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Fiance(e) Friday! Yin & Yang: are you and your SO similar or opposites?

Kelly, on October 12, 2018 at 10:05 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 37
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Do opposites really attract? Or do your similarities bring you closer together? In your relationship - do your differences perfectly complement each other and balance you both out, or were you looking for someone similar to you?

Are you and your fiance(e) more similar or are they the yin to your yang?


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  • c
    Super May 2019
    c ·
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    I'd like to say we are different, but honestly we are similar in a lot of ways and have a lot of shared values. BUT we are different enough that it's not monotonous or we just walk all over each other. There's a ton of respect with regards to our differences.

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  • E
    Dedicated June 2019
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    My fiancé and I are complete opposites. He’s very outgoing and makes friends wherever he goes and I’m very quiet and shy. He’s also very carefree and go with the flow and I’m complete type A personality. It totally works for us though! We definitely balance each other out.
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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie Online ·
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    We're so similar!! In a lot of ways we balance each other out well - but some of our weaknesses are the same (which stinks!)

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  • C
    Super October 2018
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    I think we have a good mixture of both! We are pretty similar in our likes, but in our differences we balance each other out.
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  • Gen
    Master June 2019
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    We have very completely opposite personalities... he’s the most outgoing, friendliest, biggest extrovert of all extroverts haha and I tend to be pretty introverted keep to myself more. But that's a really good thing I think, because I've dated other introverts before and it was never good for me, I'd just completely isolate lol. I definitely need to be with someone extroverted who will push me to go out and be more social!


    I’m also very Type A and he is extremely laidback, so our flaws are complete opposites too... I’m very high-pressure all the time and easily overwhelmed, and he can be a tad lazy sometimes. But it works out super well for us because I motivate him and he calms me down! Lol.

    We do have pretty much identical values and beliefs, and the same vision of our future, which I think is the most important thing! In terms of interests and hobbies, all we have in common is similar taste in TV shows, country music, and wine hahaha, but that’s enough for us to bond over! And we’re both always open to doing things that interest the other one, even if we’re not hugely interested. Having some different interests from him has made me more open to new experiences!

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  • Alyssa
    Super July 2019
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    We are the same. While we have some very minor differences, we often joke that we are the same person. I've never met anyone I had more in common with. We even have childhood experiences in common even though we grew up in different states.
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  • Megan
    VIP January 2019
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    We balance each other but have a lot of similarities too. Our values and lifestyles are pretty similar, but I'm strong headed, organized and over the top and he's mild, flexible and laid back. But he's calmed me down a lot and I've helped him learn to get his s**t taken care of.

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  • Kelly
    Legend October 2022
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    That sounds like the perfect balance! Would you say he brings out a more outgoing side in you? My parents were the same balance and my dad said that my mom would bring out his more social side!

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  • Abby
    VIP March 2019
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    We're similar in that we have a lot of the same interests like music, movies and things we find fun, yet very different in that he's quite the extrovert who can get along with everyone whereas I'm an introvert who is most comfortable being at home.
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  • E
    Dedicated June 2019
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    Oh absolutely! I find myself being way more social and confident when I’m around him!
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  • Kelly
    Legend October 2022
    Kelly ·
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    Awww I love that! I definitely agree, I think you can have totally different personalities but when it comes down to it the important thing is that you share the same vision of the future and what the relationship is!

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  • Future Mrs. Petro
    Devoted November 2018
    Future Mrs. Petro ·
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    He is the yin to my yang! We have the same values but we totally balance each other out 😊
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  • Kelly
    Legend October 2022
    Kelly ·
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    Love it!! It's nice to have a partner that can balance you out by having a different personality!

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  • Happily Ever Mrs. H
    VIP October 2018
    Happily Ever Mrs. H ·
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    My husband and I are very similar, yet very different at the same time. We have a lot of similar thoughts and feelings on things, but also completely compliment one another in other regards. We're both introverts (although I am more social than he is), we're both homebodies, we both love animals, we have similar tastes in movies and food, we both have a lot of driving pet peeves, we both value honesty and loyalty, etc. But he is more of a logical, level-headed type whereas I am more of a creative, open-minded type. He is more pessimistic, and I am more of a realist. Our political views are very different, but neither of us get very political. I'm more of a free-thinker, Independent, and he has a lot of blinders, and close-minded. Although, we both have similar views on religion, I am just a tad more extreme in mine than he is. He is more apathetic and agnostic in his. I am always reading and learning about new things, whereas he is mostly only interested in what he knows. I think he is a very good ying to my yang, or however that works! lol

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  • Mrs. Sarantos
    Master November 2019
    Mrs. Sarantos ·
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    We are definitely opposites but we help each other. He is logical and spirited, I am calm but emotional.
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  • Amanda
    Expert October 2019
    Amanda ·
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    We are so similar, yet we are so different! We typically enjoy & don't enjoy similar things. He is a social butterfly who can make friends with anyone & everyone. I am the complete opposite I become shy in a crowd & hide behind him 😂
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  • Molly
    Savvy March 2020
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    I agree completely! I am also the introvert and dating my FH has made me more comfortable with myself especially around other people. Though I can't agree with liking country music! Lol

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  • ashleyp76
    Savvy June 2019
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    In many ways, my fiance and I are similar. We are both introverts, observers, creative, have similar interests and beliefs. However, we do have a few differences too. He is more laid-back and lazy, while I'm more highstrung. He has less patience than me. Our political views don't completely align (He's more conservative while I'm in the middle and lean towards left). However, our differences haven't caused us any issues. I think we compliment eachother well. Smiley smile
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  • Gen
    Master June 2019
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    Haha to each their own! I just like it as something he and I bond over, like we have such different tastes in so many things but we always bond over sending each other new songs and going to concerts and stuff 😂
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  • AMANDA
    Dedicated January 2019
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    We are complete polar opposites. Like, in almost every sense of the term. But I have loved this man since I was 14 years old, and have never, ever, loved another like him in all my life. And I can say that because we were together from the time I was 14 until I was 22. Then I married someone else almost immediately after splitting up with him (which was an enormous mistake - I did not love him), and then wound up divorced after 5 years because that man did nothing but cheat on me. After divorcing, I dated for a while, but I could not love anyone like I remembered loving FH. Amazingly, my FH lived the exact same parallel story (like eerily similar...to the point it sounds like the twilight zone) and we wound up reconnecting after 10 years. We have been back together for the past 7 years, and we knew 7 years ago as soon as we saw each other that a wedding was in our future. So yes, he is my polar, complete, total opposite - but most definitely the love of my life I know I will never get anywhere else. I know people are like **barf** when they hear us say things like we love each other so much we literally get sick from it....but it is the truth. So sometimes polar opposites is a very good thing!

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