How to collect addresses? And guest list woes

I asked straight out. "What's your address? I'm old fashioned and got an address book to keep everyone's sh!t straight for future christmas cards, etc." -- works best because it doesn't give them the assumption they're already invited just in case you have to do last minute guest list cuts.

CUT CUT CUT the guest list!!!! Start with people you haven't spoken or seen in over 6 months. It doesn't make sense to pay x amount of $$ for someone you don't speak too or see regularly.

Okay. I just think it will be super obvious to anyone if I ask them for their address that I'm going to send them an invitation. Then I don't want anyone's feelings hurt.

I made the mistake of telling some of my uncles it was for my wedding and now I don't think they're invited, but ya know? I don't care (he's crazy religious and I'm not...). However, when I asked I did mention the future of Christmas cards. And someday, I'd like to send everyone birthday cards like my Aunt used to do

I asked straight out through email and facebook.

We also decided our guest list should only be people who we speak to on regular basis.

@Kathleen - that's why you tell people that you bought an address book & you'd like to start keeping up with addresses for the holidays & birthdays ... this whay it isn't as obvious. I highly recommend cutting the guest list before you start collecting the addresses- 301 vs. 150 is a HUGE difference.

I made the guest list first, did an A & B list, A= those you absolutely want there B= who you would like to have there..

I have alot of ott guests, theres a guest list address finder thing on here. if you go to my wedding on the top, then guests, then collect addresses it collects it through email, i didnt have hardly any email address, so I just sent a simple message individually saying "Our Wedding Plans Have Begun, Can you please send me your address".. make sure you do it seperate other wise everyone will have each others address.

I second what Kimi suggested. Just ask straight out for your addie book.

Can you cut your list at all? Is it okay for you and your budget?

I did facebook but made a "b" list before I did it

You just have to straight up ask your friends and family.

If you want to be more discreet, whitepages.com is a great way to stalk people for addresses - knowing the general city/area and full name are all that is needed. Good luck with your hunting!

We collected addresses of the people that were on our A-list first and sent them STDs. I would be wary of asking for addresses when you're not 100% sure that you're going to invite them. Be sure you know who you're inviting before asking for addresses. It's nice and sneaky to say you got a new address book, but anyone who knows you're planning is going to assume that it's for that.

That said, once you've figured out who you definitely want to invite, just ask them straight out. I think I even asked one fried for her address and said, "Can you send me your address? I want to make sure a certain big, fat envelope gets to you!"

I just messaged people on Facebook that I knew I was going to invite. It was just the easiest way to communicate with everyone. I got the parents to call anyone without a Facebook.

First get your guest list squared away..you dont want to ask people for the address and then not invite them.

I was fortunate enough to inherit an address book that my grandma had made for my brothers wedding (and then she updated right before she died in 2009) so I was able to use that.

For those I did not have or I knew had moved, I simply asked on facebook--they were mainly family.

For those I couldn't or didn't want to ask, I used whitepages.com

I think Kimi's idea is great. Christmas cards is a great decoy since Christmas will occur before you need to send out invitations.

I do need to add that the addresses I'm collecting aren't for all 301 guests. We're hoping to send VIP out of town guests save the dates soon, and these are the addresses I'm collecting right now. So for now, these people are going to get invited no matter what. I will definitely wait to collect addresses on the rest of the guests, in case they end up cut.

I did the Christmas card thing too. It worked great! I emailed my friends for their addresses because I wanted to send them Christmas cards (but then you have to send them Christmas cards too! I didn't mind). For other addresses I asked family and friends for other people's addresses and looked in the church directory.

I just sent the people I'm friends with on facebook a message saying "Could you send me your address so I can send you an invite when the time comes?" I wouldn't recommend doing that unless you're absolutely sure they're going to end up being invited, but it sounds like you are already on top of that

I did just that- started a facebook message with everyone I needed addresses for and said please reply here or send me a private message with it. I had all my addressed in only a few days!!!!

I just messaged people on facebook but only after I finalized our A- List. We originally had 350 people on our guest list but finally cut it back to under 250.

Since Christmas is close, you can definitely use that as an excuse to get their addresses... I guess you'd have to make sure and send them Christmas cards but at least you would have their addresses and don't have to worry about sending them an invite if you manage to cut your guest list!