I was asked to be a bridesmaid but my husband is not invited to the wedding!

I would decline. You two are a unit and your also pregnant, I would absolutely want my husband to be there. She will have to get over it.

I think you'll be smart, to keep your distance from her, in the future. You certainly don't need that kind of B.S., when you're pregnant.

She is being selfish for not including your husband in the guest list. This is a no brainer usually. You not only invite spouses of your guests but you definitely include the spouse of someone in your bridal party. Direct her to WW for this one. I don't understand how she thinks that is ok. When you make your guest list, you include the obvious plus's to begin with. Decline, decline, decline.

I would 100% decline.

I think you were right. FH and I are a unit. If he's not welcome somewhere (that isn't all female) then neither am I! As long as you were polite there is nothing more you can do!

You may even have dodged a bullet. If she's that stingy with inviting your husband who knows what else she'll do to "cut costs."

I may be the UO on this one, but I feel you were within your rights to decline. I feel that if you were super close to the bride, a) she would have invited your hubby in the first place, and b) you would have been super upset about backing out of the wedding. (which it seems like you're not TOO torn up about it.) Good for you for having a level head about all this, especially with pregnancy hormones!!!

ETA: Okay, glad to know its not the UO.

She's RUDE! You are a unit and if he's not invited to cut costs, then decline.

Decline, for sure. Especially since she flipped out--bridezilla already.

I think that is absolutely ridiculous! Even if you weren't pregnant, which makes it even more absurd to me. I don't think that's a friend. I'm sorry, I would decline.

Sounds like you dodged a bullet.

I would decline as well. I couldn't imagine telling someone that was in my BP that they couldn't have their significant others/husbands at the wedding. I feel like when making your guest list they are some of the first people you think of once you have your BP.

You have done nothing wrong. It's disgusting that she wouldn't let people bring their SO's but the fact that she only excluded YOUR husband is even worse. Count your blessings on this one because she sounds like a bridezilla in the making.

She is 100% in the wrong.

Its not like you aren't in a relationship...you've been married for 7 years FFS. And if the other BMs husbands are invited, then why the fuck shouldn't yours be????

Nope. You were right to decline. 100%.

It's not ok to invite someone without their spouse. IMO this is made worse by the fact that other people are being allowed their spouse and you aren't. Frankly, I find this disrespectful to your relationship and there is no way on earth I would go to a wedding that my DH wasn't invited to, no matter whose it was. I would personally have just explained that I didn't feel right coming to a wedding, a celebration of marriage, without the person I am married to. That it is disrespectful to me and my relationship with my husband and that I don't feel comfortable being a BM for someone who would treat me that way.

Honestly I feel that a lot of people get so caught up in their wedding having to be perfect that they forget that having their loved ones with them and happy will make a bigger difference than almost anything.

Usually if someone in the wedding party is in a committed relationship or married, you're supposed to invite their spouse. I don't blame you.

Da fu?

Wtf, I would have definitely declined.

She is ridiculous. Say no and don't go.

Why do the other BMs get to bring their husbands but you don't? Did you ask her that? I would absolutely decline. How are people actually like this? My friends would NEVER do this.

Like PP's, I think you did the right thing. That's just unreasonable and poor hosting to not invite the DH of a BM...let alone a pregnant one! If you were single or casually dating, she would be in reason to not give you a plus one but after 7 years, your husband is not a plus one.