FH doesn't want to want to write our own vows.

Consider it a blessing. Most people aren't very good writers, so the vows are boring and all sound the same. there are other good ways to customize the ceremony is to pick vows from poetry, or even movie quotes! Our vows came from an online comic.

We didn't do ours. i asked fh, and he said he didn't want too, and the more i thought about it, the more time consumming it seems. i mean, sure, all the couples hear the same vows, but each ceremony has it's own meaning, and those vows have a different meaning to each couple

Well, who does he want to have write them? Ask him to start researching vow vendors... explain that you haven't included them in the budget and you might have to take some money out of the honeymoon fund.

LOL Erica you are just killing me tonight.

i found an old Celtic ceremony and altered it. It even included the ministers part so I basically control the length entirely. Unless Pastor Bob decides to go on a tangent, which is entirely too possible but we love him so that's ok.

There's... VOW vendors? Really?

Umm... apologies for my odd sense of humor. As to my knowledge, vow vendors do not exist.

Vow Vendors, the new niche market.....

If your fiance isnt comfortable writing vows I wouldnt press it. It sounds like he is being open with you and letting you know what he would rather not do something on this special occasion. Forcing it may make him resent it and taint the ceremony for himself. We had a couple this last weekend that didnt say any vows. They were so concerned about messing up that they dropped them all together. It wasnt a big deal for them. An idea might be for you both to do the repeat after me traditional vows and then at some point in the service you could say a short loving speach telling your S.O. how you feel about marrying them.

Frankly, I'm writing vows because FH really, really wanted to, but I'm not thrilled about it. I sympathize with your FH. I don't want us to be all gross and schmoopy in front of an audience (or try too hard to be funny)--I just have this vision of it being like a bad open mic.

Thank god I don't have to add that to my list of stuff to do! I'm the say way, Rick wanted us to write our own vows and I knew it would sound corny coming from me. The officiant we have has about 6 different ceremonies, romantic, spiritual etc. and we just customized one we loved.

Erica, that's hilarious. My super budget-consciencious FH would flip if I told him we had a vow vendor! But I bet most FH's wouldn't catch on! You could spend the "vow" budget money on shoes.

We're writing our own... FH is a bit nervous and so am I but this is the second time around for me and I really want my FH to know my sincere affections and commitment to him. This said, you don't have to write your own vows to express the same thing.

I don't want to write ours either. I wanted FH to write our ceremony but he preferred to let our pastor handle it 100%.

Wow...so glad FH didn't suggest thing, i'm planning the good old do you take this woman/man to be your lawfully wedding husband/wife ones. Not really a big fan of public displays of affection (yeah, I get the wedding is just a big PDA). Sorry to hear you are disapointed...maybe you could do this privatly before the wedding ceremony (maybe after the rehersal share privatly written vows...then there is no public pressure for them to be super awesome and meaningful, but you can get to hear them and know what he would say...just a thought!)

My FH and I are not writing our vows, I brought it up to him but I think we were both just as relieved that neither one of us wants to write them. I don't think it's a bad thing that your FH doesn't want to, he still loves you. Maybe you could research online at traditional vows and piece together vows that you two like and use that. I think I saw on here that there is a Vow Vender that could be an option but I would search online at all the free stuff first. GL

Mine doesn't have a choice-he's doing them whether he wants to or not.i know-im bridezilla, hear me roar.

I gave this a passing thought, but didn't even bring it up. I'm the better writer, which would work against FH, but we are both very shy and naturally quiet and I doubt it would come across well. And, knowing me, I would be able to write something really great - and then freeze up and not be able to actually read it. And, I'd be too afraid it would sound "stupid" in front of people.

As stated above, I think there are other ways to personalize a ceremony. I do, however, intend to write a personal, private set of vows that I will give to my FH when we are alone and will be just for the two of us. I hope he will follow suit, but that will be his choice.

It was my FH's idea to write our own vows. I was OK with not writing them. I agreed and have written mine. FH has yet to write his. He is not allowed to change his mind since I have already taken the time to write mine.

Not writing our vows, just doing the traditional vows people have been doing for years and years.

I think my husband could have gone either way on this, but I absolutely refused to write my own vows. Just one more thing to stress about, no thank-you! I don't blame your guy-- as the others have said, this doesn't have anything to do with his commitment to you, he probably just feels like he would sound stupid in front of everyone.

We are using the traditional vows and then also going to say personal messages to one another aside from that. I had talked to my FH about it a few weeks ago and said I really wanted to use the traditional vows but still wanted to add a little something to it. The Pastor marrying was excited about the idea and encouraged it. So that is what we are doing. So their isn't that much pressure as far as that goes.

You know what the cool thing about my wedding planning has been? I'll be amped up for something but if for some reason it just doesn't fall into the plans well and I can't do it...I'm not too dissapointed because at the end of the day, I'm still marrying my bestfriend so it doesn't matter. I know cheesy. Anyway, with that said...it won't be the end of the world if we don't write our own vows. I for sure wasn't thinking of forcing FH to write vows if he's really against him so I have to think of the positives...for 1. less stress and pressure 2. i can now veto his terrible grand entrance song choice (Marriage by the descendants) Thanks gals!