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Mariana
Beginner July 2012

How to nicely say no kids on the invitations?

Mariana, on May 11, 2012 at 7:11 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 3 83
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Hello ladies,

I was just wanting your advice and help on how to nicely say no kids on our invites. I personally think "no kids" or "adult reception only" is fine, but my FH doesn't like the "no/only." I need your help I need to submit the invitation for the wording no longer than this weekend :/. Also if any of you know Spanish what is another nice/appropriate way to say "no ninos"?

I feel if we put "adult reception" might sound a little " well what will they be doing then" kind of thing.

Thank you so much ladies. Smiley smile

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*ADDED BY WW*

No matter what anyone tells you, you don’t have to invite kids to your wedding, but there are some tried and true methods to convey this clearly and politely.

Check out the article Yes, You CAN Have an Adults-Only Wedding. Here’s How. for ways to make this easy on you and on your guests!

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Latest activity by Katie, on May 26, 2020 at 10:44 PM
  • Pinney
    Beginner June 2012
    Pinney ·
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    I put NO CHILDREN wedding party only! on the invites!

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  • Pinney
    Beginner June 2012
    Pinney ·
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    I put NO CHILDREN wedding party only! on the invites!

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  • Mariana
    Beginner July 2012
    Mariana ·
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    See I totally wouldn't mind that Pinney but my FH doesn't like it and I want to compromise but I don't know. Smiley sad This is probably the one stressful thing I'm dealing with now.

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  • Nay-Nay
    VIP January 2020
    Nay-Nay ·
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    In proper etiquette they actually say that you shouldn't include anything like "no kids or adult reception" on the invitations you should actually just tell people and have the word spread around...me personally I will be putting "Adult only reception to follow" on the reception card but I have also been telling people who ask that we aren't inviting kids so they know upfront

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  • Carrie
    Master December 2011
    Carrie ·
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    Don't use the word "and family" on the envelopes address them to who is actually invited.

    On the RSVP card you could include

    "___ adult seats have been reserved in your honor"

    and you fill in the blank.

    If anyone lists their kid on the RSVP you'll have to call them back and explain the invitation was only meant for them.

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  • HRH Mags
    Master March 2014
    HRH Mags ·
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    It depends on your guest...do you have any crazies coming? It seems like there is always that one person that cant stand the thought of leaving junior at home....or they will be badgering you to hire a sitter. Make sure you invite the guest by name. Example Julie and John and list it like Carrie said. Make it very very clear it is an Adult reception. Goodluck!

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  • FutureMrs.DiFabio
    Super September 2013
    FutureMrs.DiFabio ·
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    You could put "Adult Reception to Follow"

    Or

    On the envelope "Mr. and Mrs. Whatever and if you have an inside (or 2nd) envelope write their first names on it.

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  • T
    Expert July 2014
    Tammy ·
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    This is what I have on my Wedding Website under FAQ's:

    Am I allowed to bring a guest? Yes, 1 adult guest can accompany you. Due to budget constraints, we are unable to cater to anyone under the age of 12.

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  • B'Loved
    VIP November 2013
    B'Loved ·
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    We put "Adult Reception to follow"

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  • Stephanie
    Super June 2012
    Stephanie ·
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    We put the following (we saw it on someone else's WW)

    "while we love the little ones, this is an adult only affair"

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  • Happily engaged
    Super September 2012
    Happily engaged ·
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    I'm conflicted with this too! I feel that it must be spelled out - NO children but I think its a little rude. Also, in our latino culture everyone brings their kids and grandkids so I don't want to offend people.

    I am still trying to figure out how to state it on the wedding website and getting my mom to spread the word.

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  • Soon to be Mrs R
    VIP June 2012
    Soon to be Mrs R ·
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    I put adult only reception and still had someone trying to bring their kid to the ceremony. I know what the etiquette gods say but you need to be direct and put Adult only event. Reasoning being parents will ignore the reception card and try to add their kid. Also call parents and let them know in advance that your wedding will be adult only event.

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  • Tionna and Tyrone
    Expert July 2012
    Tionna and Tyrone ·
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    I put adult reception only on my invites. I don't mind if they bring kids to the ceremony, but the reception is out of the question!!

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  • J
    Savvy May 2013
    Jennifer ·
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    I do understand the idea of having an "adult only reception", but a wedding is a time for family and friends get together. A wedding reception is one of the only times that kids and adults really interact. I allways looked at it this way. If I would say "no kids" at my wedding and a couple brought kids anyways, I wouldn't want to feel the stress of other couples coming up to me and saying "why did they get to bring their kids and I couldn't?"

    Please dont miss read this as a "don't do that", but just consider this advise just incase a situation like that arises.

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  • Patrice
    Devoted August 2012
    Patrice ·
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    I didnt put it on the invitation, I included a reception card that states "Adult Cocktail hour and Reception immediately following the ceremony on the 2nd and 3rd floor" . We will have my kids, and FH nieces and nephews but that's the extent of it.

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  • Celia Milton
    October 2020
    Celia Milton ·
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    There are loads of reasons to have an adults only reception, and they've been discussed over and over.

    Use every suggestion here, including specifying the exact people you intend to invite from each family. Don't let them write in numbers or refer to unspecified guests (do you really want your cousin's boyfriend of the week?

    Why anyone would bring a small child to the ceremony (besides RB's and FG's) is beyond me. That is just torture for a kid.

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  • Anonymous
    Devoted August 2012
    Anonymous ·
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    I wrote "Adult Reception" on my RSVP card

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  • Mrs. Christie H~
    Super August 2012
    Mrs. Christie H~ ·
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    We are adding in a little card with our invites that states " We would love for your children to attend the ceremony, however, the reception will be an adult affair. We would love to help you arrange childcare."

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  • Mrs. Ariel
    Expert July 2012
    Mrs. Ariel ·
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    Put "we regretfully cannot accomodate children under the age of" or adult reception

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  • Mrs. Needam
    Super May 2012
    Mrs. Needam ·
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    I just stated adult only reception. Most people understood and didn't become upset about it. We did have a few people call to see if their children could come and I politely told them that the ceremony and reception were for adult only and left it at that.

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