How to deal with too many people!?

Since today is #TBT - I really like Lindsey and Evan's Ed Hardy t-shirts and heavily stitched jeans.

I'm sorry, this is ridiculous. Even Chelsea Clinton's wedding was smallish.

You need to have a sit down with your parents and let them know your wedding is not a political rally. And if you're caving because they're paying?

Time to step up, redo the whole plan and pay for it yourself.

And a tiered reception is screaming rude, just for the record.

I"d just get married on a float in the town 4th of July parade. Problem solved.

So I actually find this no different than people who post an open invite to their congregation for the ceremony and not the reception and that is considered acceptable. These are political constituents (and we can get into the ugh of that later) and people you don't know, but people your dad wants there for political purposes. I mean, I'm picturing campaign donors who likely don't even know your name. To suggest that they give a flying fig about being invited to watch you say "I do" is pretty ridiculous. They probably don't even know you exist, but I'm guessing your dad feels like he has to invite them. So in this case and this case only, I don't consider this a tiered wedding in the traditional sense and I think it would be fine.

You really need to stand up to your dad. Seriously. You're an adult.

OP, your dad doesn't *have* to invite everyone and their dog. He *wants* to.

This isn't Jane, at least Jane could carry the haughtiness in her posts, this is just a daddy's girl screaming because 6 people couldn't be bothered enough to tell her that you can't keep your pony in your bedroom ("you do you honey" and all that), and 4 people told her that if she keeps her pony in her bedroom, the place will end up being a steamy pile of poop.

Have your pony in your bedroom! Go for it, don't let us ruin your vision!

("You're not ruining my vision, I could care less (sic), I do what I want").

I know OP is super rude buuuut did anyone else see how @Ashley is advocating for her since she is doing the same thing?? "I am having both my ceremony and reception at the same place, but for my ceremony I can only have 150 guests, because we are doing it in there spa area. And the rest of my guests will only be invited to my reception, about 100 more people. I wanted to be able to invite all my guests to both but that's the rules of where I want my ceremony."

To me this is more of a vent than an ask advice. All I can say is good luck. I would personally tell Dad that you really appreciate all the pressure, and him making your and FH's day all about his political aspirations.

Mary? Did you come back?

Honestly I would be OK with just coming to your reception. I would be offended if it where the other way around but hey that's me

Yes! I think it's totally fine, especially since you are going to be feeding them. My fiancé and I have decided that we do not want all of our high school friends at the ceremony but we would love for them to come and celebrate with us. We are not inviting them so they bring us gifts or anything, we just believe that our family would rather come to the ceremony and our friends would rather come to the "party". I know you live in text so maybe it's not so common there, but where I'm from, it's pretty common to do that.

You are a 4 star poster so you should of known the drama this would of caused. So don't play the victim. But I would not be upset if I was invited to a reception only, now I would if it was just to the ceremony.

Can't believe this person I've never heard of thinks MNA (someone I see often and is a respected member of the community) is a troll...

I don't even get why anyone thinks they are so fascinating that 500 people want to come to their wedding.

Guys....mafia weddings have 500+ guests, ok?!

1: "gotten" is not a word. Period.

2: MNA a troll...? OK.

3: I am doing my best to have an etiquette friendly wedding according to the wise words of those here at WW and it is NOT costing me $70,000. And TBH it wouldn't cost you that either. Daddy is paying, remember.

4: Dad pays Dad says. Just remind him to inform the caterer and bar of the increase.

5: WW folks are known to be etiquette nazis yet you say you don't want us to respond about etiquette breach???? Yeah, snowflake, no problem.

ETA: seriously WW... Fix the app!

Why would he even need to invite his political constituents if he doesnt want to be Mayor (but you know, they "begged" him) and has no plans on running for office again? Is it just me, or are there sprinkles of humblebrag throughout this?

By the way all the things on that thread are tacky. I'm just not going to comment on it and deal with scorn.

I know you said your dad is not to be reasoned with, but do you really want hundreds of strangers at your wedding? I feel really bad he's put you in this position. I know I would hate every second of that. I really would reconsider talking to him. Take him out to lunch just the two of you and explain how much your wedding means to you. You can explain you really would prefer close friends and family at this really important life event. This is assuming of course you don't want your wedding to be a town hall meeting. He's your dad, hopefully he'll understand!

@FutureMrs.DCT - this was most definitely an "ask".

OP:

"I want to know if it is acceptable…."

"Let me know if this is doable?"

"............but I wanted to know your thoughts..."

IDK, maybe it's just me, but those look like questions to me and a poster seeking ADVICE.