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Yardiegirl
Master September 2012

Does Your Ex Know Your Getting Married? Do They Need To Know? Did You Tell Them?

Yardiegirl, on March 18, 2012 at 12:56 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 60
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I was just watching the Braxtons and Toni Braxton's mother is getting married again after years of being divorced. One of Toni's sisters said that she thinks her dad deserves to know because that is not something he should just learn in passing.

Did you tell your Ex or think your Ex should know your getting married? Does it matter that they know?

Does it matter if the Ex was a husband or a boyfriend? (Meaning if it was a husband it might mean more than if it was a boyfriend)

People have asked me if I have told my ex-husband about us getting married. I don't have any contact with him really so, I didn't think it would be something I shared with him. It's not like we are friends. I'm sure he'll find out through other people though. I just didn't think I needed to tell him. Maybe if we had kids it would matter but it was a clean break soooo....

Here's an article discussing it:

http://www.divorce360.com/divorce-articles/remarriage/general/telling-your-ex-about-remarriage.aspx?artid=3

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Latest activity by Nay-Nay, on March 20, 2012 at 7:25 PM
  • Cynthia B
    VIP October 2016
    Cynthia B ·
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    I think if you had kids with your ex then it would be something to tell them about as it will impact your children.

    As you do not have kids I don't think it's necessary to let them know.

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  • krisalicious
    Master April 2012
    krisalicious ·
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    If you have children or still share property together - then I would say probably yes, b/c that could affect your ex's life. But if it was a clean break, I don't think there's any reason to seek them out and tell them.

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  • B'Loved
    VIP November 2013
    B'Loved ·
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    I agree with Cynthia and Kris. If you have children with your ex, then yes. If you do not (like myself) then no.

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  • Kayla
    Super July 2012
    Kayla ·
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    My Ex knows only because of word of mouth, He's pretty pissed since we were engaged two years ago.....But I don't think that's any of their business because they clearly didn't make it to that point of marrying you. The only situation where I would tell is if we had children together.

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  • Yardiegirl
    Master September 2012
    Yardiegirl ·
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    I'm asking if YOUUUU told YOURRR ex....I didn't lol Smiley smile

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  • Ednabug
    Master December 2011
    Ednabug ·
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    I didn't tell my ex but he found out through facebook. He congratulated me, then kept inboxing me telling me how he was getting married too. guess he wanted a reaction...I deleted him months before the wedding. my life is not a competition with anyone else's

    as far as kids..I have 2, and they have different fathers...I did not tell either of them. They aren't around enough to make me feel they deserve to know anything about my personal life.

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  • krisalicious
    Master April 2012
    krisalicious ·
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    Oh, gotcha. No, I didn't go out of my way to tell any exes. Honestly - we just don't keep in touch anymore. They did find out on FB and the 2 major exes messaged me to say congratulations, but that's about it.

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  • MySharrona
    VIP April 2012
    MySharrona ·
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    No. He's on my FB (I didn't seek him out) but he didn't say anything either way.

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  • Mrs. Clark aka Mrs Awesomepants
    Master November 2011
    Mrs. Clark aka Mrs Awesomepants ·
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    An ex bf found out through facebook but I didnt hcare if he knew or not. As far as my sons dad, he didnt tell me he was getting married, his mother did and now that I am (hes long since divorced) I dont even have enough contact with him to tell him nor do I think he deserves to know since he hasnt been around in over a year

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  • Cynthia B
    VIP October 2016
    Cynthia B ·
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    I didn't tell any of my exs. I don't care what they think, nor do I really expect to be high enough on their priority lists for them to care either way. But I wasn't married to them (engaged a couple times) nor do I have kids with any of them.

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  • Krista
    VIP May 2012
    Krista ·
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    I have one ex boyfriend that knows....but that is only because we are still on good terms and still communicate every once in a while. The other exs do not know and if they ever find out it will not be from me.

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  • A
    VIP December 2012
    Anonymous ·
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    I told my ex, we were never married but we have a 4 year old son. I wanted him to know FH, since he will primarily be filling the father figure role. My ex has not been in my son's life very much and does not support him financially, but I did at least want him to know FH. Otherwise, it wouldnt have been necessary. Smiley smile

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  • Toni-Marie
    VIP October 2012
    Toni-Marie ·
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    I told my ex only because I ADORE his girlfriend and i wanted her to come!! But ive decided against inviting her because she is going to bring him... hahahha

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  • A
    Super June 2012
    Anonymous ·
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    I told my ex boyfriend because we have a daughter together. He asked, what color suit should I wear? I told him he could wear whatever color suit he likes just depends on where he's going..lol... sure not my wedding!

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  • Andrea  Ank.
    VIP April 2012
    Andrea Ank. ·
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    I did not tell my ex.. that would mean that I would actually have to talk to him lol

    But let me tell you Ive been having dreams that he and his parents show up at my house to try to get me to go back to him and then in my dream I tell him. lol They are really more nightmares than dreams.

    But its great to know that my subconsious wont allow me to go back to him either lol

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  • Pan
    Master March 2012
    Pan ·
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    I told one of my exes, because he is DH's older brother. I don't think it's necessary if you were never married and don't have kids together. Also not necessary if you were married, but don't have kids together. Why contact your past?

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  • Jessica
    Master September 2017
    Jessica ·
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    I didnt tell my ex. He didnt tell me when he got married last year either; however, we still have mutual friends (we dated for 10 years!) so the word got back to me and him I am sure.

    I did have one ex that we were still trying to 'be friends' and when I told him I was engaged that ended.

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  • Stephanie
    VIP October 2012
    Stephanie ·
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    I didn't tell my ex, our kids did. I never use the kids to pass info but they are older and very supportive of me.

    For the past few years everyone in our family and FH have told me that he is still in love with me. I didn't believe it until a year ago and at that point I decided it was just better to stay away from him unless I have to talk to him. He clung to me for most of our daughters wedding until I slow danced with FH. I had too much on my mind to worry about his reactions but he sure pissed a lot of family off with his following me around.

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  • Amanda
    Master July 2012
    Amanda ·
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    Nope. I am not on speaking terms with any of my exes, so I don't feel they need to know. I am sure one of them has found out from mutual friends, but I don't give a hoot. If I had kids with one of them, I feel it would be necessary to tell in that case.

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  • Toni-Marie
    VIP October 2012
    Toni-Marie ·
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    @ Edna HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA you are a messsssssss aww man thanks for that laugh but im not mad at cha

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