Honoring divorced parents without offending either one

I personally wouldn't change a thing. if you want a father daughter dance that is tradition. if you are thinking your mom is going to be offended talk to her about it. I have seen some very amicable divorces. Especially with kids involved. Then again I have seen nasty ones with kids involved. I think just staying in contact with both parent and informing them of what YOU want is important.

I'm having the same issue only my parents aren't nice to each other (never were when this all started). Haven't decided who is walking me down the aisle except everyone keeps telling me how much it would hurt my father if he wasn't the one to do it alone (although he is the one that walked out I'm not sure he still had that right). But my mom is a big dancer so we are having a mother-daughter dance. Trying to keep it as even as possible.

I wil be addressing the same issues at my wedding. Thankfully my sister got married a year ago so I can learn from her mistakes. I will be having both my parents walk me down the aisle. I know there is some opinions about the father only because it is suppose to be a big honor for him but in my opinion both my parents worked hard to raise me and they should both be honored.

I have never heard of doing a mother-daughter dance. It is a little too non-traditional for me but it sounds like a cute idea. One thing to consider is what your dad will say when he gives you away. Will he he say "I do" or "her mother and I." You may consider having them both say "We do." This was major controversy at my sister's wedding so it is worth considering and talking out before hand. Also consider before hand if you will do pictures with your mom and dad or just pictures of them separate.

Good Luck!

This is actually a very good question. I didn't think about it myself since the issue of divorce falls on my FH's side. His father has since remarried, but his mother despises his step-mom. Do I seat them on the same side? Do I let him sort it out his folks?

Both my parents and hubby's parents are divorced and 3 out of the 4 are remarried. Everyone was able to work with everyone else. In fact, my Stepfather escorted my Stepmother down the aisle! My mom and dad both walked me halfway, then they took their seats and I walked down the rest of the way on my own. I don't think anyone "gave me away". For the entrance to the reception, everyone walked with their current spouse. I had a father/daughter dance with my dad and hubby had a mother/son dance with his mom. I think that's about the extent of the involvement of any parents.

Really, it's whatever you want. Once you know what you want, talk to them (and if it's FH's parents, he talks to them). Make sure they are ok, and then you can move on.

Wow, I thought I was the only one in this situation. FH and I were engaged last September and a week later my dad decided to leave my mom. So far everything has been fine and I plan to keep everything as if they were still together and my mom is fine with that. I did put the caveat that should either date before the wedding that dates are not invited. It's going to be difficult enough for my mom as it is.

Vngb (if you happen to catch this thread again) how did it look when your parents walked you halfway and you walked the rest of the way down??? I've been thinking about that forever!

We are seating everyone at seperate tables. Both of our families are divorced so we are putting moms on one side, dads on the other. Give the BM and MOH a taser and go for it

After I dance with my dad, I am going to have a family dance and bring out all my siblings and parents and FH and his mom to dance to a faster song. Could you do something like that? Will get people moving.

Take some time to deal with your feelings about the divorce. I have a lot of friends whose parent divorced when they are adults and it really had some negative effects on them.

I'm lucky that I don't have to worry of this issue but everytime I hear of this type of problem my one and only question is, "Why can't everyone just act like an adult?" I know it's easier said than done. Time is on your side with this since your wedding is 15 months away. You have plenty of time to find what will work best for you.