How to deal with too many people!?

Lol my dad didn't take any donations, thats not really how small towns work... at least our small town. He didn't even want to be Mayor but everyone begged him and he is refusing to run for a second term. So don't make too many assumptions.

Also, if you haven't heard of it look it up... most of the time if you are a public figure you are going to have more people at your daughters wedding. It's pretty expected.

I hate to break it to you/your dad, but all those people bad mouthing him will continue to do so whether they are invited or not. And honestly, they may continue to do so due to the fact they were only invited to the reception as a political move on your dads part.

You have gotten great advice from these women. If you already "knew" it was rude (which it is) why the bother in posting to several forums if you already have your answer?

Good luck.

Edit: spelling

Did anyone tell you to leave? I honestly didn't know that we were known like that... but rude is rude.

Lol because I wasn't sure if it would be seen as rude honestly. I never said that I already Knew that... I am not sure where people are getting that! >.<

Most of the people who have responded to me actually have said it would be fine... 90% of wedding wire is Not okay with it... while 90% of the two other groups I have posted in Are okay with it and/or have actually done it and said it worked out really well and it's not rude... so... It's about 40/60 at this point with 40% finding it rude. Thats a good number so I'm not discounting it at all and I have said I will consider it!

What do you want me to say? Should I have no backbone at all and be like.. well.... some people on a wedding wire forum told me such and such so I guess thats what I have to do now...

Id have a $70,000 wedding if I did everything wedding wire forum members suggested! Lighten up a little! Even if I go through with my "tiered wedding" Life goes on.... <3

Yes Erin, people have told me to leave. lol It is beyond me how people can get So caught up in someone elses wedding plans! I just asked a few questions and suddenly I'm a bitch because I haven't said I am 100% doing what some of you want me to do... crazy

Uh yeah, you just kind of (completely) underscored my "princess" statement all over again.

You're acting like an entitled, spoiled child. Why aren't you getting similar information from the "other forums" (which, by the way, Facebook is not actually a forum, it is social media. There is a difference,) you have been polling? Because people are willfully being ignorant of etiquette and think it doesn't apply to them. Just like you.

"Traditional" etiquette is not a thing. Etiquette is, in fact, a very real thing. It is a set of social rules that, in the case of a wedding, are considered the minimum an individual should do/consider/follow to avoid being rude to their guests. The fact that you are happy to shirk doing the MINIMUM for your guests because you're afraid of daddy tells volumes about you and who you are as a person.

So what are you, 18? 20? Or are you daddy's little angel who has never had to fend for herself?

I live in one of those small towns like your father was elected to. He got asked because of what we, where I live, refer to the "good ol' boys" system, meaning because one person acts as head jerk in his social circle, therefore said circle backs them in whatever endeavors they take on, because he will keep his underling jerks happy and comfortable. I know EXACTLY how it works, princess.

I suggest if you're going to continue to come here and abuse the hospitality of this forum (which incidentally was not actually *rude* to you until you became unbearably entitled in addition to incredibly rude yourself,) that you prepare for people to remind you of this particular incident for the remainder of your time here, or ignore your questions due to your inability to accept the fact that what you are CHOOSING to do is rude and gross, period.

Stop hiding behind daddy. You're an adult. Act like it. If you wanted to change how the wedding was being handled, you could woman up and pay for it yourself and just not tell him what you were doing until it was time, but you're too busy living off of daddy to bother with that, aren't you, princess?

I don't really get why you can't have a different back up venue. I would say tents, but I am not use to Texas flooding so maybe that wont work. I don't think i was rude to you, but I do think that what you are thinking of doing is rude - but maybe you don't care....

I am having both my ceremony and reception at the same place, but for my ceremony I can only have 150 guests, because we are doing it in there spa area. And the rest of my guests will only be invited to my reception, about 100 more people. I wanted to be able to invite all my guests to both but that's the rules of where I want my ceremony.

You actually are the one with the pissy attitude! The gag me comment came after your initial pissy response and was well deserved.

I read all the damn comments. You're not getting it.

And thanks for proving my point.

"One person has yet to say it might be rude." And yet you STILL decided that wasn't good enough and decided to solicit more advice on a forum which you said you'd come across "etiquette nazi's"? What the fuck did you expect then? So you knew the answers before you posted!

AGAIN: Why are you here then?!

You got your answer. Bye "wedding photographer"!

Caught up on someone else's wedding plans?! LMAO

We can't get caught up in it if IT WASN'T POSTED.

Who was the one who came here for advice?

Is that you JANE???

@Emily: I don't "believe" that I'm blunt and not rude, I *know* it. Have I been rude here? Absolutely. After OP opened fire, I'm not going to just sit back and let people like you and her say whatever you want to me. I spent too much of my life taking crap like that from people like you and her, people who have their nose so high in the sky they think they're above everyone else. Nobody gets to treat me that way anymore, especially not someone like the OP or you.

By the way, how are you still here? You do an AWFUL lot of personal attacks, yet you have yet to be banned. Hmm...

And there we have it: OP was baiting, along with Emily.

COME ON MODS! This is your job!!!

Got on Safari and looked, answered my own question.

I'm curious the wedding is outside and the church is your backup plan IF it rains. Do you have an indoor reception space to hold 300-500 people that will be invitited in the case that it rains? Honestly, if it's just your dad's people he is basically obligated to invite I don't see the problem with not inviting them to the ceremony. I doubt they would even care to see your actual vows.

Tell him to pay for the nearest convention center/stadium type of place

You yourself said it was too many people so why try to accommodate them.

What's your FH's take on this?

You've been on forums all of your life? You're 28 sweetheart, not 98.

Adios!!!!

Literally..

Who is paying?

Personally, I would never allow strangers to be at my wedding. No way in hell. However, my parents respect boundaries, apparently something your dad has problems with. I also would never attend the wedding of a person I didn't know, so maybe all these extra people won't come. Still, its up to you to plan for full attendance and for all situations, including rain. It sounds like your only feasible option is to find a ceremony venue that can actually accommodate all of your guests, or have the ceremony outside and have tents on reserve in case it rains.