Father physically giving the bride's hand to groom?

Yea, I'm not really into that. Seems too much and makes me feel like I'm owned by my father and then my husband. I'm with you, girl!

I didn't even have him walk me- I walked myself.

Giant bag of NOPES. Thanks I am an adult- doing this on my own thanks.

I can see how you'd look at it that way, but at the same time, it's also symbolizing you leaving your parents as a family unit to create your own with your FH.

Why is it that this is viewed this way, yet so many women want their FH to go through the act of asking for the woman's hand in marriage, which absolutely IS objectifying her as a possession to be given away?

I wouldn't do it but if the groom or dad had a huge problem with not doing it I wouldn't care enough to make it a hill to die on.

That's a little weird to me. I'm having my dad walk me down the aisle because it's important to him, but I definitely wouldn't allow that.

Sexist and archaic. Both of my parents walked down the aisle, with me. It's become the norm, in my family/social circle. No one verbally "gave me away," either, nor asked for my hand in marriage.

My officiant had my dad walk me, and then my FH come and take my arm at the "top" of the aisle and walk me the rest of the way.

My dad and I cracked up because he wasn't "giving" me to my husband, he was more like "thank god you're his problem now" (in a totally joking manner).

You know it is archaic and silly but honestly I appreciated having my dad walk me down the aisle, and our moms handed us our rings. We liked including our parents in the ceremony because it made them feel good. So it doesn't bother me any because the people in our wedding know it wasn't about selling me off to some other man, it was just a nice touch to have our parents involved at all.

@AMW, my dad has joked about having something for FH to sign at the aisle saying there's a "no return" policy. LOL.

In rehearsal the deacon told us to do that too. In the actual wedding, my dad walked me down, lifted my veil and kissed me and extended my hand towards my husband and then I took his hand.

@MNA perfectly said

My mom walked me down. She hugged me, took my bouquet, look at DH in the eye and said "She's your problem now"

Everyone was rolling with laughter!! WTF mom!

Actually, MA, I expect you'll find a lot of overlap between women would NEVER want/expect their FH's to ask their dad for their hands in marriage and women who would find this gesture to be trite, to say the least. I was 25 and living on my own when DH and I got engaged. If he'd called my dad to ask permission, I expect my dad would have called me and said, "There's something I think you should know about FH...."

MNA for the win again!

My father did this. When he did it, he looked H in the eye and said "I love you now as a son. Promise me you will love and protect my daughter as I have." I thought it was a sweet moment.

Eta: both my parents walked me down the aisle too.

I don't see an issue with it unless the bride has an issue. We are doing something similar to this and I haven't lived with parents for over a year. But to each their own.

I don't like it. It just seems weird to me for some reason. My dad is walking me down the aisle, giving me a hug, and sitting down.

I absolutely would have lost my shit if my DH had asked my father for my hand on marriage, not that he would ever do that, and I also walked by myself down the aisle.

My brother's are walking me. I don't honestly see them putting my hand in FH's. Honestly, they'll be the comedic relief more than likely with making jokes as they walk me down. My dad wouldn't have placed my hand in FH's either. We probably would have hugged and then he would have sat down while trying his best not to cry. My dad was a big softie. Haha. But, whereas it's not my style and everyone knows this, I don't see an issue with it if a bride chooses to do this. I agree with MNA. FH asked if he should ask anyone for permission. I told him he could but that everyone would probably chuckle a bit since there's only one person's permission/opinion he needed and that's mine.

I don't usually do this. If my couples want, I'll ask both sets of parents for their support, but there is no 'giving away" per se.

I think this is one of those things that being over thought. Just don't do it. Problem solved. It's not like if you don't do it that way you can't get married.

My sister says that same goat joke all the time!

I was very particular about the part of the ceremony where my dad was supposed to "give me away". I really didn't want it to seem in any way like my dad was passing me off to my new husband (I also did not need my husband to ask my dad for permission to marry me or the whole "who gives this women to be married" thing during the ceremony, I wanted to stay far away from these particular archaic wedding traditions). During the rehearsal, my dad walked me down the aisle and then I told him to just give me a hug and go take his seat. The coordinator then decided to step in and try to tell my dad that he HAD to take my hand and physically place it in my husband's hand and then walk back to his seat. This is probably the one instance in the whole wedding process where I did the whole "my day, my way" thing, there was no way that I was going to change an aspect of my ceremony because some coordinator who barely knew me thought I was doing things the wrong way. Needless to say this coordinator immediately make my shit list and on the day of my dad walked me down the aisle, gave me hug, shook my husband's hand, and sat down.

Whenever I see a bride be physically given to her husband like that or when the minister asks "who gives this women to be married" it always makes me a little uncomfortable and I always think of my sister's "how many goats is she worth" jokes. I mean, it's a very personal choice (as is everything in the wedding ceremony) and I'd never say anything about it to a bride or groom's face, but it's definitely something I wanted to stay far away from in my ceremony.