How much to give for wedding gift?

If FH and I are both going $300

Maybe more for close friends/family

I'm in the camp that you do the best you can with what you can afford- there shouldn't be an expectation of $X amount of dollars or covering the plate (and the amount certainly shouldn't be based on the quality of food etc- this isn't tipping at a restaurant).

I have never even thought to give cash for a wedding. I usually spend $100 to buy a gift or gifts off the registry.

I've never given less than $150 (as single, $300 as couple) if I'm writing a check. For the shower, the cost of the gift would vary depending on how close I am to the bride. I've purchased $200 gifts and $25 dollar gifts for showers. It really does matter on your financial situation though. When I was in school and didn't have a job they usually got something on the low end of their registry.

I give based on what I can afford at the time and I always pick something from the registry. The bride picks things in all price ranges for a reason. Where I'm from, people don't really give cash; it's considered in poor form and gift cards aren't even really socially acceptable. Granted, I've gone in with a group on a bridal shower gift before because we were all in grad school at the time and couldn't singly afford anything on that bride's registry!

There is actually a tool online that gives a rough estimate of what you could give based on your income, where you live, your relationship to the couple etc. I'm pretty young so I usually only give 150-200 to couples. I think it's very dependent on your situation

@twostep127 that's really weird. You give what you feel comfortable whether that's more or less than they gave. You shouldn't say "well they only gave us $50 5 years ago so that's what they get"

I typically like to pick out gifts on their registry. Only the past 2 years have DH and I been established enough to buy more expensive items. But I like to personalize them. So for instance I bought the griddle and cooking utensils they wanted plus pancake mix, syrup and my favorite couples book called "what happy couples do" which talks about making memories and traditions with your spouse. I like to add onto their items to make it special.

Holy crap! I want to get married where you all are getting married! Most people around here give $50 as a singleton and $100 as a couple. I'd be flabbergasted if any of my friends gave us $100 or more...and we are all middle class folks.

I agree with most people. It depends on the relationship and what you can afford. If I got invited to a wedding where I didn't know the bride or groom and barely knew the other one I would simply not go, I wouldn't go and then not give them a gift because their wedding wasn't up to my standards or they didn't greet me properly. That's just rude!

I think it depends on your financial situation. When I got married the first time, I had bridesmaids that did not give me a gift at all because they were still in college and did not have much money. I was just glad they were able to make it. I also do not make much money and with having 300 dollars spending money a month after bills, a 50 dollars gift for a wedding is huge. I could not afford to give 200 for a family member and I would hope people would understand that. I would much rather have people enjoy my wedding than pressure then to pay a certain amount.

I guess what I am saying is that I do not think there is a standard that is ok since every event and personal situation is different. Also, I dont understand keeping track to make it even. If one person made 100000 a year and another person made 30000, it is unfair to expect them to give the same monetary value gift to each other for a wedding.

I think giving at least $200 is tasteful. We also received between $0 and $1,000 for our wedding from guests.

I am in strong agreement with Brooke about it being extremely rude by taking back a card based upon the fact if the couple came up to YOU during their special day. They thought enough of you to invite you to spend that day with them. Looking back, wouldn't it have been more appropriate of you to make the effort to come up to them? Perhaps they had a lot on their minds, and did not actually do it to intentionally snub you. Either way, plain rude and a cheap excuse to not give them anything.

Straight from WeddingWire's Registry Guide: "The average guest typically spends $181 on a wedding gift"

WeddingWire Registry Guide

The Rules of Wedding Gift Giving

WeddingWire did some research on this and came out with several suggestions on how to gift, depending on your relationship to the couple! This article should be helpful

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-ideas/how-much-to-spend-on-a-wedding-gift

I got with the cost of the dinner + drinks. About a $100 is about right depending on the circumstances. My go to present is an etched champagne bottle (etchingx.com) with a photo if I have one. I always get good comments because it's so unique and not something from a big box store.

My inclination is for cash gifts I wouldn't go below $100.00, especially if you're a couple. No reasoning behind it, it's just what feels right to me. However, if somebody gave ME under $100.00 cash, I definitely would not be offended or less grateful.

I think if finances didn't allow me to give $100.00 cash or check I'd just go with a registry gift. For me personally, as much as we'd all love to walk out of our wedding with fat wallets, my fiancé and I genuinely need a lot of household items so registry gifts at the wedding are A-OK with me.