michelleb148
Just Said Yes May 2015

Engagement: 10 months or 22 months?

michelleb148, on August 7, 2014 at 5:17 PM Posted in Planning 0 66
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Hi all! I'm new Wedding Wire, but I thought this would be a good place to get some immediate advice. I got engaged 2 weeks ago to my boyfriend of over 10 years. I have always dreamed of a Spring wedding, so now I'm a bit stuck - do I go with Spring 2015 or 2016? I feel 2015 would be rush and I would have to get started right away, but 2016 seems so far away and I'm concerned about what our grandparents' health might be over a year from now. Any thoughts/advice is much appreciated!

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  • Kristen
    VIP May 2015
    Kristen ·

    I think you have time to do spring 2015. but youll need to find a venue and book it asap! start there and if you cant find anything push the date back.

    if it makes you feel better, im a may 2015 bride and all i have is a venue, photographer and DJ lol

  • Courtney F
    VIP April 2014
    Courtney F ·

    I would do 10 months! My husband and I had a long engagement and if I could go back I would have gotten married sooner. We had a 2 year and 4 month engagement and have also been together 10 years. The bad thing about the long engagement was that I felt like I was wishing my life away just to get to the wedding. 10 months is plenty of time to plan a wedding! Good luck!

  • Kylene
    VIP October 2014
    Kylene ·

    10 months is not that much of a rush. More than enough time to plan, you just have to get started now ... but MORE than doable. If I had been with my FH for ten years there is no way that I'd consider waiting another 22 months to tie the knot. I'd be jumping on a venue ASAP and starting the planning process.

  • Mrs Gray
    Super August 2014
    Mrs Gray ·

    About 10 months is what we did and we felt a little rushed.

  • xograce
    Expert February 2015
    xograce ·

    I had about 13 months to plan because my fiance didn't want to wait two years. I had a very specific time of year in mind due to my immediate family's travel availability.

    I thought it was daunting but the most important thing to get out of the way is budget, venue, guest list, photographer. Nail down a venue and date and build from there (based on your guest list size)

    Dresses might take a while to come in unless you buy a sample so I'd start dress shopping soon also.

  • Kylene
    VIP October 2014
    Kylene ·

    To go along with what @Courtney said, my FH and I have had a long engagement (not as long as Courtney's) of 15 months (will be 17 by wedding time) and I constantly feel myself wishing for time to go faster and not enjoying what's going on now! I easily would have picked an earlier date if our venue had one available. Get that ball rollin' sister!

  • MelissaC
    Master January 2015
    MelissaC ·

    Although we had a year long engagement, we didn't start our planning until 10 months in, mostly because we were trying to figure out a guest list, budget, and we are getting married out of town so we couldn't go shopping for venues until the mid-10 month mark. So far, it's been super easy and all I have left to book is the florist and baker, which we are doing next month! Do the 10 months!

  • AndixLyn
    Master June 2015
    AndixLyn ·

    We found an all inclusive place and literally could be done in 6 months. see whats out there for venues and options and budget etc and plan from there.

  • C
    Master June 2015
    ChampagneDream ·

    10 months is plenty of time.

    Our engagement is just about 2 years and some days it feels painfullyyyyyy long!!

  • OG Ruth
    Master October 2015
    OG Ruth ·

    You still have time to have your wedding in 2015. But you definitely need to get moving and start booking vendors.

    By the way: Congratulations!

  • Karen
    Super October 2014
    Karen ·

    By the time we get married FH and I will have been engaged for 16 months. I feel like it was too much time. I couldn't imagine waiting 22! I think I seriously spent like 6 months doing nothing wedding related because I couldn't. After you book everything with vendors they don't want to meet with you to finalize plans until months before the wedding.

    I say go with 10!

    Keep us updated on what you choose!

  • Mrs. F-u-...
    Master December 2014
    Mrs. F-u-... ·

    My vote is spring 2015. Just get on it now for a venue. I don't think my brain could handle a longer engagement. Too much wedding brain for too long of a period. Unless you need to save up, but also considering your grandparent's health, sooner vs. later.

  • *
    Master September 2014
    *Rigby* ·

    I did 10 months and it is the perfect amount of time

  • michelleb148
    Just Said Yes May 2015
    michelleb148 ·

    Wow! Overwhelming response for the shorter engagement. I'd have to say, I'm actually surprised about it. I was planning to set up some meetings with venues anyways to get a feel for what's available, but now it seems like a must!

  • Ashley
    VIP May 2015
    Ashley ·

    I am doing a 21 month engagement. There are pro's and con's to it.

    Pros:

    -I get to choose any vendor I want because no one was booked for my date yet when I started searching.

    -FH and I get to enjoy being engaged.

    -No rush on anything. I hate being rushed so that was a major plus.

    Cons:

    -The wait sucks sometimes (I guess that is really the only con.)

  • Riki
    Master August 2014
    Riki ·

    10 months

  • Tiffany M. ( Tiffany P.)
    Master August 2012
    Tiffany M. ( Tiffany P.) ·

    We did 10 months and it was a perfect amount of time. We also booked our ceremony and reception spaces about 2 weeks after we got engaged.

  • T-Rex
    Master August 2013
    T-Rex ·

    We did 8 months, and that seemed long. 10 is fine!

  • Alyssa
    Master April 2015
    Alyssa ·

    10 months is quite enough time! If you have to order your dress from somewhere, just know it takes around 8 months to get it! I had about a year to plan, and I'm pretty much done.

    ETA: We also set that date with the mindset of holy crap my grandpa is 92 and your (his) has stage 4 breast cancer. Let's get this ball rolling ASAP! I would be devastated if my grandparents weren't there for our big day.

  • Mrs.Temme
    VIP September 2014
    Mrs.Temme ·

    2015! A shorter engagement is easier because you don't have as much time to second-guess yourself and you get to be married sooner!

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