Dollar Dance gifts?

BeachyLauren someone actually charged guests their dinner and they went to the wedding anyway?!

Patty, exactly what Kathryn said. You want to give your opinion, that's great. Don't tell others to relax, chill, calm down, whatever. You should know by now that's the worst way to get someone to "relax".

@CatBones, it was crazy, she actually had on her wedding website that guests could make out a check for x per person to her of FH if they planned on attending. Ew.

She came asking for advice if she should do it (thinking we would co-sign?) but it was already on her wedding website so she already made that decision...

Yeah you should relax everyone is so rude with their responses it's discouraging to brides. Her question was whether she should give a gift or not she wasn't asking if she should have one.

She wouldn't have to worry about the gift problem if she cut out the dollar dance (assuming it's not culturally related).... done and done... both problems solved!! ta da!!

ETA clarity

I personally wouldn't do it.

Does the dollar dance have cultural significance to you and your family? If you are dancing just to get extra money for your honeymoon or whatever and there is no cultural relevance it is rude and tacky. I also find this insulting to cultures that have this tradition, since you are disregarding the meaning and symbolism of a practice for your own monetary gain.

@Beachy - I remember that! I even showed it to a friend and FH and they were speechless. I wish I could remember her name so I can go look at her wedding website again.

Also my parents used a jar for the money and not pinning it to the dress

Patty, we're not here to encourage tacky ideas.

Oh I see Patty, you're one of *those* people. Well, carry on! I know exactly how to handle you now.

Dollar dances are a big fat NO. So incredibly tacky...

Half Slovak here whose family did dollar or apron dances.

Not to defend OP but sometimes there were gifts but not always. At my 2nd cousin's wedding, everyone got a shot of peach schnapps and a cigar.

Every wedding I've ever been to in my family had a dollar dance. It's not about the money. It's just something we always do , and I've never heard of anyone giving a gift to the guests.

Jenny nailed it.

If dollar dances are a cultural thing, you don't need to ask people how to gift those who pay to dance.

If it's not a cultural thing, it just shouldn't be done. OP, people were being perfectly reasonable. The only unreasonable one here is you, who decided to run away when people didn't validate your opinion.

I went to a wedding where they had an open bar but didn't serve shots. To get a shot you did the "dollar dance" one dollar one shot. At least that's how I saw it.

If you want to dance for money, they have places for that, just sayin...

How about instead of a dollar dance, you do a honeymoon fund? Hahaha

If this isn't a tradition within your culture - this is rude and tacky and should be avoided at all costs.

The thought of accepting money from guests for a 30 second dance at my wedding makes my stomach hurt.

Texas Shannon- as a professional who also gets tipped for my work I am a little offended by your implication.

Dollar dances are tacky.

Working for money that is based on tipping. it doesn't mean it's bad- or wrong.

But doing it at a party you're HOSTING for people is different.

I'm not big on "shaming"- I think it's overly used frequently- but come on man- not needed.