I hate the date we set

Yea, maybe you should have.

If you want to change the date, change the date. Talk to your venue and see what your options are.

But you can't just write the incorrect date of the ceremony on the marriage license. That is fraud as it is a legal document.

And I'm hoping your dad has filed a marriage license before and knows the process/legalities so he doesn't screw it up.

Starts with 8 ends with 8 - balanced.

I honestly had no idea that it would be lying.

Thyia,

The only way to have your license signed on a different day is if you get legally married another day, and have a vow renewal on the 25th. An officiant won't do the official ceremony, but lie and say the wedding is on a date you like better because your actual feels weird to you.

So yes you can go to the courthouse and get married legally early, and that would be your "date" but anything after that is a vow renewal.

But that seems like way to much work over a freaking date.

The date you get married is the date you get married. Your marriage license reflects the date of the actual marriage. This makes ZERO sense. If you hate some random date so much for totally random illogical reasons, go ahead and change it, but WOOF cut us some slack, people are so confused by this.

Woof? I am confused as to why it has to become offensive when someone is different. is the norm to just pick any Saturday that is available? I get that I made the deposit, I had this feeling then too. I had two weekend to choose from and chose because of guests convenience, not because I was in love with the date

If you invite people to a wedding, but you know your not legally getting wed that day then you are lying to your guests by not telling them it is not a wedding.

How did it not occur to you that writing a different date on a legal document was lying?! and that you'd be asking at minimum 4 other people to lie as well?

I do not have an answer to your question but I just wanted to comment that I I hear you. I have OCD and have a similar issue with times of day. I don't tell most people about it though because I know they won't understand. I am not saying you have OCD as well, just sharing my experience.

Dana, thank you. I appreciate that. I do have certain ocd tendencies which increased after a tramatic head injury. I guess most people don't understand, I see this now.

Well then if you don't love the date, change it. But you can't get married one day and have a different date on a LEGAL DOCUMENT.

Also, I wish I lived in a world where this would be a concern to me. You must not have a lot going on...

Thank you future mrs.p. I am trying to wrap my mind around it. I did the math once before and it worked out, so I just have to solve it and I agree that it will come be one of my favorite days

I understand some people are weird about dates, I don't know why everyone is acting like they've never heard of this. Unless you can change the date of your weddjng with thr venue then 8/25 will be your anniversary. I mean even if you got it "legally" to be a different day on your certificate or whatever (not sure if that's a thing??) , you still got married on 8/25 and you'd know that. Mine is 8/26.

Thanks for all your concern and replies. I am sorry for my shortness and attitude. I lost my cool, don't hold it against me

We also had to choose a date that would work for everyone travelling to Oregon. the pass is only open a few months of the year to get to the venue

We picked the sunday before a monday holiday, not

anything because of numbers.

Change with the venue or learn to love it.

8=8

2+5+1=8

8=8

Poof. Balance.

I think it's only a happy coincidence when a Saturday wedding date happens to line up with meaningful life events. Mostly I think people choose a date based on season, $$, and venue availability.

Just thought, what if you had the official ceremony on an earlier date that you liked? Have it at the courthouse or somewhere nice just the two of you, then have a renewal ceremony as planned on 8/25 with planned reception and all guests.

I picked my date out of sheer convenience. It works for FH and I, as well as our traveling guests. Heck its not even the season I originally wanted but it is what it is and I'll get to marry my best friend so whatevs.