Etiquette for how to throw my own bridal shower / housewarming party

Jessa- we support proper etiquette here. Throwing your own shower is not proper etiquette. You got the same advice on your thread. Well one of your what 4 threads today? You may have changed your avatar and username twice already today but that doesn't mean we don't know who you are. What is off-putting is when newer users start getting offended when people don't blow sunshine and rainbows up their ass and support shitty ideas. We will tell you the truth and won't sugar coat anything.

So no exception to the rule? no grey area? seems very arbitrary the shower thing. I agree, in an ideal situation you of course wouldn't throw your own shower to receive gifts!

I guess what I don't understand is why the OP feels entitled to a shower?

Is it so bad if you don't get one?

I don't have judgmental friends, but then I also wouldn't have friends who'd throw themselves a shower because they know it's tacky.

You should just forgo the shower and just ask people to send you gifts. That'll save you money.

My mistake, I shouldn't have wrote "etiquette", just wanted some ideas on how to do it. Jeez this sure sounds like a cult the way you describe this site. To be so petty to break things down to symantics, gives me a clear determination that those who only have negativity to share are not those to take into account. It's not that I offended that you're not blowing sunshine up my ass, it's that y'all clearly didn't read what I was asking. Again, it wasn't for your approval, only ideas. You don't have to agree with the other ideas, but at least they're ideas.

We're petty? You're the one who is throwing yourself a party to get gifts.

We read. We know what you were asking. We said it's in poor taste.

ETA: You also said "I still feel very awkward about it. I was also debating on somehow incorporating it as a housewarming path, to not make it look like I'm just throwing my own shower." So you know it's not a good idea, yet you're getting all pissy at us for telling you that your awkward feeling is justified?

WE READ WHAT YOU WROTE. ITS STILL RUDE TO HOST YOUR OWN DAMN SHOWER. We don't have advice on "how to do it" because there isn't good way to do it. FFS.

Oh damn. So fuck etiquette, well in that case. YEAHHHH. Throw your own shower, girl. Don't stop there either. Have a cash bar, do the money dance, charge your guests to eat their meal. Go all the way! Etiquette is completely out the window.

This is YOUR day. YOUR wedding. It's all about YOU YOU YOU YOU AND MORE YOU

I am not at all shocked you are disregarding everyone who said not to act gift grabby. We can only respond to what you write and ask, and forum rules allow a response to anything you post. You asked etiquette, you got etiquette.

You clearly know that throwing your own shower is rude because you asked for ways to make it look like you arent throwing your own shower. So what type of responses were you looking for?

Well, there were a select few that shared I-D-E-A-S. Once again, I didn't ask for approval. There are ways on how to host your own shower. Sorry if I wasn't clear, I was saying those who were petty enough to break things down to symantics on what's offensive or not, I will not take their OPINIONS into account.

Again, what advice are you looking for? If you want to throw your own shower go ahead, Im sure you know how to host a party. But if you are asking how to make it less rude, there is none. Just throw it and accept how it may be perceived. There really is no other advice to be given.

*semantics*

Well I did get advice from a select few, so I'm good. Thanks for all your input.

Whole lot of nope in this thread...

Oops I misspelled a word. I thought you were out?

Thanks "guy"

This is fabulous Friday evening entertainment. Especially with a bubble bath and some wine!

@Erin Throw your own shower. Just keep in mind, there's no way to do so and not look tacky af.

Hell, I'd love a bridal shower, and nobody is throwing me one. Am I plotting my own tacky show of a shower? No. I'm getting the heck over it, not having a shower...and that's that. It's really not a big deal. You can buy your own presents later.

If you came in and asked us what is the best way to kick someone in the shin, we're going to say don't do it, it's a bad idea. Same/same.

There will always be a few people who will tell you what shoes to wear to do the kicking, and those are the ones you're choosing to acknowledge.

You said that you don't want your friends and family shelling out hundreds of dollars because they did last time.

But you DO want them buying you gifts?

Have a housewarming without gifts. It's all about getting everyone together, right?

Yeah, well, spelling bugs me.