Dollar Dance gifts?

Please dont do a dollar dance, they are awkward and tacky.

I honestly want to know how much money are we arguing about here? How many dollar bills can you actually fit on your dress and all those pins?? $50? $100??

OP: "How should I have my dollar dance?"

Community: "Dollar dances are tacky, don't have one."

OP: "Since you won't answer my question seriously, I'm leaving."

Community:

Double post.

Oh please, OP. "I'm not going to utilize this site anymore because I didn't get the answers I want! Wah!"

Grow up. You got the consensus that, unless you and your FH are from a culture where the dollar dance has meaning (Polish or Filipino), then it's considered gross, rude and tacky.

How in the world does ANYONE make it to the point in their life of getting married and NOT know how to take hearing their ideas/plans are a bad idea without throwing a 3-year-old tantrum.

Grow up.

Is it weird that I actually laughed when I read OPs response?

Geez Jenny, are you sure you are not describing strip club? Lmao

Sorry, I have only seen the pins one

Please don't do a dollar dance, that's so tacky.

@Patty we don't have to relax. We can do whatever we want. Don't tell us what to do.

She posted on a forum. A lot of people had an opinion, so said people shared it. That's literally what a forum is for.

Dollar dances are tacky. Giving them a gift doesn't make it any better.

I'm full blooded Polish (born and well, immigrated to the States as a tot) and I've never heard of us doing the dollar dance. I'm Polish and Catholic, so I have a lot of cousins and so lot of weddings I've been to. What we do have is throwing coins at (towards) the couple outside of the church. I think it symbolizes making money together for the first time or something to that extent, since the B and G pick up the change before going to the reception.

To me, the dollar dance seems really weird. Since each couple gives the newlyweds at least $500 in an envelope, pinning ones and fives on a dress seems really bizarre and silly.

I've never seen a dollar dance (also Polish and Catholic over here). The most dumbfounding thing to me that comes up in these discussions is when someone suggests that "OMG, my family would be SO upset if we didn't do it". For real? Like, you actually have such fragile familial relationships that this could be a real issue? I just cannot relate, I'm sorry. To me it's no different than a bouquet toss or something. You just say we're probably not doing that and move on.

Leelee different things are important to different family members. It's not that the relationships would be ruined it's that some people don't want to hurt the feelings of their parents or grandparents.

While most people find it tacky it seems to be the norm to others. Why not just say they're not done where you are or not give an opinion rather than state "those are tacky af don't do it" or something similar. Just keep it moving.... this is why a lot of people don't like to post. Just because WW says it's tacky or isn't done doesn't make it so. Different people from different parts of the country or even the world are on this site, many traditions you find tacky are perfectly acceptable or even encouraged and sometimes a lot of responses are very off putting.

Dollar dances are tacky and awkward.

@FutureMrsO, a traditional dollar does has cultural meaning and significance. Doing a dollar dance just to make quick cash is ridiculousy disrespectful to those cultures. So yes, Im going to call that out when I see it. ETA: And most peope here acknowledged that a traditional dollar dance is perfectly okay.

Doing a dollar dance when it's not a part of your culture is nothing but cultural appropriation in order to get more money out of your guests. Tacky, rude, gross.

...and asking people to shove money in your cleavage on you wedding day isn't off-putting?

Also, I've said it before, but I'm doing things WW doesn't like. I'm not about to make a big deal about it or ask for validation or even encourage it. I don't post about those things. Why stir up the drama pot??

The vast majority of people think non-cultural dollar dances are rude AF. People often think cultural dollar dances tacky as well but probably unavoidable. This was the advice given to the question. If you can't handle the potential off-putting responses, then you might want to reconsider being on the internet.