How much to give for wedding gift?

Out of curiosity are you asking because you are about to go to a wedding and you want to make sure you're giving appropriately or are you trying to determine what you will receive?

1) Yes where the couple is holding it comes into play. If I shelled out $2000 to come see the wedding and had to take time off work, the gift is just going to be less.

2) No. Paying for your plate is outdated. Your gift to the couple should not be tied to the amount of money they spent trying to feed you.

Where I'm from the average is $200 - $300 from a couple, in cash or a cheque. If it's from a single person it's usually $150 - $200. People around here don't give physical gifts at weddings.

ETA: If you request money in any form i.e. a Honeyfund, you get a lovely card, no cash.

Immediate family member $400 ($100 shower gift & $300 cash at wedding)

Close friend or family $200 ($50 shower gift & $150 cash at wedding)

Acquaintance $100 ($25 shower gift & $75 cash at wedding)

We usually do 200 for FH and I on average. Typically if it's close family or friend, more.

We have done up to $300 from FH and I but our average is $200. Plus when I go to the bridal shower I spend about $50-$75

Writing a gift check after you determine if the food is worth it is rude and displays superficial character. Gifts should be given according to your relationship with the person and your budget for giving. I do have sort of standard amounts I give based on how close I am with the person and what event I am attending (shower, wedding, declining wedding but sending gift) but those amounts don't have any bearing on how they host me or what they have given me in the past. Gross.

Same lines as Katie.

If you are a close friend or family, we may gift you something large for your shower and call it a day (the china, Kitchenaid come to mind).

I have not changed the amount but I am not ashamed to admit that at one wedding where I never met the bride and hadn't seen the groom since he was a baby and there was no effort to meet and greet (receiving line, going to tables), I took my card and check home with me.

I am such a biatch.

$200-$300 for FI and I, depending on our relationship with the couple. We live

Side note: I plan on keeping a list of what our unmarried friends give us and referencing it to give a similar amount down the road. Not necessarily tit for tat since financial situations could change for better or worse, just would feel strange if it was too uneven on either side.

I agree with everyone on here. I give like $200-$300 for us or if I go or what have you

We usually give $100 in addition to a nice shower gift. Although honestly, most of the weddings we've attended up to now were right after college and before we both had full-time jobs. So we'd probably give more now.

$100 if its just me, $200 if its FH and I. A bit more for people we are close to. If its someone both my sister and/or mom are close to, we'll usually go in together and get one of the larger, nicer gifts from the registry for the shower as well.

Here's the thing with averages though, do what makes you comfortable. My sister got married when I was a sophomore in college, and just got her a couple

cutesy things from her registry (candle, apron, measuring cups... All from Anthropologie so they were really cute and different) but if she was married now we would be able to get her more because of where we are at financially. So really, it depends on person, income, etc. there's no set amount. For me though, it's all about relationship. My culture invites basically EVERYONE to their weddings (I'm not doing that) so I've been to some where I just brought a little grocery list because I barely knew the person... But once again, that's all cultural.

"Out of curiosity are you asking because you are about to go to a wedding and you want to make sure you're giving appropriately or are you trying to determine what you will receive?" A bit of both to be honest. I think I over give for weddings/ showers .. and want to start to adjust that. I am having a wedding in the Summer.. but I have 2 before mine. So it is crazy time with all of this!!

"but those amounts don't have any bearing on how they host me or what they have given me in the past. Gross."

Hmm.. I keep a record of what is given. I think it makes complete sense..

Rachel, You're not the first person on WW I've heard say that, and it just rubs me the wrong way. Gifts should come from the heart without the expectation of equal reciprocation. I just don't believe tit for tat is in the spirit of giving.

I usually do between 50-100 for shower gifts and 200-300 check.

ETA: For what it's worth, at my wedding, we had gifts of $0 and gifts of over $1000. There doesn't really seem to be an average, at least in our group.

"I have not changed the amount but I am not ashamed to admit that at one wedding where I never met the bride and hadn't seen the groom since he was a baby and there was no effort to meet and greet (receiving line, going to tables), I took my card and check home with me.

I am such a biatch."

I have done something similar.. I took blank check, and depending on how I was greeted if at all..is what determined what I gave.

Depends on how much I know/like them.

I'm with BookcaseHat - most of what I've given in the past was before we were settled in our careers, so we probably gave around $50-$60 a gift. Now that we're older we can afford to give more. (ETA: I've never been to a wedding that had a dinner, or dancing, or even a cake. I'm guessing our $60 was well over the "plated" amount they spent. #smalltowns)

Although I never give cash, I love picking out presents for someone and spend a long time choosing, so I don't give based on $ amount, I give what I think they'll love (yes, I'm THAT guest that goes off registry).