how do you write out your invitations if the grooms parents are divorced

Hi Kristen ~ welcome to WW

Use the line "together with their parents" and not mention anyone individually.

or

Mr. and Mrs. Ryan Doe

are pleased to announce

the marriage of their daughter

Kristen Lynn

to

Michael Bob

Son of Ms. Alice James

and Mr. Steven Adams

(separate lines means they are not together) Is she ok with that?

We did "Together with their parents.."

His parents are the same way :/. FH doesn't want to have to 'choose' as to avoid any more conflict [which is really sad because their divorce was like over 10 years ago & everybody is still bitter haha <---- I laugh to avoid the stress!].

I'm also in the "together with their parents" camp.

Just made it easier seeing as both sets of parents are divorced, his are re-married, and we are paying for a lot of it anyways.

We have managed to put our feelings aside. The "steps" on the bride's side are not on the invites at all. Cate's father and I are hosting the event.

Cate's invites read:

Mr. Father of Cate and Mrs. Carole M.

request the honor of your prescence at the Nuptial Mass of their daughter,

Cate

to

Dom

Son of Mr. and Mrs. Bob and Joan Smith

on Saturday, the eleventh of August

Two thousand and Twelve

at two o'clock

Catholic Church

Catholic Church's Address

Cate's father and I are walking her down the altar. She is including the steps by having my DH and the ex's wife carry up the gifts to the altar.

During the Sign of Peace at Mass, when roses are given to the mothers, they are only being given to Dom's mother and me.

For the dances, Cate will dance with my DH while the groom is dancing with the ex's wife. It will be announced but only solo enough for the photo op and then the guests are invited to join.

We did just our names, but we paid for the wedding ourselves. You get to do that if you pay. These are wonderful responses.

We also did the "together with our parents" because both of us are children of divorced and remarried parents.

My daughter used "Their names, invite you to celebrate with us" because both sets of parents are divorced my ex and I are agreeable with each other, his parents are not!! While my ex and I made significant contributions and his parents didn't we didn't feel that we needed to be credited on the invitations. We were both surprised when they thanked us at the wedding for all that we did to help make their day so special and they also thanked both of his parents for being there to celebrate with them because it meant a lot to both of them that they were there.

What about using just your parents names and not his...

just leaving off the "son of" part.

Traditionally, the only names on the invitations (besides the Bride & Groom) are who ever is paying for/ contributing to the wedding. If all sets of parents aren't contributing you dont *have* to put them on there.

I would also lean towards "together with their parents" since it sounds like they probably don't even want their names on the same page as the other.

Good luck!

I did together with their parents too.

my parents were divorced and my mom is deceased and i am still close to my stepdad. so crazy complicated and I just couldnt deal.

We just left out our parents all together. My parents are helping a bit financially, but agreed that they didn't care if they were on the invites or not, so we nixed it!

We used

It is with great joy the we,

Jennifer

and

Gary

together with our familes,

invite you to join us as we exchange wedding vows....

I have a few 'steps' in there as well and thought that the word family as opposed to parents included more people without really having to say thank-you to each individual person.

We did it as my parents inviting everyone and i'm getting married to the son of Mr. John Smith and Mrs. Jane Doe!!! it keeps confusion down if they are both married which was our case, the steps can't really complain because they had no help in birthing him.

"Together with their parents" worked for us.

Otherwise, do what Hayley said, that's perfect.

I will tell you that I am the mother of the groom and it was EXTREMELY hurtfull to get the invite only to find out that I was not mentioned. I am a single mother & have been since my children were 2&3. I've raised my children to the best of my abilities & love them more than life itself. The brides parents are paying for the wedding as I am not in the position to. I have offered to help out on many occasions & am paying for some of my guests. Not to be included on the invitations is not only hurtful but in my opinion, disrespectful & in poor taste. Just my opinion though.

I have cried countless nights over the lack of compassion that has been shown to the grooms family. I feel that marriage is not only a union of two people but, of two families. It is not a good way to start a marriage with feelings being hurt over an event that is possibly 5 hours long. Just add a stupid line to include both parents regardless of who pays. Trust me.. it's for the best all around.

I agree with Ms. Despite parents financial situation, I listed both of our parents. It doesn't matter if they contribute a penny, they raised me.