Do we invite his ex-wife??

You don't invite her. And your FH should tell them to stop. A good response for a comparison is, "well, we see how well that worked out".

She does not need to be invited.

And I agree with Kimi, FH needs to shut down all conversations about her, it's not necessary, and quite frankly it's disrespectful to you.

To echo PP, they should not be comparing the two weddings. Hopefully FH shuts that down. If her being there makes you uncomfortable she doesn't need to be there. Honestly, she may even feel uncomfortable attending.

Thanks for the responses! I don't think the family realizes how much they talk about her and I feel like I'm just really stressed over all the planning. I'll mention it to my FH in the morning so he can relay the message.

I personally wouldn't feel comfortable with her there, and you're definitely not obligated to invite her. If you don't think you'll be as happy with her there, then don't do it!

I don't even know why she'd want to be there. I certainly didn't want to go to my ex-husband's wedding.

Talk to your fh about how you feel about her being there and his family. You should come to a decision together

To me it's not her that made you feel uncomfortable it's his side of the family. My ex husband (rest his soul) DJ my new husband and my wedding and we always spent the Christmas holiday at my former mother in laws house where my ex and his new wife lived. We all got along. I myself have compared my own wedding to each other as what I like and didn't and that's sort of stuff. I'm sure his family really don't mean it and they may not even be aware that they are doing it. Let them see that his ex being there don't bother you in the lest. My ex wife (who made it clear that I wasn't to be at her wedding) showed up at my rehearsal which she was asked to go to the other end of the church (by family members cause they know she didn't like me). But when she showed up the day of my wedding with my ex as I was heading to the dressing room. I smile hugged them both and said great to have you both here to share in our special day, go have a seat. And I treated her like the other family and friends. So I know that burned her insides up ha ha.

There is no need for her to be invited whatsoever unless you were actually friends with her. The children obviously should be a big part of the wedding but his ex Nope!

N.O.

As a general rule, if there is someone that's had your FHs penis inside them, you should NOT invite them to your wedding.

Definitely not.

Hell to the no! Wtf

Shelby B. smh @ u.

No. Nyet. Nein. Non. And in any other language you choose--NO. It's your day and she does NOT need to be a part of it.

Nooooo way.

That would be a HELL NO! Very bad juju to invite exes to the wedding!

Definitely talk to FH. When FH and I started dating there was constant talk about his ex because of his sister who was "bff" with her (long story). I had to tell FH to talk with his family to stop bringing her up. Good luck!

So nope.

If I were her I would feel uncomfortable being there. You don't have to invite her. I think your FH will understand.