How did you ask your flower girl and ring bearer?

This site has some suggestions: http://advice.invitationsbydawn.com/2014/01/fun-ways-to-ask-your-flower-girl-or-ring-bearer-to-take-part-in-your-wedding-9753.html

Though, I would also make sure you get the parents' permission FIRST! Otherwise you could end up with an awkward situation/disappointed kids.

We first asked the parents, just to make sure it would be fine. Then we just asked DH's cousin's kid to be our ring bearer and my cousin's kids to be the flower girls. Both sets of kids were super excited.

After I asked the parents... I went to my niece (5yo) and said, did you know that me and uncle rob (that's what all my nieces and nephews call him already!) are getting married? she says, yes my mommy told me. I said, do you want to be my flower girl like you were in aunt jenn's wedding, YES!!!! lol. now she asks me every time I see her when I am getting married and if she is still 'gonna do the flowers'!

for my nephew he is 4, I said do you want to be my ring bearer, (clearly not knowing what that is) he just said Yea! and went back to playing!!!

We bought them books and asked if they would like to be a part of our special day.

The books were $10 each from barnes and noble. There is a page inside to write them a note.

I just asked FG's mother, she is my life long friend FG said No but she is 3 and loves pretty dresses and has no clue what it is about.

We first asked our flower girls permission then the mother talked it over with her daughter. It was the way they wanted to handle it and that was fine with me.

I gave birth to them lol

My flower girls are two so I just asked their moms, lol. My ring bearer is 6 and he has always known he'd be my ring bearer when I got married.

Definitely check in with parents. If they are fine with the expense, etc Pinterest has tons of ideas. I also gave a book but since my flower girl is 9, turning ten I gave her this one.

I asked their mom first, but after she agreed to it, we sent the kids handmade cards with these pictures, so they would know who exactly was asking them. I babysit for them every so often, but wanted them to have a face for my fiancé too!

I asked their mom first, but after she agreed to it, we sent the kids handmade cards with these pictures, so they would know who exactly was asking them. I babysit for them every so often, but wanted them to have a face for my fiancé too!

I asked their mom first, but after she agreed to it, we sent the kids handmade cards with these pictures, so they would know who exactly was asking them. I babysit for them every so often, but wanted them to have a face for my fiancé too!