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How to deal with too many people!?

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Maive, on August 10, 2016 at 6:47 PM

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I have been planning for a 150 person wedding all year. It is in two months and my parents still have not finalized the guest list! My dad is mayor of our small town and is now insisting on inviting around 300 people! Its an outdoor wedding, so not a big deal EXCEPT,my back-up chapel venue for if it...

Here are the facts:

1. There Will be 250-300 people coming to the event.

2. If I try to "Put my foot down" and enforce the 150 person guest list, my dad would go behind my back and invite 500 because that's just how he is.

3. I love my dad and I am not going to press this issue so I don't want to hear about how I need to get the guest list down to 150, its just not going to happen so I need to move up!

4. If it doesn't Pour everything would be fine for 300 guests... but this is Texas and when it rains it pours and floods for 3 days straight with no sun in sight.

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Master July 2026
Beatrice · on August 11, 2016 at 11:50 AM
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She just said her dads in the mafia.... Cool
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MrsCollins · on August 11, 2016 at 11:56 AM
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I know that with DW a lot of the time people have a "reception" after their actual wedding day once they get back home to celebrate with everyone that was not able to attend their wedding. I think if you were to do something like this then maybe do it on an entirely different day. More on your idea though, one of my best friends did this, she had her ceremony with her family and then invited family and friends to the reception and no one was offended at all and everyone had a blast. Some may find it rude but if you are feeding them and properly hosting them then I say go for it.
ETA: adding to
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TaylorMade2016 · on August 11, 2016 at 12:07 PM
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I don't see anything wrong with it. To me the ceremony is more intimate and should be with people you actually know. If I didn't know you I would not be offended to only be invited to the party portion of the day!
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NotThatFreakinMary · on August 11, 2016 at 12:08 PM
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Every time I think I'm out you all keep pulling me back in!!
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Master September 2016
JoRocka · on August 11, 2016 at 12:08 PM
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"WHAT THE FUCK KEVIN!"
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OGJessieJV · on August 11, 2016 at 12:26 PM
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Oh Jo, you know how to bring a thread back.

OP, here are your options: a) Accept that you are having a tiered reception that is frowned upon and will most likely have people talking in not a nice way; b) Put your big girl panties on and tell your father "no"; c) have only the amount of people that your venue can actually hold.

Your reception is a thank you for the guests who attend your ceremony. It's a little ridiculous to have them there and not the ceremony, unless you have a truly intimate ceremony (which you are not).

"Gotten" is not the best word choice, I believe you were looking to say "have received", you shouldn't use the passive voice when writing, but at least know which past participle to use.
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