How do you handle bridesmaid drama.

The best way to avoid bridesmaid drama is not to have a wedding party to begin with

But since you have bridesmaids... You don't ask them to change their appearance (her hair color) and you don't require they get their hair and makeup formally done if you are not paying for it. If you aren't paying, they don't have to get it done and can do it themselves or do it wherever they prefer.

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I believe she said she was NOT requiring, nothing about requiring.

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It is insanely cheap again we have 5 taco places in town the price are completive and its buffet style so I am not paying them to cook in front of us or it would have been $10. There will be more than just you get a taco sorry that all I could pay for. There will be multiple sides 3 different meat choice kid friendly options as well. Also cake, a donut wall and sweets table. My MIL also wants to bring fried chicken. I am so confused on to why A.L us attacking my entire wedding from venue to food.

View Quoted Comment I'm with you. If all the BM's originally agreed to paying for their hair and make up from the OPs MUA, then backing out now is quite obnoxious. Also, in the OH post the one with the candy apple hair, the OP says that she basically begged to be a BM. So I mean if someone begged me to be a BM, then I feel like they could honor the wish of the hair. But ONLY IF I didn't originally pick them. If I had already asked my girls, that's different.

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You seem to be making everything about my wedding your business and for you to pick apart. Do you need an entire break down of my cost of my whole wedding and the actually cost for my bridal party well its under $100 for your information. I am glad you are so worried about how much I am spending per plate of food. I am not have a black tie formal wedding.

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Thank you for being kind. My wedding isn't super informal but it is not black tie either we wanted to celebrate a really big day in our lives and our children all becoming one family with everyone who means a lot to us I am sorry if it seems to be a lot of people but there is more to our story than need to be told on here. I am unsure why A.L really need to get every detail and to tell me its not up to WW standards I would love to see the page on here the dictate what is require by wedding law, I thought wedding were about love and celebrate a marriage.

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Thank you Jennifer for being kind, clearly this post have gone extremely off topic entirely to the point of picking apart my entire wedding day, and informing the that there are REQUIRED WW LAW that need to be followed or I will get the side eye form A.L

View Quoted Comment Right, and the context was “if I’m not requiring this lavish things that I don’t get to require anyway, they can at least do these other things that I really shouldn’t require of them.”

This. This says it all.

There are 4 pages of people with pretty just reasoning to because of my own poor wording and misspelling. I am asking why is it your business where I am having my wedding, who is working my wedding, the food I am serving, the total cost of my wedding, the open bar at my wedding when none of those have anything to do with requiring or not requiring my BM's to have there hair and make up done professionally.

Which I am not and thank you to those who gave me good options on what to do whether I pay for it, put the money I did put down toward my own or so on. I am no requiring my friend to dye her hair, nor am I am I going to force anyone to pay for something, even more so if it is so costly.

Literally everyone is telling you the same thing. Have a great day.

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I still again did not say I am forcing them to do anything. Also dress and shoe I can require which again I did not or am not require they all buy the same dress or even buy shoes only thing I have asked truly of my entire party is that the dress be long and red!

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The first 3 pages were not people talking about her wedding reception at all. It was about BMs. So, not everyone is telling her the same thing. Are you having a bad day?

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Who else is picking apart everything detail of my wedding. One person asked where I am getting my food and where I live mostly like to see if its near them to use the same. Otherwise no one on here is telling me I will get the side eye for food choice or cost and that I am not following WW etiquette as you repeatedly have. Also that no one needs to have 400 people and again so on it literally is only you!

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Apparently you are. I'll just flag your comment.

Haha, you think me asking you if you're having a bad day is offensive?

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Can we Flag her? I am still confused to her point other than I don't need 400 guests or to have a taco bar because she would give me the side eye. Mrs. Blah you have been nothing but helpful even the people who originally posted had more than reason for there answers. Thank you Mrs. Blah and like I have stated I did word my question horribly and the other post are more than justified, how I put the OP sound horrible and also make me seem like a horrible friend.

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I was asking where you live because of the cost of food. i am in california and have a caterer doing brunch food, i have NO interest in using your person for your taco buffet. the cost depends on where you live - NO WHERE in california would you be able to get a caterer for anything for $7/head - i was assuming you lived somewhere in the midwest, hence why i was asking where you were. but even then, $7 is crazy cheap.

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Sorry, Yes I live in Illinois so small farm town, my town is only 10,000 people food cost here for wedding can be high if I was doing a super formal plated dinner catered from out of town.