Guest wears white wedding dress

You say you are/were a wedding planner.

I would have hoped for more constructive, open-minded, guest welcoming advice from you.

I mean, people will make their own judgements. There's no point in saying anything, and frankly, I'd probably be too busy on my wedding day to even notice what others are wearing. What are you going to do, kick them out and make a scene? That would be more inappropriate than what someone is wearing

The OCD in me would definitely be annoyed and would give dirty looks to that guest the whole night but I would really try not to let it ruin my night. After all the planning and the crazy, you never know what to expect.

Wow how crazy! I agree with PPs though in that I would say nothing and let my guests give the mean looks and say the snyde comments but to be honest a lot of my family and FILs are brutal so...

If I were put in that position I would have someone ask her to leave especially if I didn't know the person. It's my day and I don't have to be a good hostess to someone disrespecting me especially when they are just a plus one.

For real or a joke? A real deal wedding gown or just a short white lace dress because she was a clueless girl? If it was a real deal wedding gown...like, long and formal...I am sure the maids would have dealt with that crazy broad. If it was just a cocktail dress that happened to be white, well, not much you can do. Some people are just clueless and such. I am sure everyone knew who the actual bride was.

View Quoted Comment Yes, exactly! I’m sorry but I just spent a year planning this wedding and you’re going to come dressed in white and say it’s a mistake? I don’t think so. I would be so bothered by this tbh!

I think is tacky, but I would not say anything about it. There are more important things to worry about during the wedding day than a tacky guest.

Just saw Gabriel Union's wedding and she asked all ladies to wear white because they were all bridesmaids! Time out for this business of this is tacky and that is tacky....

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I guess I'll be unpopular with you. White, I wouldn't care but an actual wedding dress. Oh, they'd be gone, no questions asked. Thank you for coming, goodbye.

I don't think it's a big deal. The last thing I was worried about on my wedding day was what OTHERS were wearing. I was too focused on my huge dress to concern myself with the proper dress code of guests. I invited them to my wedding and they came. That's all I needed. She didn't have a long train to get dress or was wearing a veil so who cares ? Lol

Lol this happened to me! A guest of my wedding got married three years ago and wasn't big on dresses in general. The entire eight months prior to our wedding she was on a book/speaking tour and literally couldn't get a dress. She had her wedding dress shipped to our place which I thought was a joke...Nope...she just wore it and looked like...well...you can guess

I honestly didn't care. I chuckled to myself and figured I'd have that amongst all the crazy stories to tell

While I agree with PPs that there's not much you "can do" - making a scene or saying something won't accomplish anything... I don't agree that it's OK and that it really wouldn't have an affect on someone... I think we want to believe we are all cool and so self assured that we wouldn't care about something like this but I speak from experience... A relative wore white to my first wedding and when I think about it even now, years after my divorce and while I am planning a new wedding, it aggravates me. Why?

Because it was rude. No one is going to convince me that people don't know (in our modern culture) that it's passé to wear white to a wedding if you aren't the bride... never mind most of us don't wear white anymore... it's the slap in the face to the bride by when someone wears white or a gown that resembles a wedding dress... it just is.

Honesty I don't care what my guests wear. They know it's semi formal, but I love all of them enough that is they showed up in cargo pants (as I know for sure one cousin will) I genuinely would be just as happy to see them and not give a crap. They're there to have a good time and celebrate with us, it's not some kind of social etiquette contest.

Did she know she was going to a wedding? A little rude and very tacky but what can you do?

As the wedding planner, I have to do what the bride wants. I would have recommended that she just not stress about it, enjoy her say, and not cause a scene. If I were to not say something, the bride may want her to leave. If I escorted her out, the bride may be angry about making someone she wanted to see leave and cause harm to their relationship, and that of their mutual friends/family.

As you can see in this thread, there are many opinions and views of how to/not handle this situation. As a wedding planner/coordinator/ we always need to please the bride and groom. As a friend, we always want to have their backs

For me personally, (as a bride) I guess I wouldn’t mind so much guests wearing white or black. But to wear a white wedding gown, it would bother me. You would think that there would be some common sense somewhere. I wouldn’t say anything to the guest, but definitely to my hubby. I just think there would be better things to focus on at my wedding rather than the dress issue. I don’t think it’s ok, but everything can’t go the way you want. I was just curious how everyone else would handle this situation...as a bride/groom, friend, family member, or wedding coordinator.

View Quoted Comment Love this response!

Eh. Everyone knows who the bride is. I would be kinda mad but I wouldn't say anything or let it bother me.

I would have told her I didn't know we were having a double wedding!

View Quoted Comment I'm a little surprised at how many peoples mothers wouldn't say anything. My mom and a couple of my bridesmaids would probably have taken care of it before me. Especially if she's a plus one we didn't know previously.