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Just Said Yes July 2022

How long is too long to be engaged?

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McKenna, on January 1, 2020 at 11:52 PM

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Hey everyone! I’m super new to this app (literally stumbled upon it today), and although my fiancé and I have known each other for 7 years now (dating for 1 year), and got engaged this Christmas Eve, I’m wondering if July 2020 is too soon to plan for our wedding date? We’re young, and our careers have just started launching this past year alone in 2019, so our savings is still pretty bare (it was a bad year for us both honestly, one awful thing after another).
I know weddings are famously known to be expensive, and we’re also hoping to move out of our apartment for a house sometime this year. I’m trying to be reasonable and think of finances. If we get married in 2020, I feel like we’ll have to postpone our house-buying dreams for another year or two to re-save the money spent on our wedding, and vice versa if we get a home this year and have to postpone the wedding.
I feel like 2022 is so far away though, and is a long time to be engaged. Is that silly, or is it kind of strange to hold off on the actual wedding for that long of a period? Thanks for your time!

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Just Said Yes June 2021
Shannon · on January 3, 2020 at 10:28 AM
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To each their own. My fiance and I got engaged July '16 after a year and a half of dating and will be getting married June '20. We only set the date in Feb '19.
The time has given us the opportunity to become more financially stable "as a couple", learn eachother far more than we did in that year and a half, raise our son, and so much more.
We also have been able to plan the wedding to be exactly what we want it to be, and save accordingly versus taking short cuts because we can't afford not to. As a matter of a fact, we paid off our $15k venue in 6 months. Could have never done that 2-3 years ago.Do what's best for you and FH, no regrets. After all, no real rush. You love eachother and have committed to a lifetime together. Time is at your disposal. Especially to create your perfect day.
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Melanie · on January 3, 2020 at 11:44 AM
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My fiancé and myself have been together for almost 8 years and engaged for 8 months. We put off our wedding until July 16, 2022 because of student loans. Plus it gives us enough time to save money for the wedding. Waiting is not bad especially if youll be able to save money.
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Tamatha · on January 3, 2020 at 12:16 PM
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That’s tough ...🤔🤔 Money shouldn’t ever out way love! But if it’s your idea to have a some what expensive wedding then I say wait. Weigh your priorities do you love this person enough to scratch a wedding and elope and concentrate your finances towards home buying??? To me 2022 isn’t promised and we tend to take a lot of things for granted. I got engaged 9/2/2019 and married 12/8/2019 on a $1500 budget it’s possible and closed on a house 12/18/19 stressful yes but all things are possible with God on your side!!! Your young like you said lots of things to think about I wish all the wishes and blessings I can possibly give! Lol
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Katelyn · on January 3, 2020 at 12:17 PM
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We got engaged in July 2018, and are getting married October 2020. A little over two years of being engaged - around 7 years of dating before we get married. I have enjoyed the long engagement - we got all the big things booked in September 2018, then we bought a house in February 2019, and then we got the smaller things booked October 2019. It has also allowed us enough time to save more money - sometimes I feel that I wish I had more time so I could keep saving! I prefer the longer engagement - no need to rush! Sometimes I just wish it were here already, but I definitely don't regret having a 27 month engagement (by the time we are married)! It's all about what is most important to you!
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Amphone · on January 3, 2020 at 2:05 PM
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In a scheme of things...2 years seems long but it is not. It goes by quick. Not only so.. I have been married once already. We did a shotgun wedding and I regret it. Not much pictures.. and it didn't last. If this is your forever.. 2 years isn't long.
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Kendra · on January 3, 2020 at 2:11 PM
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To be honest, I'd get married first. One, the home buying process could take a while, and then you'd already have the security of marriage before making a huge life decision.

I got engaged in October 2019 and we are getting married May 2020. It will have been about a 8 month engagement. It's way too long. We are paying for it ourselves and while we are pinching pennies to save, we are getting the wedding we want. I got a dress from BHLDN and had it within a week of ordering. I still need to get it altered but I'm only waiting because I have the time. I planned everything in the first few weeks because I just chose to be decisive. When you're engaged forever, the budget gets out of control (because you keep seeing more amazing ideas) and it just starts to feel like forever away.

Just my two cents. Looking back, I wish we had gotten married way sooner (yes, I realize we aren't married yet). But, I found a venue I wanted and didn't want to get married in the Winter lol. Good luck!
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C · on January 3, 2020 at 2:30 PM
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My fiancé and I have been together 6 years, got engaged October 2019, and are planning our wedding for October 2021 I wanted 2020 but we felt like under a year would be too stressful for us as we both have full time jobs and are very busy. I think that 2 years will feel long for us but will be a lot less stressful and also allow us time to save up for the wedding
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Latonya · on January 3, 2020 at 2:46 PM
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Only you can answer that. you will know how long you need to save and prep for the wedding you want to have. My FH and I were engaged 2/2019 and are having our wedding 4/2021.
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Samantha · on January 3, 2020 at 4:28 PM
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Congratulations on your engagement! I agree with the majority the length of your engagement depends on what is best for you guys. It can suck to have competing goals but it'll all be worth it in the end!!
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Just Said Yes September 2021
Samantha · on January 3, 2020 at 4:57 PM
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We got engaged in February of 2018. We are in the same situation as you, expect we are building are home. We hope to have it finished this summer, then start wedding planning. Our date is set for Sep 2021. It's honestly sooooo much better on us financially and mentally. We've had friends that had short engagements and it was nerve wracking to me to help plan then. I truly believe that it depends on your guys priorities. You can never be engaged too long or too short. Do what is best for you guys.
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Savvy October 2020
Mary · on January 3, 2020 at 5:40 PM
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Hi you can be engaged for as long as you BOTH wish to be. Your concerns are valid. Just continue to be honest and upfront with your fiance. Everything will work out as it should.
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Juli · on January 3, 2020 at 7:16 PM
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Hi! 2022 is honestly not that far. Trust me when I say time will fly lol. I got engaged 2018 and now I’m getting married next month lol. We’re also in the middle of buying a house so you can imagine how finances are driving me crazy 😂

Talk about where you guys are financially and what both of you can contribute
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Esmeralda · on January 3, 2020 at 7:20 PM
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I got engaged in july this past year and was planning to have my wedding this which is why I just got this app lol but I definitely think that being enganged for a year or 2 is okay because you get all that time to look for the perfect place save money and buy things here and there and keep them stored for the when the time come and you wont have to spend so much I would think !
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Gabbie · on January 3, 2020 at 7:27 PM
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You can be engaged for as long as you want. If youre having it in 2020, it's nearly too late to plan actually because things get booked up fast. Maybe 2021 is a good year?
You can have a wedding for under 2000$ if you look in the right places, and thats where i am rn. It depends on what your priorities/preferences are. If you want a huge fancy wedding, then you need to wait. If youre happy with a sweet and simple ceremony w/ a cake/punch reception, and your goal is the sooner the better, then you can have it sooner. It doesnt mean youre rushing into it. Your preference just might be something small to begin with
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Savvy October 2021
Jessica · on January 3, 2020 at 7:46 PM
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Yay on your engagement! As for your question, I don't think waiting until 2021 is too long to be engaged. I got engaged July of 2019 and our wedding is October 17, 2020. Additionally, with so many things going on, time will fly by. I thought I was giving myself and my fiance a good amount of time to plan our dream wedding, but even a year and a half is proving to be a little less time than I would ideally want. It isn't uncommon for venues to get booked a year in advance and wedding dresses typically take 8 months to a minimum of 6 months to arrive once you have ordered them. I'm just now scheduling bridal appointments and am worried I will be rushed, which is the last thing I want. I wish you both all the best and think you should definitely go with a later date.
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ASMini914 · on January 3, 2020 at 10:26 PM
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I think it just depends on you guys, and what your priorities are. We got engaged end of December 2018, wedding was September 2019. Had plenty of time to plan (even had some downtime in there for vacations). That being said, we didn’t get our first pick on vendors, and were lucky to not need to be saving for the wedding while we were planning.
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Savvy October 2021
Mikayla · on January 3, 2020 at 11:53 PM
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Just wanted you to know most bridal stores will take up to 6 months to order in A dress. Granted. that is if someone isn’t making yours or your wearing a family’s gown or even getting on that’s off the shelf.
It also takes about that long for bridesmaid dresses to come in.
So just think about part of how long things take to be orders or to come along with planning. I do agree that you need at least 9 months to plan.
One other thing with money being tight, look at Pinterest’s idea on how to work with a lower budget for your dream wedding. You also might think about maybe having a small simple ceremony and reception.
I hope that some of these ideas help.
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Expert June 2020
Kelsi · on January 4, 2020 at 1:05 AM
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Girl, I know someone who has been engaged for 12 years! Stay engaged for as long as is best for you!
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Shaun’Terria · on January 4, 2020 at 1:35 AM
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I just got engaged dec 20th and my wedding date 9-11-2020
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Dedicated June 2021
Kenzie · on January 4, 2020 at 2:13 AM
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I don’t think 2022 is too far off at all! I got engaged 4/13/19 and I’m getting married 6/12/21. It seems like all the time in the world but it sure goes fast and I’ve enjoyed being able to slowly save and wedding plan.
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