I've wanted to ask this for awhile, but don't want to spread utter chaos on the Wedding Wire!
I've always had the idea that there are roles for bridesmaids/maid of honor/groomsmen at weddings. Here's what I think their roles are:
To support the bride/groom with whatever they need, within reason. This could mean emotional support, like listening and problem-solving; physical support, like running back to get a forgotten item; and whatever support is needed to make the wedding happen. (Not major things like anything involving a lot of money or major amounts of time, but within reason.)
Now on the Wedding Wire, I've seen quite a few people say that the only role of bridesmaids is to put on a dress and stand up during the ceremony. That seems to me to be kind of degrading to your friends, that you only want them for their appearance, you don't want them to be involved, etc... I don't understand how that view values them as friends.
Isn't it more affirming of your friendship/relationship to show that you value their advice, opinions, thinking skills, creativity?
When did this change occur, because I feel quite sure that there are roles for bridesmaids, etc.. that were agreed on by most of society in the 1970s, 80s, and so on? And I would say that I think there still are roles for these special friends/relatives.