How do you handle bridesmaid drama.

The only problem was about the appointments and deposits which from the people who answered without trying attacking me where helpful. Clearly I don't want to make anyone feel forced into anything or into paying anything. Yes maybe I did jump the gun on the appointments but sorry excitement got the best of me at the time, and also the weekend we are getting married a lot of services are already booked I am many email response on here from makeup artist that were pre-booked for that date its labor day weekend and also a balloon fest where I live. So thank you for everyone for the help and I will def try and put the money toward my own stuff if they want to do there own or whatever the case is.

$15,000 for 400 people is less than $40 per person, including tax and tip. I guess it's possible to have a meal and open bar for that amount, but it's unlikely if you live in any metro area. Anyway, that's off the point. Don't require people to pay for things you are insisting on. Don't mention anyone's hair color.

That is totally irrelevant. She can have a 400 person wedding if she wants.

The only problem here is that in her OP, it seemed she was requiring her BMs to pay for HMUA. In other posts, OP said they asked for it and she merely made the reservation and put down a deposit. We don't know which one is actually true, but there is no need to judge the size of her wedding.

Again venue is a family members space who is nice enough to help us and food is $7 a person, open bar is a semi limited selection( rum, vodka, beer which will be bought wholesale and sorry my MIL fave peach champagne also no super costly) so way more than possible. And again I not require I have stated I worded it horribly. From the beginning I was asked for these things, minus the hair color which I am not MAKING her change.

Yep, that's why I said it was off the point.

$7 a person????? can i ask what food you are serving? and where you are located? i have never ever heard of food costing that little for a professional caterer before in my life, even in low cost states.

Sorry for my OP I did word it badly and corrected it many times after I couldn't figure out how to edit the original. Below is a copied message of my actually problem. I will make sure if I ever post again that I word it correctly in the first place. My apologize for that misunderstanding caused on my behalf.

The only problem was about the appointments and deposits which from the people who answered without trying attacking me where helpful. Clearly I don't want to make anyone feel forced into anything or into paying anything. Yes maybe I did jump the gun on the appointments but sorry excitement got the best of me at the time, and also the weekend we are getting married a lot of services are already booked I am many email response on here from makeup artist that were pre-booked for that date its labor day weekend and also a balloon fest where I live. So thank you for everyone for the help and I will def try and put the money toward my own stuff if they want to do there own or whatever the case is.

I am doing a taco bar buffet style and we have a lot of very good local restaurants( 5 that I can think of off the top of my head and I only live in a town of 10,000 we clearly love tacos) so the prices are very competitive. I know a wedding I was in for my maid of honor had people come cook you tacos on site from a vendor in Elgin, IL and it was $10 a person.

Agreed with this.

Having family members provide any work on your wedding day is against WW etiquette, and I would extreme side eye $7 per plate.

So the only food you are having is tacos? i just can't get over the $7/plate. that seems so insanely cheap to me.

Did i miss something about the OP saying family members were working on her wedding day?

She says the venue is run by her family.

I would hard pass the taco bar. Taco bar food is for like a late night snack, not wedding dinner.

She didn't say family will be working. She said the space was lent to her from a family member. That is not against WW etiquette. Like if you did your wedding at your parent's backyard, that is not making them work.

Seriously AL? Her wedding can be informal. Stop trying to find issues where there are none.

OP's wedding will not have family members work, there's no cash bar (unless I missed it) and it's not self-catered. If it's not up to your standards that is ok. But it doesn't mean there's anything wrong or rude about her hosting.

I'm not trying to find issues. There are serious issues. I'm not the only person here who thinks you probably can't serve an appropriate meal for $7.

NO one in my family is working!! When did I say that. Also there will be chips salsa rice beans other side 3 different meat. Also quesadillas for the kids. There will be sweets table donut wall my cake and so on why is any of this relevant to you? Thank for your EXTREME side eye without knowing anything again what does anything have to do with OP????

And yes you can, again I am unsure to why you are picking apart my entire wedding day from guest count, to food, and so on?

It's not relevant to me. It's relevant that you're paying $7 for dinner for your wedding and won't pay for makeup for your bridal party.