into work at 630 am, leave at 3, and I still would have a hard time making a 4 pm wedding. I don't even get HOME until 4:15. I could take a day off, sure, if I wanted to and depending who it was. Friday would be more likely than Monday for a day off. We looked at one venue that offered a "discount" Friday but it wasn't enough for us to consider it. The venue we ended up with was the same price any day, and better catering/bar prices, luckily (and still cheaper than Friday at the other venue). But I don't think Friday weddings are as annoying as Sundays, since at least I have the next day off!

I was even wondering if Halloween costumes would be available in September!

"We won't hold it against you if you choose to be a party pooper"

Someone please stop me before I ever print this on any invitation I send to any event, ever. Especially a wedding.

@mcclain...yeah, I found that pretty off putting too...I dont feel that the word POOPER is appropriate anywhere near a wedding (or any, for that matter) invitation.

Here is a costume for you.

I was invited to a wedding on a Friday once. Ceremony was at 2:00 pm and reception was at 6:00 pm. We RSVP'd for the reception but said we were unable to attend the ceremony because we were working. Bride emailed us back asking if we could get off work a couple hours early to attend. Um, no.

DH was in a wedding a few summers ago that started at 2pm on a Friday. I had to take the whole day off of work because it was a weird-middle-of-nowhere. The whole wedding was crazy inconsiderate though, down to delaying dinner bc the bride's aunt wanted to go home and let her dog out.

Halloween in September is just weird. I'd probably ask around and see what they were expecting or what other guests plan to wear.

@Maltese - that Zombie bride would be so cool! But agreed - with your timing issue, hard to pull off.

I'm having a Friday wedding and we're starting at 7pm I felt like this would give my guests enough time to get there if they had to work. Plus we are mostly church goin folk and this would allow most to enjoy the reception however late it runs and not have to worry about getting up early for church the next morning. But at the same time I have really stressed the fact that we must start on time, we will be taking pictures after the ceremony and I don't want to be getting to my reception at 9 because we started late ( my family is habitually late to almost everything!) so I'm praying things flow on schedule. My Fh is a very prompt person so he assured me he is going to handle this. I don't know how but I'm gonna let him cuz I have too much on my wedding brain already!

We're having a Friday wedding. It starts at 6:30 but I'm regretting it and wished we picked 7 instead. I think this will cause some declines and late arrivals.