Head table. Who are you seating there?

Just my preference I'm seating my wedding party and me and hubby all at the head table even though several of the people in the party are married... we figure it's just to eat dinner that after you stuff your face link up and dance the night away, after the music starts no one really sticks to assigned seats so we've asked them to suck it up for just a little bit and play nice with people they may not know

I would never alienate my BP's spouses, ever! In your case, I would have to have the preschooler at the table or deal with the parents at the table. If you absolutely don't want it, then go with a sweetheart table!

I LOVED the fact we had sweetheart table - it was one of the few times we could speak to each other during the wedding! Are you having a buffet or sit down dinner?

EDIT - Would you be happy sitting away from your spouse at a wedding where you didn't know anyone? Why can't you sit the child at a kid's table?

If you don't want a sweetheart table you could have your moh & best man at your table and have a special reserved table right next to it for the spouses & kids?

We're having our wedding party sit with us and their significant others are invited and can sit where they like, they're out going people so I'm not worried about finding them a seat.

We are doing a head table that will consist of us and our wedding party! Like Ashley said, the significant others of our wedding party members will all know other people at the reception, and therefore we arent going to worry about them too much.

We are doing a pure sweetheart table, just us. I have been to a wedding where my FH was part of the BP and I didnt know anyone. I was by myself for about two hours, and it was miserable!

I wouldnt mind sitting somewhere else if my FH was in a wedding and I wasn't...they can suck it up!

...maybe ask your MOH and WP how they think they're spouses or dates would handle it, I always figured it was just sort of expected that if you're married to a groomsmen you know you're going to have make your own friends for dinner

We are doing a sweetheart table (with our two children seated with us) and then placing tables on either sides with our wedding party. My sister, first MOH, is married with 4 children. My sister-in-law is my second MOH and her husband, my husband's twin brother, is one of my husband's BM. My husband's other BM is his other brother, who is engaged and has five children. We didn't want to separate anyone, so we've arranged to have tables, not exactly in line with hours, but surrounding us on both sides. Our table will be in the center, just as if it was one long head table, but this way, our WP can sit up front and also be with their families. Our children (daughter and son) will be junior MOH and BM as well.

We are doing a sweetheart table for similar reasons. Bridal party and their spouses & parents that are divorced with new significant others. In my opinion, I would just opt for the sweetheart table. Maybe try to set your table so it’s between all your loved ones. You probably won’t have much time to eat as you’ll be walking around greeting and saying hello to everyone! That’s just my personal preference. I think it would save some of the hassle!

We are doing just the sweetheart table. FH's parents are divorced and both remarried and I don't like the idea of having uneven numbers with us in the middle. I want the sweetheart table so we have a space for just the 2 of us to have a moment together without everyone else. Just my preference. Maybe you can set up your sweetheart table closer to the other tables so you are still in the mix? Ours will be off to the side a ways

We are doing a sweat heart table becuase almost everyone in our WP will have family at the wedding. We are going to have two main front tables for close family and friends that inclueds our WP familys.

Definitely doing a head table with the MOH, BMs, BM and GMs. I actually suggested doing a sweetheart table and my FH and BMs looked at me like I had two heads. My BM said "that's half the fun of being in a bridal party, you get to sit up with the special people!"

On that same note, 3 of my BMs are single (one is my 14 y/o sister lol) my MOH has a long term boyfriend who is really party of the family, so him sitting with her parents (my aunt and uncle and grandparents) is totally okay. My other BM is married, her DH will be sitting with their family (my other aunt and grandma). The Best Man is engaged and she has no problem sitting with his parents (FH's parents too lol) and same goes with one of the GMs (BM and one GM are FH's brothers). 2 of the other GMs are single, and the last one who is also married's wife is a really close friend from high school and she knows and is part of the group of all our other invited friends. So we have no issues there! Our who WP is really excited

We had a sweetheart table, I loved it. A little bit a way we had a long table for parents and grandparents. They didn't have to sit there if they didn't want to.

We did the Sweetheart table and IMO that was the best thing. Like you said, after dinner you are up and about anyway and noone neccessarlily stays in their assigned seat all night so you will definitely have time to be with everyone. But those precious moments alone at the Sweetheart table are great.

If you really must do the head table thing though, I would have your parents up with you. Never seperate spouses. And you said they get along.

Thanks for all the tips. Not yet sure what we'll do. FH is gonna ask his BM how his wife would feel. We'll prolly end up having them all at the head table. But I like the idea of leaving a couple seats at each table to mingle.

I HATE it when couples arn't seated together. I have been in a lot of weddings and don't even see the point of letting me bring a date if they have to sit across the room with people they don't know, it sucks.

Our table was supposed to be my 2 MOH's and their husbands (one of which was a groomsman) then 2 groomsmen and their wives. With the other 2 bm's and gm's seated in general seating with their partners. The day of one of the groomsmen's wife's baby was being fussy so she asked if she could sit at a regular table, my bm who was not dating anyone and had broungt a tgf sat with us. it all worked out.

I wanted to add that I did ask my BP if they would rather sit at the head table or with their date, as I had enough room for our BP or else half with tdates. They all said they would rather sit with their date but it was my day so whatever I wanted. The ones who sat in general seating were fine with that.

I know we will be doing the sweetheart table specifically because I want all of our guests to enjoy themselves, including the bridal party, so I want them to be able to sit with their families. In reality, you may not even really get to eat much, you will be so busy walking around and mingling with your guests. So even if you do have the sweetheart table, you won't be at it long

My situation is similar to yours. One MOH, one BM, and each has a SO who is not in the bridal party. I debated about sitting all of them at a head table vs. just the two of them with us, but have decided on the sweetheart table instead. I like the idea of having our own private table - we will be visiting the other tables, but also have a place for private respite. Seating the MOH & SO at one front table with some of my family/friends. Seating BM & wife at FH's front table with his family/friends.

Along a similar line - I wanted to have the MOH and BM enter the reception escorted with their SOs, rather than BM escorting MOH. My MOH said in that case I should buy a bout/corsage for the SOs, but I disagree (they are not really in the wedding party). Thoughts on this?

We had a sweetheart table but had extra chairs at it so people could come and sit and talk with us. Honesly, dinner didn't last that long, MOH, BM and GM all wanted to sit with their extended family. Also, it was so nice to have those few minutes we ate dinner to enjoy just being with each other. After that everyone mingled around - we went to each table to say our hellos and thank yous and when we were at the sweetheart table by ourselves people loved being able to sit with us and chat!

We're not doing a BP, so just FH and I will be sitting at a sweetheart table. If my FH or I was in a BP I would want to sit together, but no big deal.