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Fiancé(e) Friday! When did you know they were "the one"?

Maggie, on October 26, 2018 at 10:05 AM

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When did you know your fiancé(e) was the one for you? Did they survive and thrive when they met your parents? Did they send you a heartfelt text when you really needed it? Did it seem like they were always reading your mind? How did you know? Photo by Jay Zhang Photography in New York Come tell us...

When did you know your fiancé(e) was the one for you? Did they survive and thrive when they met your parents? Did they send you a heartfelt text when you really needed it? Did it seem like they were always reading your mind? How did you know?


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Photo by Jay Zhang Photography in New York

Come tell us more about you and your FS in these community discussions: What was the last text you sent your fiancé(e)?, Yin & Yang: are you and your SO similar or opposites?, and Do you believe in soulmates?


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  • Nafisah
    Super May 2019
    Nafisah ·
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    May sound corny...but as soon as he pretended he didn't know my name, I knew this was going to be a fun ride 😂
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  • Tbear
    Devoted October 2019
    Tbear ·
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    The very first kiss on our first date.

    Firstly, I didn’t realize that our first date actually WAS a date. He was this devestatingly handsome guy in the community, I thought that we were merely networking. I didn’t realize that it was a date until he grabbed my hand to hold it on top of the table. I totally did the “confused puppy” head tilt.
    Then later, he walked me to my car and we kissed. And kissed. And KISSED. When it came time to leave, I climbed into my car and had to sit there and calm myself down from all of the butterflies in my belly.
    I kid you not, that snogging session was like watching fireworks explode behind my closed eyes. All I could think of was “What the HELL just happened?”
    I was at the time, happily single and enjoying my life... and then he came outta nowhere! This charming, stunning, caring and thoughtful man. My joy. My love. My bear.
    I thank my lucky stars that he felt the same way that day and every day after.
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  • Alejandra
    Just Said Yes January 2019
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    I really didn't lol
    So we dated for about 3 months and I tried really hard to stop talking to him, he was shy and didn't really talk a lot. He was also very sweet so it was hard for me to just put his feelings to side. Anyways, after those 3 months I had a really long discussion with my older sister and she pretty much convinced me to give him a real shot. I did. I was also never one who wanted to get married (parent marriage trauma) etc.... he proposed to me a year and a half into our relationship and I said yes. We have been engaged for the past 2 years and *officially* (as of 2 days ago) booked our wedding venue. Everyone always asks for these amazing stories on how they knew their lover was "the one".... but in my case I didn't really know. We have an amazing life together and he makes me extremely happy. I figure just go with the flow, take it a day at a time and be happy Smiley smile
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  • Katie
    Beginner November 2019
    Katie ·
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    Absolutely. I don't believe there is only one person for everyone. I believe that you choose someone and then spend the rest of your life making that same choice again and again. I constantly make the decision to be with him, choose him, love him.

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  • Laurel
    Dedicated March 2019
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    I knew that my partner was the one when I would get really emotional thinking about how my life would be like without him. I couldn't imagine it. I would get emotional when he would do the little things. Like kisses on my forehead, brush away hair from my face, assume the position where I can curl up on his chest and listen to his heartbeat. He has treated me better than anyone else has. I wasn't sure about this man I was letting in my life at the beginning, but I found an amazing man, who truly wants to be loved and return that love to his partner. He is weird in all the right ways. He is my best friend and the first person I want to tell about the news I've got to share. He loves me for me and thinks I am perfect. I wish we could all see ourselves, by the way our partner sees us. What a wonderful world it would be.

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  • Rachel
    Super May 2019
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    I had a feeling right away that he was going to be someone special in my life, even if just as a friend.

    But it was 4 months later, during my second visit to him in Canada (we're long distance). He was taking me on a little road trip, I had no idea where to. We were out in the country somewhere, and on the way there I saw an field full of sheep and, like I do every time I see any animal, got very excited! He immediately whipped the car around, pulled up near the field and said, "Let's go say 'hi'". (He grew up on a ranch in Canada and apparently this isn't out of the norm)

    We walked up to the fence, the sheep came over, and it was just a really special moment for me.

    Our adventure turned out to be in a little town called Torrington. They have a stuffed gopher museum there (all gophers were found dead, none were harmed in the making). I can't describe this place, you'll have to look it up to understand. But it was literally a village of like 3 streets that had a 1 room museum in the middle. All of the fire hydrants were painted into gopher characters and they all had back stories.

    We walked around looking at all of the gopher displays, then found and discussed all of the gopher hydrants. Afterwards we grabbed a quick lunch at the one place in town you could do so. It was their local pub, banquet hall, casino, and inn all in one. We were the only ones there and just had such a great conversation full of laughter.

    I sat there and thought about the day while watching him tell a story and I just knew I was done for. Between the simple gesture of turning around so I could see the sheep to being amazed at how much fun we had doing the most ridiculous things, I knew he was the one for me and that I was going to do everything I could to keep him in my life.

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  • caitie-lyn
    Dedicated January 2020
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    I knew on our first date. I have social anxiety so talking to anyone can make me nervous, but talking to someone I'd just met who would no doubt be judging me because we are on a date was absolutely terrifying. He was completely fine with my awkwardness and how quiet I was. i could tell that he was trying so hard to ask questions and get me talking. By the end of the night I really started to feel comfortable, which was a big deal for me. Everything seemed great, except for the fact that in two weeks I'd be moving out of town for the summer because the school year was over. I got a sinking feeling that it wouldn't work because he wouldn't be willing to travel the extra distance for us to see each other, but he didn't even question it. We went back and forth on weekends visiting each other and the couple months until I moved back to school flew by. Having someone be willing to take a try at a longer distance relationship for a short time just based on our first date was very special to me.

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  • Laurel
    Dedicated March 2019
    Laurel ·
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    Such a cute story! Thank you for sharing!
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  • Alyrae
    Super February 2020
    Alyrae ·
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    Back in high school where we first met .... he would stay after school when I was in play practice and we would hang out. I knew he was the one the moment we first kissed in the hallway at school
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  • Anum
    Just Said Yes May 2020
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    Beacuse he is the kindest and the most sweetest person I ever met in my life. After the first date I knew he is the one but i wasn't ready lol took him some time to convince me I am very hard to convince
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  • A
    Just Said Yes August 2019
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    I knew Christian was the one when he helped me feed my horse in the evenings while I worked. I would apologize profusely about the inconvenience, since it was a 40 minute drive for him, and he just told me he didn't mind because he loved spending time with my horse. My horse means everything to me and for him to show that kind of commitment and affection towards something that means so much to me, well I knew he was the one.
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  • Chelsea
    Beginner July 2020
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    Besides the obvious of him being the super hot, popular, sk8er boi, that everyone had a crush on in middle school? Honestly over the course of time, I think it just happened. We were friends for so long, I just honestly never saw us being where we are now. I think everyone else saw it because of the way we acted towards each other, but he was my best friend, and I just didn't think it would all of lead to this. I am undeniably thankful for us and where we are now and I could not be more grateful for the relationship we do have. I love you forever baby boy
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  • A
    Beginner March 2019
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    I have known my fiance for 19 years but, never looked at her in a romantic way. Last year I separated from my now ex-husband and I went to a friends house so I wouldn't have to be alone. My fiance and I sat on the back porch, talking about the old days and getting to know each other on a personal level. The next day we were getting ready for our 4th of July party, she leaned in to kiss me and here we are today. I have 2 kids and I don't trust many people with them. We had been together for about 2 weeks and my daughter slipped coming down the stair of the front porch. She hit her wrist and it swelled up pretty bad. We were on the way to go fishing when the incident occurred and my daughter told her to go that she would be ok. By the time we got to the fishing hole, it was swollen and tight, I didn't want to ruin her fishing trip so, I told my daughter we would sit in the car until they got ready to go. My fiance gets out of the car, goes to talk to her brother, comes back gets in the car and we start to leave. I asked her where we were going and she said," our daughter is hurt, I'm taking her to the dr, fishing can wait." I knew then that she was the one. We have been together since July 8th of 2017 and are getting married in March of 2019
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  • Margaret
    Dedicated December 2019
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    I have fibromyalgia, and thanks to medication and other therapy, I have more days that are easier to cope with than I do very bad days. However those very bad days mean it's a struggle to even gt out of bed, and often see me curled up on the floor, crying in pain.

    Anyway, it was just under six weeks of us first starting to date, when my fiance witnessed me have a very bad day. It didn't scare him away, like I thought it would. When I curled up on the floor in pain, he curled up with me. And that's when I knew I had a keeper.

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  • Future Mrs.Mistretta
    Savvy March 2019
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    On our first Official date.

    We have been best friends since high school sophomore year in 2011, he asked me out and had a huge crush on me since then but I told him I just wanted to be his friend (I wasn't ready, I was having a hard time in my life). He was upset with me to start but it was only a month or so until he talked to me again. From there our friendship grew to where we spend everyday together at school. He was my shoulder to cry on when I was upset or heartbroken, I was his go to when he was clueless about his girlfriend at the time or if he want someone to tell his feelings to. Through it all I developed feeling but it always seemed to be the wrong time or when we were both free we never became a real thing so we remained friends. After graduation we grew apart some, only checking in every so often until we were running into each other all the time and began to hang out more.

    On January 6, 2017 he asked me out on an official date and I accepted. The time we spend, the way he has always cared for me, the love he always showed me. I knew that day it was over and he was the one. He had been right there in front of me the whole time.

    Every day he treats me as if he is trying to win me over still. He like to call our story Friend Zone to End Zone. March 9, 2019 can NOT come fast enough!

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  • Melissa
    VIP October 2018
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    I feel like if you asked him the story would be much more adorable for when he knew I WAS "the one." For me though, I can't say there was really some big dramatic gesture or moment. A collection of little things put together really solidified it for me. Like when he told me that he could never picture moving back to Minnesota because he knew I wouldn't go with him. Or when I called him one day to ask him what he was doing one weekend and he said "oh I'm going camping with your dad " that was super cute. Or even when my dad asked me, "so...you're keeping this one, right? I like this one." (My dad has never really liked past boyfriends enough to want them around permanently).

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  • Meghan
    Super September 2019
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    Same. When I couldn't picture my life without him I knew.

    Also when I had my wisdom teeth out 6 months into dating and he was willing to stick his fingers into my mouth and help me pull out my bloody cotton. Haha.

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  • Happily Ever Mrs. H
    VIP October 2018
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    As corny as it sounds, I intuitively knew he was different from most men, and very different from my exes. I had a tendency to fall for those elusive "bad boys" but my husband let his guard down from minute one. He was so sweet and kind, self-less and caring. He always made sure I was happy, and when I *finally* felt treated right for the first time in my life, I knew it was the real deal.

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  • ChefKait
    Devoted December 2019
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    A bit odd but I actually realized pretty soon after we broke up (hah) that I had made a mistake. I tried to get us to stay friends and he was having a hard time with that, one day I figured if I couldn't get over him I would try again, see if he was open to a long distance relationship as I had moved about three hours away. I showed up to dinner all dolled up (which probably had something to do with him saying yes) and asked him if we could try again. An hour later after dinner we were making out in my car when I asked him to come to Florida with me for Christmas which was the week after, he said yes and the rest is history! Five and a half years later we are getting married around Christmas!

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  • Arkilia
    Super October 2020
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    We met when we were 15&16, we were together for 12 years, had 3 girls together, then we broke up. Eight years later we ended up back together. I knew he was the one when I realized that we could still be in love with each other after all the awful and horrible things that were said while we were a part. Now we are engaged and planning our wedding, and couldn't be more happy. The time apart made our love stronger...
    It's Amazing💕😍
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