Guest wears white wedding dress

I can see how it would be rude, but I wouldn't do anything. I wouldn't need to - they would look foolish all by themselves.

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It's the concept of them doing it that rubs me wrong. I'm not really stressed about the rest, 99% is done already. I understand that's a rarity, but for me personally, if someone has the audacity to do it, I have the audacity to what I said I would.

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What the rest of us are trying to say is that some people may wear white without any ill intent. Even if it breaches etiquette a bit - it is NOT worth getting so upset over.

ETA: There is no "audacity"! I can't believe this mindset that a person would be out to get you. It is so cynical and honestly over the top. Believe it or not, some people get dressed without thinking that their dress is going to severely offend you. It's a piece of fabric!

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I was wondering the same thing. Relax - if someone wearing white to your wedding is the biggest hurdle you will face, then that is a big score. It reflects on them, You pointing it out and making a scene will reflect on you.

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It doesn't come off wrong! People get really aggressive on here and I try not to be, I'm just explaining how I personally feel and why. I understand it's an unpopular opinion, but DANG lol. And I feel that if I put it in writing or make mention of it, they can't use the excuse of not knowing. For example, I'm pretty sure the aunts in the family are warning the cousins (under and over 18) that it's rude for them or their date (depending on gender) to wear white. They're awesome to explain that to them, because they may very well not know. Now, if they do it anyway, that's a bit of a slap to the face. It really does depend on the person and the vibe, but I at least want it out there that it's really not okay. I may not literally kick them out, but I will do something. I may call them out (jokingly, but I'd still get my point across) to the crowd during any announcement or something.

*preparing for a new round of outrage*

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Great idea, public shaming really sticks it to a "rude" person. Doesn't make you look ridiculous or anything...

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I don't think it's UO to think that guests don't usually wear white to weddings. The part that stands out is that you are making such efforts to address it leading up to the wedding. I'm still wondering why you are so opposed to it?

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I really don't mind if it looks a little ridiculous. I'm offended, and I'm doing something about it. Odds are if they're called out, I doubt they'd do it again.

If you chose not to let another person's attire affect your day, then you wouldn't even have to worry about it! Problem solved!

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I really do not think I am capable of that- it is who I am as a person. And while I do my best to improve, I'm also honest with myself. So I'm trying to safeguard myself by mentioning that I really am not okay with that.

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Is it because you think another person wearing white will take away from the bride?

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Not sure, just a hot button topic, honestly!

I'll just leave this here.

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Ah well I see it's just a personal issue! I would honestly try to work on letting go of some of those stress points that aren't important. It's such an important day that is meant to create happy memories for a lifetime. If someone strikes a nerve by doing something silly (like wearing white), don't stoop down and do something like calling them out. You'll risk causing yourself embarrassment or even risk that relationship. You should be so focused on celebrating your marriage with your friends and family.

That is bizarro. If it were me, I wouldn't do anything, because other guests talking about and reacting to "not the bride" would probably end up being enough!

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No, not worried about that. It's more about them thinking it's okay when I've said it isn't. And it isn't okay to me because I just personally feel like this will really irritate me- it's just something that bothers me.

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I'll be working on it- it's not a trait I'm proud of, but it is what it is. I hope day-of I could just drop it- that would be a big moment for me. But I need to prepare for the worst lol. Time will tell!

View Quoted Comment Your wedding day is not the day to be a poor host, and call people out, even jokingly. It's petty and childish to be upset about a color. Gracious host will smile and be cordial, and have a good time for all guests comfort. If that can't be done, you need work on yourself.

Based on other guest's reactions, they would probably know to leave. Wearing something like that to someone else's wedding is incredibly rude

View Quoted Comment My wedding is not formal but I think her prom dress is a little over the top. I find it rude as well when she is telling she wants to wear it and I've asked her continuously not too. This is her prom dress!