Grandma wants to wear ivory...

Yeah, my grandmother just had a stroke and if she's able to make my wedding if she wanted to stand next to me in a wedding dress while I hold her hand, she can it would mean the world for her to just be there.

We don't have any grandparents alive or well enough to come to our wedding.. but if we did they could wear whatever they wanted.

I would be so happy if my grandma was still here to come to my wedding. Let her wear ivory.

My grandmother on my mother's side passed away when I was eight years old and I was extremely close to her. What I wouldn't GIVE to have her ask me that and I would tell her yes and if she wanted help picking out accessories to match.

My grandmother on my father's side's every day attire is wearing my deceased grandfather's old clothes. If she wants to come to my wedding wearing that then I would be happy because she's the only grandmother I have left and I just want her there.

You asked for advice and opinions on how to handle it. My advice is to move on and let it go. If your grandmother was on her death bed I would hope the last thing you'd be worried about is what she plans on wearing to your wedding.

Lastly, you don't get to dictate the types of responses you receive. If you don't like how the opinions are being delivered to you, then maybe you should have kept this off an online public forum.

My response wasn't directly to you. Chill out

Oh and to your comment about wearing white in November - you've never heard of winter white?

I'd let our mothers or grandmothers wear white or ivory if they wanted. In a way it's their special day too.

I think I get where you are coming from OP. Its one of those things that if granma showed up in the pantsuit, without saying anything, you probably would not have given it a second thought. It is when people ask you, you are kind of like, well should I care about this? It kind of throws you off

I think you know what is best, just give her the pass.

It's.................... your freaking grandmother. Let her be comfortable and feel pretty in her ivory pantsuit.

Wow

Grandma gets a pass and can wear what she wants

If my grandmothers wanted to wear ivory or hell white, I'd let them. But they have both passed.

so my advice:

If my grandma was still alive, she could have worn a snow white ballgown for all i cared, just so long as it meant i got to have her there.

@Sloth - and who the fuck are you directing that to? If it was me, I don't give a shit if it wasn't directed to me. This is a community here, so I don't give a shit if you're talking to someone else. I'm talking TO YOU.

Get your priorities straight - this is not a crisis.

OP's grandma be like

OP - It's nice that your grandmother asked. I wonder why she asked? Is she having second thoughts about her outfit? Or is she just being polite? Either way, I think as long as she's happy, she should be able to wear whatever. You'll look fabulous in pictures together!

I personally don't get hung up on the no white at a wedding and I especially don't believe in the no white after labor day crap! Every single guest could show up in white and I wouldn't be bothered. Let grandma wear her pantsuit minus the shawl.

FHs mom wore a sparkly ivory dress to our wedding. I don't always love her, but she still got a pass. Grandma can do whatever she wants!

ETA: we had 2 other guests in all white. Didn't even phase me. You won't notice on the day!

I love the shawl idea! I also agree with the others, Gma gets to wear what she wants.

Yeah, assuming you are on good terms with this grandma (not all grandmas are created equal after all), I'm with everyone else. DIg deep, forget 'how it will look in the pictures' and just be glad your grandma is alive and well enough to come to your wedding.