Worst thing possible

Ur right it is a big deal, if was couple wks, but not 5 months after & then try 2 minimize their error (after signing & finalizing the contract 2 booked WD) wen sending that email. I agree wit some ppl bout wedding insurance or consulting a lawyer. They should b doing everything they can 2 accommodate & damage control. They also need 2 reimburse cost from out of pocket expenses lost (ex. STD's, relocating, chairs, linen, deco etc.) that U & FH already depleted. That's y contracts r so important. So srry that this happen 2 u. Best of Luck, hope everything works out.

ETA: I don't kno wat (not judging) being F/T nursing student is like, but the way u describe it that's alot hrs (wkly) & then add on planning 4 wedding 2 mix. God Bless, girl.

If the other group books 5 years in advance how did they not know your date wasn't available? That seems crazy to me. That's completely unacceptable. I wouldn't let them move your date, you signed a contract and paid a deposit.

I am so sorry this happened! See what dates they have available and see what they can throw in for you. Also ask them to pay for new save the dates and anything else you have with them. You should also read your contract and see if anything is in there to help!

Some people on here have been cheated on, weddings called off, people dying, had major damage from storms... So hectic schedule or not, no, it's still not the worst thing possible.

Wait, if you have a contract with them then do they not have to give you what was promised in the contract? Can you push this?

I understand your frustration, I hope they make it better!

Also, OP, if you're still reading the posts here, I wouldn't have your FH going in "guns blazing" about this. The venue DID offer to make this up to you. As I said, based on my father's experience, there is a lot of bending they can do to correct this. This is, after all, their mistake.

Try to go into this calmly and express your disappointment. Explain that you've already sent out save-the-dates with the venue information on it, in addition to purchasing/renting items for their specific venue, and that your wedding date is included in your already-taken photos. Tell them that their response came five months after the fact, during which you had all of this done, and that you'd be a bit more understanding/flexible with your date had they alerted you much, much sooner. You have signed a contract with them and if they can't fulfill their end of it, then you would like to be reimbursed for what you put into their venue for a deposit and the additional expenses (they might not cover all of them, but at least the cost of the STDs and the photos), as well as their recommendations for another venue.

Perhaps ask them to reimburse you for costs like save the dates and invitations and anything it would take to change the date. They took full accountability for their mistake so maybe that's a viable option

How did they not catch the error for FIVE MONTHS? I'd probably have gone all the way off.

ETA: The best reaction? Probably not. But I'm an emotional creature lol. They definitely need to offer you a fix, and it needs to be a GOOD one.

Oh FFS, she has already said she realizes it's not the "worst thing possible" and that it was a bad title. Of COURSE there are far worse things in LIFE. But in the realm of wedding planning, it's pretty a crappy thing for a venue to do and it actually is a big deal when you're 7 months out, you've spent money, and your family has purchased plane tickets. Get over the title.

ABOUT THE TITLE... in a previous comment I said it's not the worst thing ever, I understand that, it's just a title. I'm not dead, so obviously not the worst thing ever. However, when it comes to planning a wedding, besides completely canceling the wedding, it's pretty close to the worst thing that can happen. No venue= no wedding. This date has a very important significance to us so we really don't want to change it. That's the whole reason we went over a year in advance. It's their mistake. FH is hoping to meet with them to discuss what they're willing to do tomorrow, and if it's not favorable to us, we have 3 lawyers in our family that wouldn't hesitate to step in.

I know this is so petty for me to say in all of this, but the fact that they can't even spell 'definitely' or 'settling' is extremely unprofessional.

My advice? Have them compensate any money lost (including price of STDs) and take your business elsewhere. I wish you the best of luck.

Haha I noticed that too, MrsMyersToBe.

@Diva Bride 2 Be you're not texting. You're posting to a forum. Please try to use full words as your posts are very difficult to read.

@Chelsea, even in terms of wedding planning, while it is a big deal, a little perspective is nice. Several months ago, a lot of us would have agreed with you that in terms of wedding planning, this was close to the worst thing possible. Then we had a bride on here whose FH died suddenly. Perspective.

Anyway, I'd change my date, but I get why you don't want to. In that case, I'd venue shop. Missing a day or two of school isn't the end of the world.

I had something similar happen, where my venue pulled out. We ended up being SO much happier with the venue we have now, and say all the time how glad we are the first one fell through, although I was out of my mind with stress at the time. I truly hope this works out for you, too!

I suggest that you look at alternatives BEFORE going in hostile with the venue. If you can find something - have them cover costs.

If you cant - move dates and have them give you a nice discount and cover reprinting for your trouble.

Explain to them you already ordered everything based on the contract and see if they can reimburse you. I am sure that since this is their error they would be willing to lower the price or work with you

OP, coming from an attorney, be nice when you speak to the venue, shit happens and they have offered to try and make it right. While you're initially being nice, get those lawyers in your family involved now.

Don't mention the 'L' word.

In my experience you will get more from the venue without involving a lawyer. Trust me. They want to make this right. If you make it hostile they won't give a shit. They will do the minimum required - which is likely shockingly little under your contract. And than you get to pay me $430 an hour to get you less than you could have alone and less hostile.

My dress was fucked up my a seamstress. She didn't know what I did for a living until I went in to pick up the check for my new dress and give her the old dress - and I had a full and final satisfaction waiver typed up and signed for her. She looked at me and said um are you a lawyer.

It was better she didn't know before - we both got a fair outcome and i never once threatened to sue her.

She can't host 2 groups in the same space. Work with them and get the beat outcome!

To clarify my first post (it's not letting me edit). I completely agree with Not THAT Erin. Do not mention the word attorney or lawyer initially. Try to work it out. At the same time, do get the lawyers in your family involved in your end so that if you need to escalate it you can do so quickly.