I was asked to be a bridesmaid but my husband is not invited to the wedding!

Screw her! We are a unit now!

I would decline...How is that the other bridesmaids can bring their spouse and not u? She should've let you bring your husband because you are 1 and because you are pregnant.

Nope she is very wrong.

@Mal-Pal, you read my mind!! That is a terrible way to cut costs, and I would love to know what else she deems unimportant for "her day," if she's that willing to treat a friend and potential BM so terribly!

I would have declined too. I think you dodged a bullet IMHO.

Yeah, no

First signs of a bridezilla. Looks like you dodged a bullet. Hopefully she can realize what kind of circumstance she put you in. But I know you were 100% in the right to do what you did. Hopefully your friendship can move past it.

I would decline as well. That's super rude to not invite your husband.

I wouldn't even waste my energy on her friendship anymore. thats complete BS

Everyone gets a plus one or nobody gets a plus one. Its ridiculous and rude to not include a plus one to a wedding, let alone pick and choose and not even include the Bridal parties spouses. It sounds like a disaster. You did the right thing by standing by your spouse. Keep your distance.

I don't understand why other people can bring their husbands but not you?? You were absolutely right to decline.

You were 100% right in declining. Like others have said if your DH wasn't invited to cut cost but the other BMs can bring their DHs, what else is she costing from the wedding. Maybe she should have cut another guest off the list so you could bring DH. From the sounds of things though, it doesn't sound like a wedding I would want to attend.

It's not like he's your new flavor of the week, he's your husband for crying out loud. She's absolutely the one in the wrong here.

This makes me so angry for you! She sounds like a peach. This is definitely a friend you do not need.

Congrats on your new baby though!

That's so crazy. We have people in our wedding party that are single and we are giving them plus ones. I could imagine telling them they couldn't. Let alone the ones that are married!

When I read the post, I assumed the other BMs' husbands were invited because maybe their husbands are actually friends with the bride and/or groom. Whereas it sounds like OP's husband is not.

I am in NO WAY condoning the reasoning, just saying I bet that is what it is. Obviously this bride is insane, so I'm not surprised.

You're right and good for you!

I bet you she's on this site now talkin bout, "my BM dropped out cause I didn't invite her husband. Is she rude or what?"

Nope - no way would be I want to be there.

No to being her bridesmaid.

No to being her friend.

She was WRONG on all counts! All bridal party should get a plus one, ESPECIALLY if you've already extended a plus one to the rest of your bridal party you can't not give a plus one to select people in your bridal party, any guest who is in a serious relationship (married or not) should be given a plus one - this is common wedding etiquette.

When you go ahead and go against common etiquette and then have a childish tantrum about it - you have a problem.

You were right to have a talk with her and the fact that you were honest but not in a negative way shows that you have a great character.