Worst thing possible

Jay,

My fiancé is going up there tomorrow contract in hand. It's 100% their mistake. If they would've found this a couple weeks after I signed, that would've been acceptable but 5 months later is ridiculous! So I'll let you know what happens!

I agree with you - it is a BIG deal. You're only 7 months out. That's not a huge amount of time to find a new venue or change dates. You will lose money and your family will lose money (those who've booked plane tickets).

I don't like that your venue is minimizing this as "a touch of bad news", when you've had it booked for 5 months! They seem unprofessional. I would be on the phone with them telling them that this is not acceptable for several reasons and if they don't honor the contract, you will be contacting a lawyer. See what happens.

They should definitely figure out a Plan B for you since this is their mistake.

If I were you I would let the venue know about what you've already spent money on, STD's etc. I would probably pick a different date and demand a huge discount. I would send a follow up post card of the date change.

Do NOT tell them to just compensate you for STDs and a deposit for a new venue. That's small change compared to the added costs you wil incur because of their massive incompetence and breach of contract.

Do exactly what Rachel said. Do not apologize. Do not be sympathetic. DO NOT go in person. Be cold and businesslike. Then if they don't respond in 3 business days, actually get a lawyer to write them demanding they pay for your reception expenses (the lawyer can tell you if it's doable to have them pay in full, or just cover all cost differences between having it there or elsewhere).

Thank you all so much for the advice! I'm hoping I don't have to go through a lawyer, but if necessary I absolutely will.

Wow I would be so mad, I am sorry this is happening to you. They better do something about this and compensate for the money you spent on stds etc

I'm still going to say not the worst thing possible. And whipping it out to measure doesn't help. I work 6-7 days at week at the moment, several of those being 13hr days. I get it, you're busy. Your venue should reimburse you the money you've spent and anything you had printed with that date or their venue on it. Start working on finding a new venue asap. At least this place seems like they're willing to work with you to fix their mistake.

I would have lost my shit. Read your contract thoroughly. Hell, I'd be lawyering up this minute, given that you already have so much money in this (as does your family). This isn't a touch of bad news... This is complete incompetence.

I would be livid. But you can call your guests that received stds and notify them of the change. Heck, as them to cover the cost of new stds. They seem like they really want to reconcile this. Honestly, this is a huge mess up and you need to hold them accountable.

This is a bad oversight. At my father's wedding, his venue inadvertently double-booked a wedding for the same date. The ceremonies were at different times, so everyone could use the outdoor area without any awkward overlap, but they only had one ballroom to use for just one reception. Everyone learned of this the week OF the wedding. The venue closed down their resort restaurant for the evening to accommodate my father's reception/private party and it turned out wonderfully.

They can't just put the ball in your court and offer no assistance. This is on them. At the very least, they should reimburse you and assist in helping to secure another venue for you.

Okay wait - she wants to make this right - which to me means replacing items that have been order - and new std.

Don't get hostile right away. See what dates they have open and what they can offer you to compensate.

Unless they are willingly offering you an option that is acceptable, I strongly suggest you meet with a lawyer to discuss your options. This screams breach of contract.

"Elizabeth K.. Have you been in nursing school? If not I understand how you don't understand. Monday- Wednesday I have class, Thursday and Friday I have clinicals... All day... From ****.... And Saturday and Sunday I have to precept, a full 12 hours, so if you can find time in that schedule please let me know. I know it's not the "worst thing in the entire world" it's just a big deal... My bad for the title I guess. "

No, I never went to nursing school. I went to medical school. Believe me, I know schedules are tough. I wasn't making light of your schedule. My first two years of med school, I was sleep and meal deprived on exam weeks and third-year clinicals make that look like a vacation. That said, unless your classes are required, you can miss a couple of hours to look at a venue. What happens if you get sick? Surely you have sick days. Even my required classes/labs understood that you may not be there every single day. Will you have to study harder later (and hopefully your school provides online recordings/podcasts)? Of course. But this is not impossible and given that it's for your wedding and you don't want to change your date, I urge you to explore this option.

Does the venue have an outdoor space?

You could possibly work with them to make it an outdoor wedding. Ask if they would accomodate that.

With so many inconveniences that you're facing, I really think consulting an attorney would be best for you. This happened to another user recently and she was able to get it straightened out with a lawyers assistance.

So sorry OP! Hope you get it figured out

Ok, The venue is trying to accommodate you, so they can pay for your save the dates being reprinted and your invitations being a reprint change your dates and your good.

Let them know you want them to take care of that expense.

At least your upcoming lawsuit will allow your dream reception to come true. Crikey. Touch of bad news my nostril.

I would expect a heck of a lot of extras and even a discount if a venue did this to me. It's not the worst thing ever, but it isn't a small problem, either. They need to fix their mistake.