Guest wears white wedding dress

Man I shouldn't have posted that picture... I really miss being that thin...

I'd def side-eye the poop out of that, but what can you really do? You can't exactly ask someone to go change...

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Why would you have her escorted out? Maybe she's excited to be able to wear a formal gown again she thought she would only get to wear once?

No one is going to mistake a teenager in a prom gown for the Bride - its not going to steal focus. It's just a formal gown. Unless your wedding is super casual its not a big deal - and even then it looks silly on her for overdressing.

Even though it's a "silly" thing, I do think it's strange and rude to wear white. It's just a social norm associated with weddings however I wouldn't do anything about it. Everyone should know who the bride is. I wouldn't let something so petty impact my wedding day... not worth wasting a moment of such a special day.

I wouldn't do anything, but I also wouldn't stop my bridesmaids from "spilling" some red wine on them.

Look, I know nobody will mistake that guest for the bride, but it really rubs me the wrong way when someone does something rude for the sake of being rude.

I don't think there would be anything that a bride can DO in that kind of situation. If it were me, I'd keep my thoughts to myself and would know that she's the one who looks ridiculous to my other guests.

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So you would rather ruin your guests evening, potentially ruin a dress she owns and have her and whoever she came with leave your event early?

Your wedding day is going to be so hectic and special my guess is you would barely even notice someone else who wore a simple white dress. And this is an extremely petty and immature reaction, something my 16 year old cousin would do.

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You wouldn't "do anything" but you'd send your bridesmaids to ruin a poor girl's dress? Talk about doing something rude for the sake of being rude.

I have an FAQ page on my wedding website that lists that as a clear no-no. I put it under the question of what the requested attire is (cocktail attire) and phrased it as a joke, but I know some people who would do this to frustrate me and will legit keep someone at the door if they do this. Not letting that attitude anywhere near my wedding. They think that if they show up like that, I of course wouldn't do anything and just accept it. Lol no. Of course I wouldn't do that if it was someone's date, but for example my FMIL's MIL did this at their wedding JUST because she disliked her (to put it mildly) and then in the wedding video, said the car is still running told her son he shouldn't go through with the wedding. Yeah, not happening. And when I send out invites, I'll be sure to note that guests should check out the FAQ

View Quoted Comment This is so cute! My mom picked out a dress for my wedding that was a base color of white but with a lot of silver detailing - similar to the idea of yours. It could definitely be bridal looking for a more casual wedding, but didn’t scream bride. It looked great on her and I loved it, but her friend talked her out of it and she got something else.

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I wholeheartedly agree. If they really are that oblivious and didn't mean it, (like a young guest's date), fine. If you're over 18 and pull that, you can't claim that you don't know it's rude and there's no way they're getting in. Nooope.

I meant that as a joke, my bridesmaids wouldn't do that either. (I thought that putting the 'I' in bold & italics conveyed the tone, but I know that gets lost in text, so sorry about that.) I know that most people on WW don't find it rude, but unless it's someone that genuinely doesn't know that rule (which I think is very rare these days, personally), then it's done deliberately to be rude and/or hurtful, and that's something that's always bothered me.

It wouldn't ruin my night, and I wouldn't ruin theirs, but I just don't think that's generally a behavior that's done for anything other than spite.

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Thank you. I was leaving trails of glitter every where we went though... I'm sure there's a taxi in Bermuda that still has the glitter in it even though the wedding was nearly 7 years ago.

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You would seriously rather waste money and be rude to someone who is supposedly one of the people you are close enough to to want to share one of the most important days of your life with them? This makes no sense to me - you might ruin a friendship/relationship and you would have wasted one or more meals in the process? That's the silliest, rudest thing I ever heard. Over what really? A silly etiquette rule that is outdated?

I seriously cannot fathom that some people care so little for their family and friends.

O my goodness! I don't know that I would say anything, I'm super non confrontational, but I would be so annoyed. I was taught from before I can even remember that you NEVER wear white or black to a wedding.

I think all white and dressed to the nines would be kinda rude. theres a million colors of dress you can wear and you know you are going to a wedding, a bridal looking dress is no need. i know a really rude girl that did that to a "friendemy": she wore a white ball gown, full makeup, hair and bling. she made sure to cause as much attention to herself that she could. . . im sure the bride regretted that invite

Not worry about it- people know she isn't the bride. Rude on the girls part but really are you going to let what a guest wears ruin your day? If it is really bad just have a bridesmaid walk buy and spill red wine on her I AM 100% KIDDING!! But thought it was pretty funny haha

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That sounds like their problem, not mine. It's their choice to be rude, especially when I'm making it clear to everyone that it won't be tolerated. If they still do it, I don't want someone like that around.

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Thank you! It's amazing to me how many people defend that kind of behavior on here. A lot of people seem to think that you're rude if you're upset by it, but that's such a deliberately rude thing to do!

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It's OOT and most people haven't been, plus a lot of the family are the kind to really google things to do in the area or where they should stay, etc. It's family-only besides the wedding party and a few dates of family. Plus most of the women have already asked the attire, and every time I've worked in the "joke" that they'll be stopped at the door if they're in white. All have responded with "of course not!" so there is absolutely no excuse.