Etiquette for how to throw my own bridal shower / housewarming party

Etiquette: you don't throw your own party where you receive gifts.

You don't throw your own shower.

ETA: You seem to be very gift-grabby.

You cannot host your own shower. It is very rude to do so regardless of the situation. If someone offers you can accept but you can not plan it or host it yourself.

You don't throw your own shower. It's rude and gift grabby.

You don't.

You don't do this. Someone offers to do it for you. If you throw your own party and ask for gifts you are greedy.

Etiquette: don't do it.

You don't. I appreciate that you don't want your BP to do this, and that's very considerate, but you don't do this.

You can't throw your own shower. I think it's nice that you're thinking of your BMs and not burdening them, but they can decide whether to throw you one or not. I'm sure they'd be happy to anyway.

I'd say have a house warming party. Or maybe an engagement party for both of y'all... make him feel special too...

You don't throw your own bridal shower.

No. Just no.

I understand your situation and if you're really against them planning one, politely request no shower, and do not throw your own.

Don't.

If they don't offer you don't get one.

I do think most people throw their own housewarming though? Not sure because that isn't typical here.

ETA: Never mind, I saw you plan to combine these. Nope.

Throwing your own housewarming is fine - but you don't register for that and I wouldn't expect a ton of gifts (more like a lot of booze).

Don't throw your own shower. It's gift grabby.

I get that you do not want to burden your BMs but offering to throw you a shower is something they or someone in your family needs to do.

Housewarming, yes. Shower, no.

#giftgrabby

Throw a house warming party to celebrate your new home with FH, but don't incorporate anything wedding with it and don't do it for the gifts.

Thank you all for your input. If any of you has ever cancelled a wedding you can understand the guilt I feel for everyone that did so much for me already all for nothing. I already told all my bridesmaids they can't throw me a shower. Being that they all spent a lot of money last time to give me a nice shower and nice presents I feel it's only right for me to throw it for myself now, otherwise it was all a big waste for them last time. My last wedding was canceled to no fault of my own and my entire family is well aware, they will not be judging me or think I'm "gift grabby", it's expected when you get married you have a shower and get presents. At least in my circle of friends and family members. If anyone has any real suggestions, please I'll really appreciate them.

I've been to all of my friends and families showers and given nice gifts, I know they'd like to reciprocate.