Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Just Said Yes July 2022

How long is too long to be engaged?

Flag
Hide content

McKenna, on January 1, 2020 at 11:52 PM

Posted in Planning 102

Hey everyone! I’m super new to this app (literally stumbled upon it today), and although my fiancé and I have known each other for 7 years now (dating for 1 year), and got engaged this Christmas Eve, I’m wondering if July 2020 is too soon to plan for our wedding date? We’re young, and our careers have just started launching this past year alone in 2019, so our savings is still pretty bare (it was a bad year for us both honestly, one awful thing after another).
I know weddings are famously known to be expensive, and we’re also hoping to move out of our apartment for a house sometime this year. I’m trying to be reasonable and think of finances. If we get married in 2020, I feel like we’ll have to postpone our house-buying dreams for another year or two to re-save the money spent on our wedding, and vice versa if we get a home this year and have to postpone the wedding.
I feel like 2022 is so far away though, and is a long time to be engaged. Is that silly, or is it kind of strange to hold off on the actual wedding for that long of a period? Thanks for your time!

Show all

102 Comments

Just Said Yes October 2022
Marquisha · on January 31, 2020 at 3:56 PM
Flag

Hide content
Our wedding date is set for October 15, 2022. We both sat down and broke down costs of the wedding we both want (luckily, where we live, you can plan a fairly budget-friendly wedding) and decided 2022 would be the best. We are both currently working on things individually also, so the dust will all be settled by the end of next year. I'm all for a long engagement. I don't mind to admire my ring and do some shopping here and there for the big day. I hate to feel overly rushed and this is the perfect way to keep that at bay!
- Reply

Dedicated May 2021
Gabbie · on February 1, 2020 at 2:56 PM
Flag

Hide content
Weddings don't have to be expensive. If your wedding has to be huge and regal, then wait. I'm having a small and intimate ceremony with about 60 guests. Out budget is 3000$ and we've made everything work so far. We've planned the main things (photography, venues, cake), which added up to a little over a thousand. By the time we actually have our wedding, we will have been engaged for 16 months, which I think is a normal time. People don't usually get married within the year they were engaged. Also, the tradition is that the father pays for the daughters wedding. Talk to yours/his parents and see what they think about the ordeal. If you don't want to ask for money, just ask for advice and see where it takes you.

If you think youll need more than a few thousand dollar budget to be happy with your wedding, then definitely wait. There doesn't need to be a time constraint, and factors of your life like housing are much more important. It just so happens that marriage will lower the cost of housing and college for me when FH and I move after we get married. Look into your auto/ health insurance to get an idea of the money you can save for being married on taxes/insurance. It may just offset the expense of marriage.
- Reply