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thyia
Super August 2018

I hate the date we set

thyia, on September 11, 2017 at 1:52 AM

Posted in Wedding Attire 141

i am so excited but I don't like the date we set. would it be weird to ask fiancé to have our anniversary on a different date, maybe we could turn in marriage license together on a different date? we already have a nonrefundable deposit put down so there is not much we can do about ceremony date.....

I am so excited but I don't like the date we set. would it be weird to ask fiancé to have our anniversary on a different date, maybe we could turn in marriage license together on a different date? we already have a nonrefundable deposit put down so there is not much we can do about ceremony date.. thanks for your suggestions/comments!

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  • Chantelle
    Dedicated May 2020
    Chantelle ·
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    That was the exact date I was offered bc the venue didn't have my date available. I hated that date also bc it is too close to the first day of school for the kids. I just found a venue today that has my date available so I plan on doing my application and booking it ASAP.

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  • thyia
    Super August 2018
    thyia ·
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    I guess the 25 seems out of place, but with the addition of the 1 in the year it is another 8. so that is just learning to love it!

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  • thyia
    Super August 2018
    thyia ·
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    Yah, the two dates I wanted were taken already, and there was only two options, the second would be during school season so wouldn't work for anyone with kids. fmil already has to miss first week of school to make it, so I don't think I can change the date. I didn't think about have a courthouse wedding first if it keeps nagging at me. I wasn't aware a date was on the marriage licensing. we are very unconventional and didn't think we would ever do an actual wedding. I thought we do more of a commitment ceremony, but was imagining that would upset people investing in our future too

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  • Amber
    Devoted April 2018
    Amber ·
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    Why not just get legally married on a date that you like and have a vow renewal at the venue on the date you aren't fond of?

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  • thyia
    Super August 2018
    thyia ·
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    I feel like a courthouse wedding might be upsetting to those family members that want to be there with us. very pam and Jim though to elope before, then the pressure would be off us during ceremony though!

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  • M
    Just Said Yes November 2017
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    I totally get you on wanting a "good" date. When I saw 11/11/17 was open at our venue, I had to have it! It's a silly thing, but I love it sooo much!

    You will have the date for the rest of your lives and if it bothers you now, it could bother you then. It might not - if you like the idea of "destiny" or "fate" then maybe the booked date IS the right one for you.

    The August date will always be in August. So, if you picked it for convenience, that convenience will be there every year for you --for your future anniversaries too.

    Looking at the two, for purely aesthetic reasons (looks), I actually like the August date a tad better. (Starts and ends with an 8 and has all even numbers divisible by two, score! It also has 5 numerals which gives it a balanced feel to me) But, both are nice and feature numerical repetition which is satisfying. Both feature 8's which are lucky in the Chinese culture.

    Aside from that, I don't know anything about numerology or the meaning of the numbers though.

    8/24/18

    9/8/18

    That's unfortunate that you already booked - yes, if it really bothers you (and you're sure it's not just bridal stress craziness that we all get) check with the venue about the possibility for a change.

    And I personally see no problem with a private civil ceremony on another date and the public wedding later, if you really must have a different date. It's YOUR wedding, your future, you can have it however you want to have it. People will comment. Let them, and be happy making the right choice for you.

    Good luck!

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  • M
    Just Said Yes November 2017
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    *8/25/18 sorry. Still nice with the 5 as the center.

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  • thyia
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    thyia ·
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    11/11 is my mom's birthday, and I was born 10/11! the 8 does remind me that my fiancé made the proposal all about infinity and 8 is just infinity set upright

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  • Joanna
    Devoted December 2017
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    It's hard to give advice when people can't understand the actual problem.

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  • Dolores Umbridge
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    Dolores Umbridge ·
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    I can't pretend to understand your feelings about the numerology of the date.

    But I hate odd numbers. I had OCD tendencies in high school and did everything in even numbers. If something was odd, I physically made myself sick from anxiety.

    Can't say this is the same.

    Thinking of my date 6/23/17 it's so odd, all numbers I don't like. But I didn't get hung up on it. It'll be a day you'll remember for all the right reasons and it'll be special to you forever.

    If it bothers you, a quick call to the venue to see if you can change it doesn't hurt.

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  • PrettyWitty&Gay
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    If you wanna talk about bad juju, I'm over here with a friday the 13th wedding because our dream venue had two dates for the whole oct/nov and the other was Black Friday. So yes, people tend to pick whatever date is free. Though I guess I'm lucky that I don't really care about the superstition behind Friday the 13th. My ex cop parents were also weird about the date because 1013 is apparently the radio code for when a cop is in dire need/likely killed and acted like I should have known that. Oh well, it's a date.

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  • thyia
    Super August 2018
    thyia ·
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    Awe. I love 13!! my favorite number! my dress trying on party was for the 13th but I found my dress already! I guess we learn to love it because it becomes important

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  • thyia
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    thyia ·
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    No, the hassle of replanning wouldn't be worth the explaination. ww helped clarify that one quickly! I just didn't know if maybe we could turn in license later for a date I did like

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  • Rachel DellaPorte
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    We're confused because most of us aren't into numerology. We confused because we're confused...and honestly, I'm wondering how you deal with things like a date that feels unbalanced, but happened to be the date you delivered your baby (hypothetically speaking, you'd just have to deal with it, be happy, and life would go on. This is the same thing...just a day of the year marked by a calendar). And after watching the way the officiant went over my son and DIL's wedding license before we all signed it last Saturday evening, I can assure you that licensed officiants don't fudge a thing. It was absolutely, 100%, by the book. And actually, I'm kind of laughing because I remember my DIL telling me in June that they liked the date they were getting married: 9/9/17.

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  • thyia
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    thyia ·
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    Rachel, thank you. that really does help. I thought the baby was coming on the full moon and he waited until the new moon, 7 days later! I looked at it as something out of my control, so I should look at this in a similar light. it is set in stone ($1000 stone) haha

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  • Dana
    Expert August 2018
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    Hmm I think* I get what you're saying its kind of like 8/18/18 the numbers just "flow" together? or 11/11/17 or 7/7/17 or 8/9/10 idk maybe just me but I understand and I like the 9/8/18 too lol

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  • LillyBean17
    Master October 2017
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    This is one of the craziest threads I've read.

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  • Dana
    Expert August 2018
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    However, I think it may be too late to turn back now&I hate that! You'd be forced to explain why and most people wouldn't "get it" and you'd be frustrated

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  • Ashley
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    We chose our date because our fav number is 12. I didn't like the way other dates "sounded" if that made sense but at the same time the only date I wouldn't want would be 4/20 tbh.

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  • thyia
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    thyia ·
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    Well I looked it up and it lands dead on the full moon, which is a Greek tradition and is good luck and prosperity. also we are having outdoor wedding into the night so that will be great for romantic lighting. and lillybean I guess if there was a ww award for crazy, I'd get a trophy or a plaque. mrs.wwcrazyuniverse with a bouquet and a tiara. thanks for the nomination!

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