Guest wears white wedding dress

Ehh if you don’t know her i’d just let it go & figure she’s never been to a wedding & truly doesn’t know or she’s tacky lol

I wouldn’t say or do anything if this were to happen at my wedding. I’ll have way more important stuff going on. Honestly though I would probably feel fairly annoyed and/or hurt when I first saw the guest. Because I’m sorry but it’s just plain inconsiderate or completely lacking common sense to wear a very fancy white dress to a wedding (a less fancy white dress isn’t nearly as bad, like a short dress, but the OP said the guest wore a WEDDING dress). But I still wouldn’t do anything and would just shake it off, because I’d still be marrying the love of my life that day and that’s what matters and that’s what I want to focus on at my wedding.

BUT if this happened at a wedding where I was a bridesmaid or even just a guest, especially if it was a family member or close friend’s wedding, then I’d probably say something! Like if this happened at my little sister’s wedding it would be hard not to say anything because I’m protective of her and would be mad at the guest when I first saw it. I wouldn’t make a big deal of it, just make an offhand comment about how it’s not appropriate to wear a fancy white dress at someone else’s wedding. Because hopefully it would make that person think twice before doing something that inconsiderate again. Maybe even spare her from being hated at another wedding in the future, LoL.

In any case, it would change my opinion of the person and I’d have to wonder about their judgement because wearing a fancy white dress to another person’s wedding means you are only thinking of yourself and not how you will be perceived by others and that’s not a god trait. Those of you who are saying it wouldn’t bother you or are making it sound like it’s not a big deal, are you serious? The OP said it wasn’t just a white dress that the guest wore, it was a wedding dress!! It seriously wouldn’t bother you if a guest wore a WEDDING DRESS to YOUR wedding?! I honestly find that hard to believe. Again, not saying anyone should actually do anything to the guest, but I think saying that it is something people shouldn’t be bothered by is unrealistic. I think most brides would be bothered by that and would have a right to feel that way since the guest is inconsiderate, but hopefully they would just be able to get over it and move on quickly.

I wish we could see a pic of what the guest wore! Maybe it’s not even so bad. OP can you try uploading a pic on a computer instead of your phone? Maybe that will work. I’m so curious now, lol.

Pics or it didn't happen.

Also everyone knows that person is a jerk for showing up dressed like that. I wouldn't say anything and let that person feel stupid for doing that.

Did we go to the same wedding? Lol idk it’s one of those things that I think is out dated. I find it a little odd but I’m sure the bride didn’t even notice.

Honestly, my family and friends have been freaking out over this for no reason. My mom and sister went dress shopping for the wedding on Saturday and they kept asking if certain dresses "have too much white," and I'm like what? Wear anything you want!

They've also been kind of weird about wearing things that are "too dark." My mom picked a gorgeous navy blue dress and now she wants to return it because she's afraid it's too dark for my wedding.

To me, no guest should have to worry about their outfit more than I do, and even I'm not really freaking out about it. I bought my dress secondhand.

No one is going to upstage me, and no one will confuse anyone else for the bride. I think the "don't wear white to a wedding" rule is kind of outdated, and I won't even think about it. The last thing on my mind when I'll be getting ready to marry my best friend will be other people's outfits!

View Quoted Comment I’ve know the white rule but I’ve never heard anyone say you can’t wear black to a wedding. I’m even wearing black to wedding in less than 2 weeks, it’s just a color

Probably wouldn't even notice, especially if I didn't know them.

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My mom just told me this rule!! My dress has champagne undertones and my mom wanted to wear champagne. I lightly suggested some jewel tones that would go great with our plum color, but she doesn't want to wear a color that bold. She also won't go near navy or purple since it's too similar to plum and she doesn't want to look like a bridesmaid. We finally settled on black. She told me that you aren't supposed to wear black to a wedding and I told her that was ridiculous, she can wear whatever color and if people have superstitions about that then they probably have a problem with the fact that it's a big fat gay wedding to begin with! LOL

To answer the original post: I wouldn't say anything. I'd roll my eyes but I'd be fine.

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See I wouldn’t mind if it was just A white dress. I had a couple girls show up at my wedding in white dresses and just rest of this I didn’t say anything didn’t glare nothing. But since it’s an actual wedding dress that surprised me. She’s in her 30s and has been in weddings before.

View Quoted Comment I’m not saying it’s not a crappy thing to do. Of course it is. But that doesn’t mean I wouldn’t do it. I’m a petty person. As previously mentioned, I’m not proud of that, and I am working on it, but I am. And I sure am not going to let it slide if someone does that. I can be whatever kind of host I choose. Because WE are the hosts. FH is behind me. I understand it’s “against etiquette”, but that’s not me. So many people are are focused on the bride being nothing but polite. While that’s important, I also believe (for me personally, not for everyone) that if I’m inviting you to an event that FH and I pay for and we make a completely reasonable request, yes, I am darn sure going to say something if you blatantly ignore it. So we’re not allowed to speak our minds in fear of making SOMEONE angry? That’s life. It happens. I’m not keeping my mouth shut about something I made clear I wouldn’t be okay with to avoid ruffling feathers. If you get mad enough by me calling someone out for disregarding what I reasonably asked, then odds are we won’t get along anyway once this day is over. We don’t HAVE to get along. That’s actually why his dad and I tolerate each other. I don’t smile and nod at everything just to be polite. Rant over 😂

View Quoted Comment I wear black all the time ... it’s not white so I guess I’m okay, plus not taking a chance to be publicly shammed by any bride, Just in case

As someone who just got married, I wouldn't care if someone wore white. What would bother me would be everyone talking about it or asking me about it. If like to hear the good things about my wedding. One of my colleagues dressed very inappropriately at my wedding. Her breasts were hanging out and half her bra was exposed. I noted it and forgot about it. Since the wedding, everyone keeps asking about it. "Who was the booby lady?" That's annoying and upsetting me. So, yes people are inappropriate...no need to focus on it, just move on.

View Quoted Comment I was taught that black is a mourning color. And to wear black to a wedding was that your implying your mourning for the bride (or groom).

And yes, it maybe an out dated rule, but it’s important to some people, and it seems very rude to me to tell someone, on their wedding day non the less, that you don’t care about what’s important to them.

I would probably be like what the heck..and laugh about it cause she looks crazy.

View Quoted Comment Black is just one of those colors I always feel confident in, I’ve never had someone come up to me and tell me it was inappropriate of against the “rules” to be wearing black. Not to mention men(or anyone who wears a suit) where black all the time but it’s not okay if it’s a black dress?
It’s my future cousins wedding that I’m attending, and when she asked me if I had a dress I told her it was a black tulip dress. Her response was nothing but positive. Also I never said I don’t care about someone’s wedding, I said that black is just a color. I don’t know, maybe I just don’t get it because none of my friends are control freaks who think that me wearing black is damaging to them.

Bride or Guest?

Non-bridal White dress in February sounds awful.

Lace dress

My friend and her guest

That dress is light sage not white. I can see how it does look similar but I’m sure when she picked out her green dress she didn’t even think twice about it being to light. Or she bought the dress then realized to late that it looked white-ish and couldn’t afford another so she just wore it. I don’t really see the problem here